The Ultimate Oral Sex Guide - Eating Out/Cunnilingus/Fingering.

Guide To Cunnilingus 1

Cunnilingus is the fine art of making love to a vagina/vulva with your mouth and tongue. It is a delicate skill, requiring patience, practice, and dedication to get it right, but any woman you learn to do it right for will appreciate you all the more for it. What applies to the penis applies to the vulva - every one is different, requiring a different touch to make its owner happy. But few tools can equal the tongue for the amount of pleasure it can deliver to a happy vagina. This article assumes that you know what a vulva looks like and can identify with some precision the mons veneris, labia majora, clitoral hood, clitoris, labia minora, urethra, vagina, and perineum, to name them (approximately) from top to bottom.

This isn't an attack. Don't go after the clitoris like a fireman attacking a fire. Quite often at first, the clitoris is far too sensitive for direct stimulation. Lick around it, stimulating the hood, teasing her inner labia, tasting her. Take your time and listen to her. Some women make noise, and some do not. It will be a while before you learn exactly what your lover prefers as far as oral sex is concerned. Some women may like additional stimulation - a finger or two into the vagina, or perhaps even the anus. She may want your hands to reach up and play with her breasts, or she may want your fingers to hold her labia apart so that your tongue can get at her vulva more directly.

If the taste or smell bothers you or is a concern, ask her to wash first. Most people who enjoy cunnilingus agree that a clean vagina is a good, if acquired, taste. As a woman nears her climax, she may want more direct stimulation. In general, fast, rhythmic stimulation is most effective at causing climax - but there shouldn't be a rush to get there. Take your time and learn to appreciate what you can do for her.

Some people are particularly turned off at the suggestion of cunnilingus during menstruation. If it is a concern to you, then wait. A tampon may well hold the blood back, as will a diaphragm, but some men can't stand the taste anyway. If your partner is healthy, however, there is no particular danger in menstrual blood, and some women find that orgasms during their periods alleviate cramps.

From: www.sex-project.com
Edited by: Jess

A Guide to Cunnilingus 2

Tongue & Vulva

Any licking and sucking of the labia, vaginal entrance, clitoris, or anal area is going to feel just great. Start your tonguing by lapping her vulva from vaginal entrance up to her clitoris, while keeping your tongue and jaw relaxed. Run your tongue between the inner and outer labia on one side, while keeping the two sides together between your lips. (There are two lips on each side of her vulva, do this to one side at a time.) Then do the other side.

Tongue Sex

Make love to her vulva with your tongue - in and out, around and around, try with your tongue hard, then soft and change the tempo often. This feels nice. Spread her outer lips with your hand. With your tongue pointed and stiff, gently flick the end of your tongue here and there. Roam around, but keep coming back to her clitoris. Be careful to not apply too much pressure on the clitoris in the beginning, wait for her signal - moaning and bucking her hips. This drives some women wild, and others can't take it.

Intense Vulva Techniques

When she's really hot and her vulva is throbbing try these incredible intense techniques. Watch her signals closely as these techniques may be too much, even when she's nearing orgasm. With her clitoris still exposed, give it a quick little suck by pulling it into your mouth briefly and letting it go. This will drive her insane with ecstasy! Take her exposed clitoris into your mouth and gently suck on it, at the same time flick your tongue over and around her clit. This can be done very lightly or very aggressively, and combined with fingering, will usually rapidly produce an intense orgasm. Try rolling your tongue into a tube by bringing the sides of your tongue up and together. If you can't do this with your tongue, you can't learn it, it's a genetic trait. Roll your tongue into a tube around the shaft of her clitoris, sliding it up and down, making a tiny vulva of your own for her clitoris to fuck.

Oral Vulva-Sex Positions

For a very comfortable session, have her lie on her back with legs spread and knees bent slightly. Lie on your stomach between her legs putting your right arm under her left leg and your left arm under her right leg. Your head is comfortably in place near the center of your attention. Your arms wrap around her legs leaving your hands free. Not as comfy but a bit wilder is this one. Lie on your back and prop a couple of pillows under your head. She kneels with her vulva facing you with one knee on each side of your head, above your shoulders. The sexy part of this position is that your partner can look down at you and watch you eating her out. Comfort is reduced for the one eating here, so you may want to start in this position and finish in the above position. Have her lie down with her legs dangling off the bed and resting flat on the floor, most beds are too high. She must sit just at the edge of the bed, lie back, and give you plenty of access while you kneel/sit in front of her genitals.

These are by no means the only positions, so experiment and have fun.

From: www.sex-project.com
Edited by: Jess

Guide To Fingering 1

Fingering is the grand art of masturbating your woman's vagina with your own fingers. See our Female Anatomy guide for a detailed diagram of the female genitals. It involves much more than just sticking them inside her and moving them around. The most important thing you can have when going into something new is knowledge. It's also very, very important to have a partner who can talk to you about this and give you instruction during the act and afterwards. This way, you can both learn more about each other's intimate perks, secrets, and desires. You'll also find that if you make her happy, you'll be happier as well. It should be noted that the guide that follows is one example of guidelines. These specific techniques aren't necessarily going to work for all women. You'll honestly need to consult with your partner on what works and what doesn't, but these will be some starting tips. Just remember to keep the communication channels open, and don't be afraid to add a little variety.

First, when rubbing her clit, up-and-down motions usually work better than side-to-side or circular. Sure, you can use the latter two to vary it every now and then, but, on the whole (whether fingering or using your tongue), up and down on the clitoris usually works best.

When actually using a finger or two inside of her (I'd suggest one for tighter girls--you CAN fit two, usually, but you lose a lot of maneuverability, and she'll be sore afterward), one of the better motions I've found is to push your finger all the way in, then bend it slightly when pulling it out, so it scrapes against the top of her insides. Not only does this feel really good, but it gives you a chance at hitting the G-spot. If you do hit it, you should be able to tell by your partner's reaction. And, trust me, you need to find the G-spot sooner or later (sooner the better), and use it to your full advantage. That's one of the best places to start consistently rubbing when she's getting close to orgasm.

That's another thing - try to be consistent. You can vary your angle and fingering style sometimes during the session, but don't change every three seconds. And when she gets close to orgasm, DON'T change unless she tells you to. Get a little rougher and pump your finger a little further into her, great. Go faster, wonderful. But DON'T decide "Hey, maybe if I completely change my angle and rotate my finger THIS way" when she's near the edge - every time you switch, it sort of knocks her orgasm back a bit, and that can be really frustrating for her. And most importantly, when she's getting closer to orgasm, if she says for you to do something, DO IT. Harder, faster, rougher, whatever - she knows what she needs, and it'll help her orgasm along a lot if you just listen to her and do what she says. This is for HER, after all.

Also, pay attention to more than her genital area. I know it takes a lot of concentration to finger a girl, especially when you're new at it, and so you sort of forget to do anything else, but it makes the girl feel better and increases her general body sensitivity if you nip at her thighs, rub her stomach or breast with your free hand, do SOMETHING. Mostly, it helps her feel like something more than just genitals to you, and that means a lot to her general pleasure. You may even want to stop every now and then (provided she isn't close to orgasm because that would be just mean) to just hug and kiss her for a minute or two. It would give you both a break and would preserve the intimacy of it all.

You can get a lot of pointers if you ask her to touch herself while you watch, and then pattern your motions after her. In fact, the first few times, you may want to ask her to finger herself or rub her clitoris herself, so that you can take care of just one of those aspects and learn what feels good while watching what she does on herself that feels good in the other area.

Talk to her during the act. Tell her that she's pretty, ask her if what you're doing feels good, tell her you want her and that you like doing this, that sort of thing. That helps keep the intimacy going, making her feel like a person and not just a vagina, and also reassures her that you aren't bored. Many women are sort of paranoid that the guy isn't having any fun at all - make sure she knows that you are. Even after you are done, fully clothed, and alone, make sure to remind her just how much you enjoyed doing that for her.

Especially right after she has reached orgasm, don't pull your finger out suddenly. Unless it's part of hard, fast thrusts (and usually even then), your finger should stay in or come out very gradually. Ripping it out all at once can be very uncomfortable or painful for a girl. Sliding it very slowly can even serve to tease, and make sure you look her in the eyes and grin when you do this. She should love it.

Mostly, it depends on communication with your partner about her needs and wants. Some girls like it rougher or faster than others. Some like more vaginal stimulation, others want just clitoral. It boils down to reading your partner's reaction and asking her to help teach you what she wants. Be willing and ready to learn, and you'll do fine.

From: www.sex-project.com
Edited by: Jess

Guide To Fingering 2

Lubrication can go a long way to making fingering a more pleasurable experience for a women. There are a couple of ways you can help lubricate your partner, foreplay is the obvious one, stimulate her mind as well as her body. Talk to her, tell her how wonderful she makes you feel and how much you want to please her. Lubrication will probably come naturally but if not you could use your fingers.

Don't just shove you fingers inside her, try applying a little gentle clitoral stimulation first. Take your time and explore her folds and curve with your finger tips. Listen to her, talk to her and watch her reactions. You may want to ask her to use her hand to guide yours to the places and pressure that give her the most pleasure. Or you could take that a step further and ask her to show you how she masturbates herself. Watch and learn, take you time and the rewards will be great for both of you.

After some clitoral stimulation you might want to try it. Begin with one finger and if she enjoys this then try another. Many woman find one finger is not enough but two are just right. As always this depends on the women, because we are all different. Use your discretion here and listen to her, watch her body and her reactions. You should be able to tell a pleasurable moan from an uncomfortable one.

Most women don't find the in-out motion that pleasurable to be honest. A much better approach is try and find her G-spot. It's located at the top of her vagina, if she's aroused you will likely feel a rough spongy spot on the roof of her vaginal wall. Push on this and watch her reactions. Using a "come here" motion will probably send her into orbit. Again talk to her and watch her reactions, try applying different pressures until you find what she really enjoys. You may want to get fancy here and stimulate her clitoris with your thumb at the same time. This can be wonderful. Another option is to give her oral whilst using your fingers. This will also help to lubricate her.

Try and be consistent. Changing positions and exploring can be fun but it can also be frustrating for the women. When you find something that she obviously enjoys, keep doing it. Also don't forget that you have two hands and a mouth. Kiss her occasionally and use your hands. This all adds to the intimacy. The key here is to not be afraid to explore your partner or afraid to ask if they like what you are doing. Learn to watch her body, listen to her reactions and be prepared to just pleasure her.

From: www.clitical.com
Edited by: Kiyotie