What Is Depression & What Are It's Symptoms?

Many of us have heard the word "depression" before and many think we have a vague notion of what it is but still we're never really quite sure if what we have is depression, or something else that is troubling us. For that reason, I thought it was important to highlight it's symptoms and causes and what can make it go away.

What is depression?

Depression is a medical illness, just as a cold and, like a cold that gets worse until it evolves into the flu, sadness that evolves into depression can be treated with medicine and with counseling. Despite popular belief, we do not have to remain in the pain.

What are it's symptoms?

There are many symptoms to depression that include:

  1. change in appetite
  2. change in sleeping habits
  3. low performance in school/work
  4. increased irritability/agitation
  5. guilt
  6. feelings of worthlessness
  7. feeling 'empty' or 'numbed'
  8. feeling overwhelming sadness
  9. feeling fatigued
  10. loss in interest in things once enjoyed
  11. thoughts of suicide/self-harm. all are symptoms of depression.

What causes depression?

There are as many causes for depression as there are people. It can be triggered by a life changing event; good or bad, such as a divorce, break up, death, marriage, birth of a child, etc. An overload of stress can also lead to depression. It can also be triggered by little things that just keep building until you feel you're in a hole that can't be helped. Depression is individualized, which means that there is not a set cause; something that causes depression in one may not at all affect another. There is also something called "seasonal depression" in which a person feels normal and happy in all months except winter. This is probably brought about by the natural decrease in light and the ability to be outside.

Can depression be treated, and, if so, how?

Yes, it can be treated. There are many ways of overcoming depression, including medicine. Medicine helps because when you are depressed, there is an imbalance in your body's chemicals and medicine helps balance that back again. The number one way, though, is counseling and talking. Other healing tools include;

  1. staying in lighted areas. Light has been proven to even reverse the effects of depression
  2. moving even when you don't want to When we do nothing, boredom sets in and with boredom, we start to think about the pain, which only makes it worse so *moving*, even if just to walk around the block helps.
  3. journal writing
  4. keeping a list that records every good thing that happens every day helps remind us life isn't all bad.
  5. becoming involved in school activities or youth groups.

How long does depression last?

Well, again, this depends upon the person but if the average person is not suicidal or self-harming themselves, then studies have shown that depression usually goes away within six months, if left untreated. However, do you really want to endure the symptoms of depression every day for six months? Probably not which is why asking for help is the best bet. With help, depression heals much faster. If suicidal, then if depression is left untreated, it can lead to suicide.

If you are depressed, are you crazy?

No. Studies have shown that the majority of the population will experience depression at least once in their lives. Depression comes from life. Though a wonderful gift, life does have it's challenging, difficult moments and because we're human, it's natural for us to be affected by those events. Depression does not mean you're crazy: it simply means you need a friend.

Hopefully, these answers have given you a little more insight into depression. With knowing that it's an illness that can and definitely should be treated, I hope it will encourage you to reach out to your school counselor, your youth minister, parent, teacher or other trusted adult for help.

You are worthy of life and you are loved.

What Is Depression? Who Gets Depressed? What Can You Do?

What is depression?

A common myth is that depression affects only those who can't manage life's ups and downs due to some personal weakness or failure of willpower. This is untrue. Depression is a medical illness not unlike diabetes or high blood pressure. A person with depression can't change his or her mood any more than diabetics can use willpower to change their blood sugar level.

The causes of depression are many but in recent years it has become clear that all depressions involve a chemical imbalance in the areas of the brain that regulate mood and emotion. Just as diabetics need regular treatment with insulin or other therapies, people with depression often require medications or therapy to restore mood and help them feel better.

Who gets depressed?

Everyone gets "depressed" from time to time because of disappointments or frustrations of daily life. After a short period of feeling unhappy or sad, however, circumstances may change and our mood improves. But for many people, the symptoms of depression are more severe and last longer. These people have a medical illness called "clinical depression" which is very different from "feeling down" or "having the blues". When "depression" is mentioned, we are referring to "clinical depression".

If you believe that you are suffering from depression - you are not alone.

About 1 in 5 people will experience depression at some point during their life. Depression is most common in adults between the ages of 18 - 44, although it may occur at any point in a person's lifetime. For many people the illness can start in childhood or adolescence but goes unnoticed because the symptoms - moodiness, irritability, and risk-taking behavior - may resemble typical teenage problems. Women are at especially high risk. Depression is about twice as common in women than in men. While depressed symptoms can occur at any time in a woman's life, depression often coincides with hormonal changes experienced during menstrual periods, pregnancy or after giving birth. Late-onset depression affecting people over age 55 is also a problem and is often unreported as it is sometimes mistaken as simply "growing old". Older people who become depressed have usually previously experienced one or more bouts of depression when they were younger.

How do I know if I am depressed?

Depression is most often associated with four types of symptoms:

  1. Changes in mood: People with depression have either a persistent feeling of sadness, or a reduced feeling of pleasure in activities (hobbies, family activities, etc.) that were once considered enjoyable. There may be a decline in having sexual relations. Sometimes depression is experienced as intense irritability.
  2. Physical symptoms: The most common physical symptoms involve:
    • Appetite: Reduced appetite, often with weight loss, is often seen. Increased appetite and weight gain may also be associated with depression.
    • Sleep: The most common sleep difficulty is awakening early in the morning. However, some people experience excessive daytime sleepiness, difficulty falling asleep or frequent awakenings during the night.
    • Other physical symptoms: That may be present are headache, constipation, and general aches and pains.
    • Energy level and motivation: Depression often makes people feel profoundly tired, lacking energy and feeling unmotivated. Some people actually experience a physical slowing down, or a feeling of agitation and restlessness.
  3. Changes in Thought Pattern: People with depression often have negative thoughts. Feelings of helplessness or hopelessness are prominent, as are guilt or pessimism. Self-esteem and self-confidence may suffer since they do not feel good about themselves. Many depressed people complain that they can't focus their attention, have trouble concentrating or can't remember things.
  4. Anxiety:The vast majority of people with depression also have accompanying symptoms of anxiety, such as excessive worrying, nervousness, restlessness, panicky feelings or difficulty falling asleep. In fact, these symptoms may be so severe that many people seek help from their physician for anxiety, only to find that they are suffering from depression.

What do I if I think I have depression?


Depression is a medical illness that can be treated. So if you think you have depression, it is important to see your doctor immediately. Depression won't go away if you try to cheer up, take more vitamins, drink more alcohol or go on a vacation. If a doctor does not treat the depression properly, it can last for months or years and can lead to difficulties in your personal/social life or at school and on the job.

Types of treatment:

Your doctor will want to give you a thorough physical examination since depression may occur with some medical illnesses, or may be caused by a medication that you may be taking for another medical condition. If your depression is not due to a medical condition, your doctor will want to talk to you about the different treatments available:

  • Medications: Newer antidepressant medications have proven to be very effective in treating depression (e.g. Selective Serotonin Reuptake Inhibitors). Other effective medication includes tricyclic antidepressants (TCA's) and monoamine oxidase (MAD) inhibitors. In about 80 percent of cases, symptoms can be relieved and people can go back to their normal routine within a few weeks.
  • Counseling and therapy: Many people benefit from talking to a therapist about how to cope with stress, family or marital problems or other things that may trigger an episode of depression.

The importance of getting help:

If you have depression, it is important to get help immediately. There is no need to try to handle it alone. There are many people and resources in your community who are there to help with proper treatment, and therefore you can go back to enjoying your life, your family and your work within a very short time.

Depression - Types, Symptoms, Treatment & Coping.

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Depression is much misunderstood by the public, yet it affects many people of all ages. It is estimated that one in five people will suffer from depression at some point in their lives. Depression is an illness where the feelings of hopelessness and helplessness, linked to the inability to concentrate, may make it hard for some people to carry out normal daily activities. Depression is an illness with a wide range of physical and psychological symptoms, which sometimes make it hard to recognize and understand.

Personality may play a part in depression. Although anyone can become depressed under particular circumstances, some people seem to be more vulnerable than others. This may be because of things that have happened in childhood, such as abuse, or because of our individual make up (including body chemistry).

A lot of effective, intelligent and creative people suffer from depression and yet make an outstanding contribution to life. Often, information about their depression is only revealed after their death, as people misunderstand the illness. Amongst such people are Florence Nightingale and Sir Winston Churchill, who used to call depression his "black dog". Depression can effect anyone and does not reduce your value as a human being.

What causes depression?

The group of symptoms to which doctors and therapists use to diagnose depression ("depressive symptoms") including the important provision that the symptoms have manifested for more than a few weeks and that they are interfering with normal life, are the result of an alteration in brain chemistry. This alteration is similar to temporary normal variations in brain chemistry which can be triggered by illness, stress, frustration, or grief, but it differs in that it is self-sustaining and does not resolve itself upon removal of such triggering events (if any such trigger can be found at all, which is not always the case.) Instead, the alteration continues, producing depressive symptoms and through those symptoms, enormous new stresses on the person. Such stresses can include unhappiness, sleep disorders, lack of concentration, difficulty in doing one's job, the inability to care for one's physical and emotional needs, and the strain on existing relationships with friends and family. These new stresses may be sufficient to act as triggers for continuing brain chemistry alteration, or they may simply prevent the resolution of the difficulties which may have triggered the initial alteration, or both.

The depressive brain chemistry alteration seems to be self-limiting in most cases: after one to three years, a more normal chemistry reappears, even without medical treatment. However, if the alteration is profound enough to cause suicidal impulses, a majority of untreated depressed people will in fact attempt suicide, and as many as 17% will eventually succeed. Therefore, depression must be thought of as a potentially fatal illness. Friends and relatives may be deceived by the casual way that profoundly depressed people speak of suicide or self-mutilation. They are not casual because they "don't really mean it"; they are casual because these things seem no worse than the mental pain they are already suffering. Any comment such as, "You'd be better off if I were gone," or "I wish I could just jump out a window," is the equivalent of a sudden high fever; the depressed person must be taken to a professional who can monitor their danger. A formulated plan, such as, "I'm going to jump in front of the next car that comes by," is the equivalent of sudden unconsciousness: an immediate medical emergency which may require hospitalization.

Depression can shut down the survival instinct or temporarily suppress it. Therefore, depressed suicidal thinking is not the same as the suicidal thinking of normal people who have reached a crisis point in their lives. Depressive suicides give less warning, need less time to plan, and are willing to attempt more painful and immediate means, such as jumping out of a moving car. They may also fight the impulse to suicide by compromising on self-injury in an attempt to distract themselves from severe mental pain (such as cutting themselves with knives.) Again, relatives and friends are likely to be astonished by how quickly such an impulse can appear and be acted upon.

What is depression?

Being clinically depressed is very different from the down type of feeling that all people experience from time to time. Occasional feelings of sadness are a normal part of life, and it is that such feelings are often colloquially referred to as "depression." In clinical depression, such feelings are out of proportion to any external causes. There are things in everyone's life that are possible causes of sadness, but people who are not depressed manage to cope with these things without becoming incapacitated.

As one might expect, depression can present itself as feeling sad or "having the blues". However, sadness may not always be the dominant feeling of a depressed person. Depression can also be experienced as a numb or empty feeling, or perhaps no awareness of feeling at all. A depressed person may experience a noticeable loss in their ability to feel pleasure about anything. Depression, as viewed by psychiatrists, is an illness in which a person experiences a marked change in their mood and in the way they view themselves and the world. Depression as a significant depressive disorder ranges from short in duration and mild to long term and very severe, even life threatening.

Depressive disorders come in different forms, just as do other illnesses such as heart disease. The three most prevalent forms are major depression, dysthymia, and bipolar disorder.

Types of Depression

What is major depression?

Major depression is manifested by a combination of symptoms (see symptom list below) that interfere with the ability to work, sleep, eat; and enjoy once-pleasurable activities. These disabling episodes of depression can occur once, twice, or several times in a lifetime.

What is dysthymia?

A less severe type of depression, dysthymia, involves long-term, chronic symptoms that do not disable, but keep you from functioning at "full steam" or from feeling good. Sometimes people with dysthymia also experience major depressive episodes.

What is bipolar depression (manic-depressive illness)?

Another type of depressive disorder is manic-depressive illness, also called bipolar depression. Not nearly as prevalent as other forms of depressive disorders, manic depressive illness involves cycles of depression and elation or mania. Sometimes the mood switches are dramatic and rapid, but most often they are gradual. When in the depressed cycle, you can have any or all of the symptoms of a depressive disorder. When in the manic cycle, any or all symptoms listed under mania may be experienced. Mania often affects thinking, judgment, and social behavior in ways that cause serious problems and embarrassment. For example, unwise business or financial decisions may be made when in a manic phase. Manic depression is often treated with Lithium, which evens out the mood swings.

What is Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD)?

SAD is a reoccurring pattern of depressive illness which generally coincides with the approach of winter, starting with September and lasting until Spring brings longer days and more sunshine. This form of depressive illness often is accompanied by such symptoms as marked decrease in energy, increased need for sleep, and carbohydrate craving. Photo therapy - morning exposure to bright, full spectrum light - can often be dramatically helpful.

What is Post Partum Depression?

Mild moodiness and "blues" are very common after having a baby, but when symptoms are more than mild or last more than a few days, professional help should be sought. Post part depression can be extremely serious for both mother and baby. It can occur from about 2 weeks up to about 2 years after the birth.

How is bereavement different from depression?

A full depressive syndrome frequently is a normal reaction to the death of a loved one (bereavement), with feelings of depression and such associated symptoms as poor appetite, weight loss, and insomnia. However, morbid preoccupation with worthlessness, prolonged and marked functional impairment, and marked psychomotor retardation are uncommon and suggest that the bereavement is complicated by the development of a Major Depression. The duration of "normal" bereavement varies considerably among different cultural groups.

What is Endogenous Depression?

A depression is said to be endogenous if it occurs without a particular bad event, stressful situation or other definite, outside cause being present in the person's life. Endogenous depression usually responds well to medication. Some authorities do not consider this to be a useful diagnostic category.

What is atypical depression?

"Atypical depression" is not an official diagnostic category, but it is often discussed informally. A person suffering from atypical depression generally has increased appetite and sleeps more than usual. An atypical depressive may also be able to enjoy pleasurable circumstances despite being unable to seek out such circumstances. This contrasts with the "typical" depressive, who generally has reduced appetite and insomnia, and who is often unable to find pleasure in anything. Despite its name, atypical depression may in fact be more common than the other kind.

Symptoms of depression

The most common symptoms are set out below. If these have been experienced for more than two weeks it is essential to seek help from a professional. People may suffer from two or three of these symptoms but are unlikely to experience them all.

  • Feelings of helplessness and hopelessness
  • Feeling useless, inadequate, bad
  • Self hatred, constant questioning of thoughts and actions, an overwhelming need for reassurance
  • Being vulnerable and "over-sensitive"
  • Feeling guilty
  • A loss of energy and motivation, that makes even the simplest tasks or decisions seem difficult
  • Self injury or self harm
  • A fairly noticeable loss or gain in weight
  • Difficulty with getting off to sleep, or (less frequently) an excessive desire to sleep
  • Agitation and restlessness
  • Loss of sex drive
  • Finding it impossible to concentrate for any length of time, forgetfulness. A sense of unreality
  • Physical aches and pains, sometimes with the fear that you are seriously ill

In severe depression, these feelings may also include:

  • Suicidal ideas
  • Failure to eat or drink
  • Delusions and/or hallucinations

It is important for people to know that:

  • Depression is an illness that can affect anyone at any age.
  • It is not connected with and does not develop into insanity.
  • Depression can be treated. People may be offered antidepressants and/or talking treatments

Treatments For Depression


Many different types of antidepressant can be used to help treat people suffering from depression. Antidepressants and electro convulsive therapy (ECT) probably work by producing changes in the receptors for major neurotransmitters: certain forms of psychological treatment may also produce these same changes.

How long do they take to work?

Typically antidepressants take a week or two to begin to work, although many people who respond to antidepressants begin to feel better from the very beginning of treatment. It is usual to be troubled by side effects of treatment before they feel significantly better, and this may cause some people to stop taking the treatment. Thankfully, side effects are usually at their worst in the first three weeks of treatment, though some effects, such as weight gain, are seen only after longer treatment.

The main classes of antidepressant drugs:

  • Monoamine oxidase inhibitors (MAOIs),
  • Tricyclic antidepressants (TCAs) and
  • Selective serotonin re-uptake inhibitors (SSRIs).


MAOIs aren't used very much now, even though they are effective antidepressants, mainly because people taking MAOIs have to follow a special diet that excludes cheese and other foodstuffs. However, MAOIs are sometimes still used, particularly when a person hasn't got better with other forms of treatment.


The TCAs are still used very often when treating people with depression. Like the MAOIs, TCAs take a week or two to begin to work. Unfortunately, most TCAs have quite troublesome side effects in some patients, causing problems like sleepiness, dry mouth, blurred vision, constipation and weight gain. Most are also dangerous if taken in overdose, and are probably best avoided when treating people with suicidal thoughts.


Finally, the SSRIs are also effective as antidepressants. They cause rather fewer side effects than TCAs or older MAO1s, and many depressed patients find them easier to take than other antidepressants. However, the SSRIs can cause problems such as sexual difficulties or worsened anxiety, in a minority of patients.

The 'Other' class

There are a number of new antidepressants that don't 'belong' to the three main classes - for example nefazodone, mirtazapine, reboxetine and venlafaxine. All are effective antidepressant drugs and somewhat better tolerated than older TCAs. Their side effect profiles differ from each other and from the other classes of drug. More information on antidepressants can be found in the Depression Alliance leaflet, 'Antidepressant Drugs'.

Talking Treatments

"Talking treatments" is a way of referring to therapies which treat depression by exploring what's made you depressed and what's keeping you depressed. Most people who see their General Practitioner (GP or Family Doctor) for depression are prescribed antidepressant medication. Medication can lift your mood and help with the symptoms of depression but does not tackle underlying problems. This is where the "talking treatments" come in. Some talking treatments work directly on helping you to overcome the symptoms of depression as well. People can become depressed for many reasons. You may have experienced a high level of stress over a long period. You may feel overwhelmed by the problems of life, such as bereavement. redundancy, or divorce. Some people believe things about themselves or about life which actually make them more vulnerable to depression.

There are many different kinds of talking treatments or therapies and you will need to decide which may be best for you, based on your own experience. However, research suggests that the most effective treatments for depression are the ones which begin by focusing on the "here and now" and concentrate on specific problems. These sorts of therapies tend to be fairly short term, from three or four sessions up to around twenty sessions. The three most promising treatments at the moment are cognitive-behaviour therapy, interpersonal therapy and problem-solving therapy.

Cognitive behaviour therapy

Cognitive-behaviour therapy is based on the idea that how you think largely determines the way that you feel. In depression your thinking changes and becomes very negative. You might start thinking 'I'm a failure, my life is hopeless, I'll never get better". These are very upsetting thoughts and produce feelings of hopelessness and worthlessness. These thoughts and feelings may lead to changes in your behaviour. For example, you may stop going out or doing things that you used to enjoy. A vicious circle can easily develop in which thoughts, feelings and behaviour push you further and further down into depression.

Cognitive behaviour therapy treats depression by:

  • Helping you to recognize vicious circles that keep you depressed.
  • Teaching you to examine your behaviour and make changes if necessary.
  • Identifying your negative thoughts.
  • Challenging your negative thoughts and teaching you to think more realistically.
  • Helping you to recognize beliefs and assumptions that contributed to your depression and showing you how to change them.

Cognitive-behaviour therapy tackles both the symptoms and the underlying problems that have contributed to your depression. It also helps to reduce the chance of getting depressed again in the future.

Interpersonal therapy

Interpersonal therapy concentrates on your relationships with other people. The focus of the therapy is on improving relationships, learning to communicate more effectively, and improving your view of yourself. The emphasis in treatment is on the here and now and on specific problems. Interpersonal therapy often looks at the following four areas:

  • Grief - How you deal with loss has an important effect on your relationships.
  • Changes in role - These can cause a lot of stress and affect your mood and your health. For example, becoming a parent can be difficult for many people.
  • Disputes with other people - Constant fighting, arguing or bickering creates a lot of stress and unhappiness. You may need to learn new skills so that you can behave differently.
  • Putting other people down - If you are always negative and are constantly belittling friends and relatives your relationships will suffer. You may need to learn better ways of communicating.

Problem solving therapy

Problem solving is often a part of other therapies however, more recently, problem solving has been used as a short term therapy in its own right. It is usually brief, often around four to six sessions and involves the following stages:

  • Identify your current problems.
  • Recognize your strengths and weaknesses and what sources of help are available from family, friends, support groups etc.
  • Learn a systematic way of tackling problems that can be used now and in the future.
  • Learn to put solutions into practice and to deal with the obstacles and setbacks.

Coping Sources

Self Help

Self help starts with learning more about depression and discovering ways of coping. This can be done on an individual basis and through contact with other people to share experiences. Helping yourself to understand depression and to find ways of managing it can reduce the feelings of helplessness and hopelessness that often arise. Self help is complementary to professional treatment and should not be seen as an alternative. A valuable step forward in helping yourself get out of depression may be to join a self help group, if there is one close to your home.


Depression frequently causes tension and anxiety which can affect many aspects of life. People may become ultra-sensitive and irritable. There are many ways to relax - exercise, cassette tapes, yoga, meditation, aroma therapy, massage etc. can all be effective in reducing anxiety and tension.


Many people who are depressed may become exhausted and totally lacking in motivation. If you can manage some form of exercise, however gentle, it will help you feel better and more positive. It seems to be even more effective if taken in fresh air.

A Change of Lifestyle

Some people who have depression are perfectionists who drive themselves too hard. Impossible standards may need to be lowered and workloads reduced, so that life can be lived at a slower pace. These changes do not make us less valuable people, but put us in command of our life, rather than being a member of the "rat race".


Holidays or short breaks bring relief by breaking up the routine which so easily lets us get into a rut.


Under or over eating can be symptoms of depression, and it can be easy to eat junk food. If we miss out valuable nutrients we are more likely to feel tired and run down, so try to eat regularly and well. Try to include some fresh vegetables and fruit in your meals.


It can help to occupy your mind with absorbing subjects, interests or hobbies. Studying, watching a special TV program or film or listening to music can be difficult as concentration is often impaired, but this can be improved with practice.

Things to avoid

Props such as smoking, non-prescribed drugs and alcohol can be damaging. In particular, alcohol is a depressant and despite giving us a temporary "lift" can make matters worse as we try to retain the "lift" by drinking more and more.

*Remeber there's always someone out there that cares about you and wants you safe.*


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Common Symptoms of Depression


  • Changes in sleeping pattern: much more or much less?
  • Changes in eating patterns: much more or much less?
  • Fatigue, loss of energy.
  • Headaches, stomachaches or otherwise inexplicable aches and pains.


  • Diminished interest in and enjoyment of previously pleasurable activities-sex, sports, hobbies, going out with friends, etc.
  • Difficulty concentrating or making decisions.
  • Neglecting responsibilities and personal appearance.


  • Depressed mood-can mean feeling down, apathetic, irritable, pessimistic,hopeless, negative, guilty, anxious, empty, etc.
  • Suicidal thoughts.
  • Feeling hopeless and helpless.
  • Feelings of worthlessness.

Possible Contributing Factors to Depression


  • Cramped living conditions, bad roommate situation, money problems, car problems, holidays you're not looking forward to, having a tough time with classes, too much pressure on you, feeling helpless to change your environment, loss of something significant (a job, a dream, etc.), being victimized (assault, robbery, rape, etc.).


  • Relationship problems or break-up, conflicts with parents or family members, death of significant person in your life, the anniversary of a loss, feeling like people are taking advantage of you, unresolved anger or guilt, feeling helpless to effect changes in important relationships.


  • Food allergies, unhealthy diet, genetic predisposition ("it runs in the family"), chemical imbalances, dealing with illness or infection, sleep deprivation, chronic anxiety.


  • Getting by on fast food, sugar, caffeine, alcohol, potato chips, and other relatively non-nutritious items; substance abuse; lack of exercise.


  • Negative self-talk, self criticism, pessimistic thinking, catastrophic thinking, anticipatory anxiety, low sense of self-worth.


  • Doubts about the meaning of life; questions about your own religious beliefs; a sense that you're somehow missing out on your true calling or path or that you're not being true to yourself, your dreams, your beliefs.

What can I do about my depression?

There are actually a lot of things you can do about depression. The most important thing is that you do something positive and constructive.

You might start by getting yourself some paper and a pen and make headings for all the factors previously described: Environmental, Interpersonal, Physical/Medical, etc.

  • Make a list of any problems, concerns, or negative feelings you have that relate to each of the areas. (It also helps to identify which of the areas are sources of strength, support, positive feelings.)
  • As you break the depression down into smaller, more manageable contributing parts, some solutions will seem clear to you. Again, we're not operating on an "Either-Or" assumption---that you either have depression or you don't; we're assuming a continuum of depressive feelings or symptoms.
  • So any changes you can make for the better, though they may not "fix" the depression or make it go away immediately, are definitely worth doing.
  • Depression can leave you feeling helpless and out of control of your life, your thoughts, feelings, and behaviors. You want to regain and experience more power and control; you want to get to the point where you feel like you can do something to improve your situation and life.
  • For instance, you may realize that relationship problems are a key contributor to your depression and decide that assertiveness or communications training would really help remedy that situation.
  • You might notice that for you the symptoms are largely physical and choose to get a medical check-up to rule out other possible problems.
  • Perhaps parental pressures and expectations have been burdening you and you'll decide to have that long, honest talk with your parents.

Go over each area and do your own self-assessment, then write down what you think it would take to help the situation. No two lists will be exactly alike, but several general strategies often are beneficial to people struggling with feelings of depression.

Beneficial Strategies for Coping with Depression

  • Develop a more healthy, balanced diet.
    • We aren't made to run on junk, fat, sugar, caffeine, alcohol, drugs, and cigarettes.
  • Get regular exercise and sufficient sleep.
    • For exercise, walking is fine. The times when you least feel like doing it might be the times you need to do it most. Cutting yourself short on sleep can really contribute to a downward spiral in other areas.
  • Develop stress skills and time management skills.
    • These will be very helpful in surviving college and keeping yourself from feeling overwhelmed and down.
  • Check in with your emotional self regularly.
    • Learn to be aware of your feelings and not let them build up to the point where they overwhelm you, bring you down, and cause even bigger problems in your life.
  • Develop and use a support system.
    • Most people don't mind being around someone who's depressed, especially if you tell them what would be helpful, as in the examples below.
      • I need a hug. I need some support.
      • I just need somebody to listen.
      • I just want to vent and blow off some steam.
      • I don't need you to "fix" me or "make it all better."

But I Just Feel So Stuck!

Clearly, many of these changes are things you can do on your own. For many of us, it's difficult to get ourselves going, and we may prefer to seek the help of a professional counselor to help us move past that stuck point. Certainly if you have been stuck for a long time, or if you are at the point where you are seriously neglecting important aspects of your life or even thinking about suicide, you must seek professional help.

A professional can help you get the help you need, whether that be counseling/psychotherapy or even possibly anti-depressant medications for a short period of time.

How To Cope With Depression Without Professional Help.

NOTE: If you are currently clinically depressed (that is, diagnosed by a doctor and given anti-depressant medication to help) we recommend taking your medication following the specific instructions your doctor gave you (usually on the pill bottle).

We know that you could not possibly see a professional every time you feel a little depressed, but don't worry, there are some other things you can do that may get rid of your depression or at least lessen it.

  1. Use cognitive therapy techniques to get you out of negative thought patters. What this means is that YOU need to stop thinking negatively about yourself, if you are. It is proven that we actually listen to ourselves, so if you repeat or keep saying something to yourself over and over your body does tend to hear it and listen to it. So what you need to do is try saying some good things each morning to yourself over and over and do it every morning. Look in the mirror and say I like ______ about myself. Each day do that and strive to say something different. You can do it!
  2. Plan your day with some activities you HAVE to do and some you enjoy doing. Rate your expectations of these activities, and then re-assess how you felt about them after you have done them. It's a good idea to keep a notebook for this purpose. Write the name of the activities you have to do and those you enjoy doing and then what you think about having to do it or doing it. After you are done come back and write in the notebook what you really felt about it.
  3. Break down difficult tasks into smaller incremental parts. In other words, don't try to do something really complex at one time. Take it part by part piece by piece and then accomplish each piece individually.
  4. Give yourself credit for even the smallest things you get done. This goes back to number 1. You have to always be willing to say good things about yourself and be proud of what you do and try not to dwell so much on what you don't do.
  5. Remember that depression passes. Focus on living one at day at a time until the depression feeling is gone.
  6. Get emotional support from a family member, friend, or anyone else. Get involved in a fun activity with someone you enjoy. Spend some time with a pet. Get lots of hugs from whoever you can.
  7. Talk to an understanding, non-judgmental person for as long as you need to talk. It needs to be okay to talk about anything and for you to be able to be emotional.
  8. Get some exercise, whatever you can do. Walk, run, bike, swim etc.
  9. Get out into the sunlight as much as you can. If you must be inside try to sit next to a window.
  10. Use lots of lighting indoors. Avoid dark areas.

NOTE ABOUT 9 AND 10: Lighting is very important to depression. A lot of times, the right lighting can actually reverse the effects of depression, or at lest lesson the depressant feeling.

  1. Eliminate sugar, caffeine, and junk food from your diet. Eat three healthy meals a day. Sometimes it is the food we eat that helps keep the depression feeling going. It might be worth to try for a week and see what happens.
  2. Read a funny book or watch a funny tv show or movie. Listen to music you enjoy if it's upbeat.
  3. Take a long hot bath/shower.
  4. MOVE, MOVE, MOVE! Depression gets worse if you have to sit and do nothing. Try to move around at least every hour on the hour and find something to do.
  5. If all else fails, Sleep. When you feel you just can't go on and start thinking those suicidal things, write back to HelpingTeens (formally known as TeenHelp) first then go try to sleep. A lot of times after sleeping we feel 10 times better or at least restored.