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[RockBSK1432]

So, my girlfriend and I have gotten really serious lately...discussing many different things. I think I have found the person that I am supposed to be with for the rest of my life. We started to discuss sex, and being together intimately in that way.

So...yesterday afternoon we had phone sex. We are in a long distance relationship as of now. I am in PA going to school, and she is in NJ still in High School. We both had a lot of fun masturbating together on the phone. We both agreed it is so much better doing it with the other person on the phone. She used a vibrator, and really went at it. Wanted to keep going after we had both orgasmed once. I know this may not seem like a problem, but there is....

The emotional aspect of this is so high. After we were done with it, which happened so quickly, we both felt pretty vulnerable and alone. We both wanted to be with each other, for support and such. Don't get me wrong, I would love to do it again...seeing as it is all that we have at this point. Pretty much all that we have done. Never had sex together or anything. The most we have done in person is make out. I was pretty amazed by her going all out yesterday, but don't want to keep feeling vulnerable and alone after sharing such an intimate act.

So, I guess what I am asking for is advice about how to make it better...maybe more romantic and intimate. I don't want either of us to feel so alone and vulnerable ever again. It was a great experience to share together, and want to continue it. Please help.

[SirPostAlot]

- Moved to relationships since this pertains more to the relationship part of the couple versus the sexual aspect...

-Jeff

[Barbies are Evil]

how often do you see her? do you see her? what grade is she in in high school? See, what i'm thinking is that if you talked afterwards like "baby i'll see you soon, you'll be in my arms again before you know it" that might help.....like yeah, your both still alone for now, but if there is some promise towards the future after some intimate act, that might give you guys a sense of security........

[RockBSK1432]

The last time I saw her was January 14th, right before I came back to school. The time before that was December 22nd. She is a senior in High School. She has gotten into 6 of the 8 schools she has applied to. She is still waiting to here from her dream school. Keystone, the college where she is hoping to go for numeros reasons...including to be closer to me is only an hour and a half away from me. Her turning 18 in June could also allievate some of the pain and heartache from not being together.

We have only had phone sex that one time. We are open to doing it more, so we will see. We just don't want to feel so alone an emotional after. I will take your tips into much consideration. Thanks.

[lil-foal-DGAF]

If you feel alone and vulnerable - there isn't enough communication. Were you ready to go that far when you had phone sex? Most times - if you feel that way - it's because you are not communication with the other enough. Stop having phone sex for a while and just enjoy talking to her.

My OPINION so far is that you were not ready, there wasn't enough communication, AND hormones played 90 percent of the role. Stick to having a relationship - when you're truly ready, things will fall into play and opportunity will be easier along with the feelings.

[RockBSK1432]

We felt we were ready and suchat the time, but there probably wasn't enough communication. We haven't done it since, and things are good between us. Hormones did play a role in it, but we enjoyed it while doing it. It was after, that we felt that way. Any advice on how to be flirty and stuff?

[Lena]

Umm, to be honest, if you've known them/been in a relationship with them for a while, theres a good connection and the person is right for you, it should simply come naturally without even thinking about it.

However.... here is a link:

http://www.bbc.co.uk/radio1/onelife/person...flirting1.shtml

Take care,

Lena.