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[candela]

I know ive never posted this here before but I have recently come out to alot of my friends that I am bisexual. The problem im having is that i believe that sexuality is fluid, that there is a scale (Kinsey or something like that) now when i tell people im bi its because i truly believe that but my friends dont understand the scale. For example i currently lean much more towards female partners, and my friends will try to set me up with guys, even after i say no. and then they are like oh so you arent really bi your a lesbian.... extremely frustrating.... i dont kow how to explain it to them. Especially since they want me to start seeing someone becuase my ex really enjoys messing with my head. what the hell.

sorry, this is half a rant

[gidig]

Tell them you're perfectly fine finding partner's, if and when you want one, or find the right one for you. And that's their cue to back off. Explain to them you're not lesbian, nor are you straight. But just because you're not straight, doesn't mean all the sudden you want a relationship with everyone. And right now, as nice as you see it to be, you don't want their help right now.
If they don't catch that hint, maybe they're not exactly your friends. Sexuality is a huge part of life, and if they can't accept that, then they need to back off.

[Lostinhersong]

I agree with gidig.
They need to back off, it seems. You'll find someone in due time. :)