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[Rivv]

yeah for those of you who know me, you may already know the crazy crap my mother has done in the past.
but now. she flat out tells me that she doesn't want me around anymore.
she doesn't want me in the house when she's home.
and she rarely asks where i've been if i take off for a a day or two.
she just doesn't care anymore. and i think i know why.
it's because i FINALLY went to go see my father after 5 years.
what a stupid reason to be mad at me right?
i think so .
and so, she doesn't want me there with her. but she hates the idea of me living with my dad even more.
only a few more months until i graduate from high school and then i'm free.
but what should i do until then?
help?


~River

[InnocenceLost57]

The best I can tell you is just to stick it out :(

Do you ahve any friends you can spend time with? Honestly, your mother sounds completely unreasonable and a touch unstable. Obviously talking to her won't do you much good, so can you just stay out of sight or out of the house a lot? I know it's a sucky situation, but like you said, you only have a FEW more months and then you're out.

So you have any idea of where you're going after you graduate?

[Summer08]

You should talk to your mom. If you and your mom have been close in the past, this should be easier, but it seems like a difficult conversation anyway. It might be easier to write a letter. Tell your mom how you feel, if this hurts you or makes you angry or if you just don't understand, and be honest. Try not to use accusations or blame her for the entire situation. I don't want to speculate on why she is behaving this way, but that is why you need to open the lines of communication. If you choose to write her a letter, give it to her, and then leave for a while. Give her time to process everything, and let her know that you would like to talk (calmly) when she is ready. Good luck :)

[Rivv]

i've tried writing a letter before and it doesn't work for her.
she's way too headstrong.
yesterday she told me that i don't contribute to the family and if i don't change then i can't stay there.
so i'm doing what i think is the mature thing and avoiding the conflict by staying the night at a friends house.
she is unreasonable and it's been this way for years.
it's crazy. idk i'm just really sick of all of her bull. it wears me out.
my boyfriend says that i should just kiss her ass and stuff like that but really, that's what i've been doing and look where it got me. it's just become useless

[OverDrive]

what does she want you to do to "contribute" to the family?

[FranklinF]

best thing is its only a few more months, at the moment i am dealing with crazy family stuff too, but remember most things resolve themselves with time, what do you plan todo after you get out of high school?

[Rivv]

i'm taking the placement exam for college in two weeks and then choosing my classes the next day. my grandparents are offering to help me pay for school so i guess that helps out a lot. but as for a place to stay, i have no idea. Sam and I were planning on moving up towards my dad's area in modesto but since he lost his job, i'm staying down here to go to school. stupid i know but i don't want to lose sam again over some stupid family shit.

[FranklinF]

maybe you could find a cheap apartment maybe somewhere around where you will be going to school