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[InnocenceLost57]

Hey all,

So many of us have had long-distance relationships at one time or another. What have you guys' experiences been, and how have you survived or not survived them? Any tips, stories, anything like that?

I was in a long distance relationship for a while, and it didn't really work because I need that physical contact. It's one reason that I'm not starting anything now - I'll be hopefully studying abroad next spring, and I know that I wouldn't be able to hold things together.

However, I do know people who have made it work.

What do you think? Can people beat the odds, or is it something doomed to failure?

[Cindy]

I have never had a long distance relationship but a co-worker of mine was telling me about hers just the other day.

She has been with her boyfriend since she was a sophomore high school so about 11 years now. When they went to college, they were 4 hours away from each other and then she spent a year studying in New Zealand. They are even thinking about now because of the way jobs are, living over 3 hours away from each other so they both can have good paying jobs.

I believe it is very much possible to have a long distance relationship as long as BOTH parties are commented. That is the hard part though, avoiding temptation. Personally for me I know I could do it, I just don't think my boyfriend could.

[Barbies are Evil]

Wow, this topic tonight? Um, ok.......Long Distance Relationships can work with some people....I made one work off/on for almost seven years.....when you feel like your meant to be with someone, distance doesn't really matter, emotions do.........i think thats how I did it.......thought I was meant to be with him. It's not about distance, its about committment, like Cindy said in my opinion.

[lil-foal-DGAF]

Wow - This is a touchy one. Well, Matthew being a marine and us being together for 4 years(on June 12th... he forgot...) we've basically been together for 1 and haybe a half. That's how much time the military takes away from families. How did we get through that? Love... Commitment, and trust. We're just used to it I guess. It just takes time and knowing that you WILL see them again. And keeping the times that you are with that person happy and and joyful and different. Plus, during the times we weren't together we kept doing things that made eachother remember why we love eachother, and want to be together. That's how we made it.

[Spitfire]

Ive tried long distance, and as much as I wanted it to work, she didnt, and I think I'm actually happy for that. I think it really depends on your needs in a relationship, do you need to be close and physical, or do you just need somebody to talk to?

I think I kinda needed both, and to try to make a long distance relationship work for me probably would have just ended up being a big disappointment for me if it had carried along any farther than it did.

[CausticTears]

I think like many others have noted, long distant relationships can only work if both partners are committed, faithful, in love, and actually want it to work.

I had a long distant relationship twice. Once for a year and she was my first love; we were infatuated with each other and were always on the phone or internet. It was nice to feel loved and give love; but ultimately it was painful because we couldn't be with each other physically. And I think I was too infatuated; I would sit at the computer practically all day waiting for her to log on =P
Ah, RIP Kristen

My other long distant relationship lasted a few months, I think. We were working well with each other on communication, but again the physical lack was too hard for us.

I think I would only pursue another long distant relationship if we live a few hours away from each other and have strong bonds.

[MattMan]

I'm in one now, we've only been formally dating since the beginning of May, but we're planning (thinking? I'll repost my own topic) August 1st. We're very much in love, we have the same goals, and we have the same values. Everytime I talk to somebody else about it, my confidence that the moving in thing is gonna work greatly fades. She's a fair bit older, but that's a good thing in our situation because I've never lived out of my parents' house before.