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[BriannasGirl]

Okay, blah, I don't know why this is even concerning me at all. So me and my girlfriend have been together for almost a year and half. Let's go back in time over two years ago, she was with a girl named Vanessa, they were all in love and everyone thinks they were engaged (it was just promised rings though). well vanessa then broke up with my now girlfriend for another girl. and me and my girlfriend have been so happy and so in love for this year and a half and have even talked about getting engaged. well last week the vanessa girl and her gf broke up. and then I had an awful dream that my girlfriend kissed her. and ever since then I have had this sick feeling. my girlfriend has assured me over and over that she doesnt have any feelings for this girl and i swear i trust her. but i can't shake this awful feeling. and i have been pissing my girlfriend off because i keep saying stuff about it. please help...

[CausticTears]

Hey there,
Do you think you have a reason to worry? If you fully trust your g/f and you have no reason to doubt her, why worry? Her ex is in her past and you are in her future. I assume you are having some jealousy because you think now that Veronica is single, she will try get back with your g/f? Nonetheless, it all points back to what I said... if you trust her, then don't worry.

[iHEAVENn]

I agree, it was just a dream. Don't let that affect real life.
And just because the other girl is now single doesn't mean your girl will run back to her.

[BriannasGirl]

I talked to my girlfriend about it at length today and she reassured me. I never ever ever doubted her love for me. That dream was just so real that it freaked me out.

[iHEAVENn]

That's understandable..
You just need to remind yourself that it was a dream and she's with you.

[Shy]

If u keep letting the dream get to u then ur going to ruin the relationship u have right now to a point where u r going to lose her. As far as the fear of her cheating on u, it has nothing to do w/ ur girl, but everything to do w/ u & the insecurity about urself. U think ur not good enough for ur partner and there for u want ur girl to cheat on u so u can tell urself that u were right all along. Thus ur dream let u see wat u were feeling/wanting but once it happened u realized how horrible u would feel if she did that and how much u love her and that's y u woke up depressed from the dream.

Basically, stop second guessing urself and start listening to ur girl. Maybe u just need ur girl to reassure u how much u mean to her by words and actions and wat about u she loves so much. But most of all, love urself. It's hard for someone else to love u if u can't even love urself, besides a person can only love u as much as u love urself 'cause that's how much u would allow a persons love effect u.

[CausticTears]

Shy, on 12 August 2009 - 10:23 PM, said:

If u keep letting the dream get to u then ur going to ruin the relationship u have right now to a point where u r going to lose her. As far as the fear of her cheating on u, it has nothing to do w/ ur girl, but everything to do w/ u & the insecurity about urself. U think ur not good enough for ur partner and there for u want ur girl to cheat on u so u can tell urself that u were right all along. Thus ur dream let u see wat u were feeling/wanting but once it happened u realized how horrible u would feel if she did that and how much u love her and that's y u woke up depressed from the dream.

Basically, stop second guessing urself and start listening to ur girl. Maybe u just need ur girl to reassure u how much u mean to her by words and actions and wat about u she loves so much. But most of all, love urself. It's hard for someone else to love u if u can't even love urself, besides a person can only love u as much as u love urself 'cause that's how much u would allow a persons love effect u.

Hey, that put a lot of things into perspective! Helped me out too. Just saying =)