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[BonCerise]

For the last two years I have been going to an all girls school. My first year wasn't too bad, appart from one fallout. But in my second year I had a major fallout with my friends. They came round mine for a birthday sleepover and we started to disagree. I accidentally threw a pringle pot at my friends head. I had meant for her to catch it but she wouldn't believe me and we all started shouting at each other.
The next day was horrid, girls I hardly knew marched up to me calling me unhinged and threatening me. Three of the girls called Steph, Jenn and Kiyante were the worst. Kiyante went 'EURGHHH GROSS' every time I walked by, though I hardly knew her, she judged me by what my friends said. Steph and Jenn made up horrid rumours about me, that I secretly was a boy, that I destroyed my friends presents and that I was gay and had a crush on them. All wrong. That was back in February and since then Steph and I simply haven't got on. She has turned girls I don't know against me!

Thankfully now I'm moving schools, she's extatic since the school I'm going to did have Swine Flu, but not anymore. Sadly she still won't leave me alone, every now and then she will insult me and leave horrid comments on my facebook and bebo. I have deleted her on my phone, MSN, facebook, bebo and I am avoiding her but she still bitches and still is horrid.

I'm sick of it, she is making me feel so low. I am ignoring her but that just doesn't work. I want her out of my life for ever. Help Me!

[lil-foal-DGAF]

Moved to Family/friends.

Yes, you're former friends will eventually grow up and get lives. Just remember that you don't have to stupe down to their level. Not to mention - when people start coming to their sences, they'll remember you as the better person and you'll have the stronger reputation.

[Cindy]

Wow, with friends like that, who needs enemies?

I would dissociate your self as much as possible with the people from your past school, and I'm sorry you were put through all of that. No contact with them at all. If they live near you and still cause trouble, you need to speak to your parent/guardian about it. At school, if things get bad like they did, you should have went to a teacher or even a school councilor. I'm not sure what grade you are in the higher grade you are in the more you can do about it.

Back in high school, I had a bunch of people that decided to pick on me in a similar fashion as you are. I was getting barked at by random people and I did nothing wrong. I still to this day have no clue why they decided to do this *shrugs*. One day I finally had enough, and had just learned about this wonderful thing called a Harassment Report. This report goes on their permanent record and if they get more then one they can be expelled from school for it. I turned to the leader of the group barking at me and said "I have had enough. This is my FIRST and ONLY warning, LEAVE ME ALONE or I'll be filing a harassment report" His reply "Woof"

I marched right into the councilor office and filed that report. He ended up being called into the office and given a final warning. I was left alone by EVERYONE after that. No one dared to tease me because I stood up to them.

Teasing does end, but sometimes you have to stand up to yourself. If this teasing isn't happening in school anymore but is still happening around your neighborhood, speak with your parents/guardian about it and think about going to the police station and filing a harassment report (that is where the report goes even if filed at school). You'll need proof, so if she is teasing and bulling you online, keep the logs to show the police and your parents. I know you want to do this yourself, but sometimes we need help with things such as these things.

Good luck and don't let them see it bother you. If you completely ignore them, that sometimes also works. Don't give the time of day, or even laugh with them about the insults.

[DarkSoul]

Congratulations on switching schools! I actually had a very similiar problem recently, so if you want to PM I'll be happy to talk to you. Good for you for trying to distance yourself from her, that takes a very strong person. You can't let them make you feel low, because we both know that you are so much stronger than they are. Clearly your friends, and the very mean one imparticular, like to have control over people. And you've done just the right thing by getting away. You just can't show them that they are hurting you, because that is what they want. But also don't cave in and tell them its ok, because it is never ok to be treated the way you are being treated. What I'd reccommend is just telling yourself over and over that you don't deserve that scrutiny, and eventually it won't hurt you any more because you won't believe it.
I hope that helps.
Best of luck and I'm here for you if you need me.
DarkSoul

[SickOfBeingBitchedAbout]

You just need to forget about Steph, I know that sounds like the hardest thing to do in the world right now but it'll work if you try it. The bullying has probably knocked your confidence but the best advice I ever got was "fake it 'til you make it!" slap on a big smile and become a chirpy person that people love to be around. You'll soon gain LOADS of friends who will stick up for you if you tell them what happened, and if Steph doesn't leave you alone then, she obviously has nothing better to do and I'll come round and help her kill the boredom. (You, me, plenty of pringle pots )