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[Rhea123]

I'm a Junior at an all girls school . I have over a 4.0 and Im a really serious dancer. Despite going to an all girls school, I know lots of guys. This summer, I sort of went through a rebellious phase. I went to Honduras on a mission trip where I tried lots of new things. I smoked cigars, got a little drunk and had my first kiss. I got back to the States and felt like I wanted the rest of my summer to be just as fun. Im proud of my ability to control myself while I was in Honduras. I said no to sex and I I didn't get nearly as wasted as the rest of the kids. I wasn't pressured into drinking. I just felt that I should enjoy myself for once, I trusted my friends I was with and I wanted to take advantage of the fact that I was away from my parents. When I told my friends from school about my trip, they couldn't believe it. Shit like that doesn't happen at an all girls' Catholic school. When I got back, I met this boy who lives in my neighborhood. We were friends in elementary school, but he's changed a lot. He smokes a little weed, but he's really nice and smart. I always could be myself around him and I love that we can talk for hours about ancient Greece and dead languages and that sort of stuff that nobody else would give a damn about. For the rest of the summer, he had dinner with my family every night. I loved having him as my friend.
Whenever I had some friends over to spend the night at my house, he would invite us to sneak out and go to his house to watch movies. I had never snuck out before. My problem is that I'm so paranoid that I will get caught! However, I got really good at it and eventually, I started going over to his house alone. I trusted him, but I always promised myself that I wouldn't fall for anything. One night, he started making out with me. I was not expecting it. He had a girlfriend (who cheated on him), and I never thought that he liked me. We made out for 4 hours that night. He said that he's wanted to kiss me since 4th grade. He said that he loved how smart I am. He said that next time he was with me he didn't want to hook up, just talk for hours and hours. He said that he loves how I always disagree with him. He totally could have tried to get in my pants that night, but maybe he knew I would say no and hate him forever. He said that he wanted to see my abs. I said no and he said that he wouldn't try to take off my clothes or anything. I know that he's not that kind of guy, but I also never expected him to try to make a move on my either. I haven't hooked up with him since school has started, but yesterday, he asked me to sneak out and go to his house. I said no because I had ballet the next morning. But next time he asks me, I want to go. Should I trust this guy? PS: Im not wanting a serious relationship here

[OverDrive]

It sounds like you've already made up your mind about going the next time. Here's something to think about. If he's single, there's no issue since you're not looking for a serious relationship, however if he's got a girlfriend, you won't be the one getting hurt, she will. If you do end up going and he has a girlfriend, think about how you'd feel if your boyfriend went off with some other lady while you were dating.

What goes around comes around, at some point or another.

That being said, if he's single, go for it.

Then again, sneaking out is not the best option either.