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[joni]

Hi. I'm writing this because I'm worried about my brother a lot.. and I shouldn't worry too much, but it kind of scares me how much he is falling into the wrong path and becoming more stubborn every day.
I don't want him to end up making the same mistakes I did. I want him to be a better person than that, and I want to break the family curse of anger, depression, anxiety...etc. He fills his mind with M rated games that are graphic and wrong, curse words, that drugs are exceptionally funny, that violence is a joke and funny... He tells me I take things too serious, but honestly, that's because I know it's wrong. I used to be the same way, filling my mind with scary movies and music that was negative...it's a stronghold that I had to let go of in order to be happy with life. I try to talk to him, but he just does not listen, instead, he yells, fights, rebels against people, doesn't listen, and just trails off in his own world. I really do not want him to get into smoking weed or ciggs, or alcohol or anything of that nature...as I did for a little bit. Luckily, I got out before it got worse. It's a scary, dark world to be in, and I just gave it all to God, and am still working on enjoying life and taking it one day at a time filling my mind with truths and positive...but he just won't! I don't know what else to do but pray for him...He won't listen to me, and I just do not want him to get where I was at all. I know how it is, because it sucks. He's going into 7th grade now, becoming a teenager..and is already into violence and cruelty, and just an attitude problem.... he's going to be 13! That was a pretty tough year for me, trying to fit in with everyone, started doing more than I should at that age...and it only got worse at 14 and 15...which is my current age...well, to make it short, can anyone give some (christianly) advice for this situation? Can anyone relate at all? Thanks!

[Livy101]

Hey i can relate to your brother actually and my sister is like you not that shes done drugs but shes worried about me. Im feeling so much better now that ive made some choices in my life. Honestly you cant change him. He has to change himself, you can always try and talk to him even if he gets mad and when hes ready he will open up to someone. It might not be you though but unless you know hes gonna do drugs one night and can tell ur parents you cant always be watching him. You just have to support him but not in anger because that will make him more distant. You have to just trust him until he proves you wrong and then take action because you cant always be on his back because it makes it worse and more overwhelming. Thats just my opinion i used to cut myself and that was how i let out my feelings because everyone was already worried so i thought if they knew my other problems they would suffocate me with attention and trying to help. But good luck! Hope it goes well

[joni]

Thanks! makes sense.

[brillyx]

I went through the same thing your brother did at around 13 aswell. I started thinking that everything killing and slapstick was funny and cool. It's honestly just a stage you go through in your life.

I am now 15 years old and I still do play M-rated games and watch R-rated movies, but I look at them from a more mature stand point. I understand that they are just games and I don't relate them to real life. Your brother will just have to go through transformation like I did.


However, I warn you that if your brother does not receive the proper discipline and is not told that those games are just games, then he could very well be affected by all the negatives involved. For example my parents did not let me play M-rated war games until I was 13. Then when I was 14 they let me get into a little more scarier and bizarre M-rated games. Then at 15 they let me get into Grand Theft Auto games because they knew I had matured.