Rights As Parents?
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Rights As Parents?
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Tonight I was thinking about something and I am curious to know what you all think being this is a contrversal issue. It involves Child Disiplin. Recently one of my good friends was sentenced to 20 years in Prision for 'Child Abuse'. Appearently it is 'Against the Law' to spank your child(ren). This brings me to the topic at hand. Do we have any rights as parents anymore? How are we suppose to disiplin our children when it is 'illigal' and 'child abuse'? If we spank them, we are 'abusing our child'. If we make them stand in a corner it is 'Child Abuse'. How are we to teach our children what is right and what is wrong when we have no rights as parents? I was over at my friends house a lot and yes he would 'tan the boys ass' if he got out of line. But he never 'abused' the child in my book. Yes; The kids ass was a little sore for a while after but he never left ANY bruses or ANY marks. The kids ass would be red but thats life. So I ask you to vote in this poll and reply and let me know what you think.
PS: Moderators, I am not 100% sure where this would go so I am putting it here. If you move it please delete this.
Tonight I was thinking about something and I am curious to know what you all think being this is a contrversal issue. It involves Child Disiplin. Recently one of my good friends was sentenced to 20 years in Prision for 'Child Abuse'. Appearently it is 'Against the Law' to spank your child(ren). This brings me to the topic at hand. Do we have any rights as parents anymore? How are we suppose to disiplin our children when it is 'illigal' and 'child abuse'? If we spank them, we are 'abusing our child'. If we make them stand in a corner it is 'Child Abuse'. How are we to teach our children what is right and what is wrong when we have no rights as parents? I was over at my friends house a lot and yes he would 'tan the boys ass' if he got out of line. But he never 'abused' the child in my book. Yes; The kids ass was a little sore for a while after but he never left ANY bruses or ANY marks. The kids ass would be red but thats life. So I ask you to vote in this poll and reply and let me know what you think.
PS: Moderators, I am not 100% sure where this would go so I am putting it here. If you move it please delete this.
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I voted 'Yes'. I do believe a child at times is in need of 'tough lovin'. Else the child will never learn what is wrong and right. Personally if my child (assuming I do have one someday), I will not hesitate to tan his/her ass if they get out of line. Simple as that.
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I voted yes. Not a slap across the face, but sometimes a spanking.
Anything across the face isnt good and that is abuse, but anything like the butt where good fat cells are is a good spot.
Anything across the face isnt good and that is abuse, but anything like the butt where good fat cells are is a good spot.
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Well mothers slap their children. I dont believe a 'mothers slap' is wrong. Simple as this:
Fathers ? Tan the ass of their child if the need came.
Mothers ? Ones who would slap the child if the need came.
Fathers ? Tan the ass of their child if the need came.
Mothers ? Ones who would slap the child if the need came.
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I really do not know what I think is right in this situation. I recognize that sometimes children(and people in general) only respond to painful stimuli, making a spanking necessary in the eyes of some... but then again this right can be so easily abused by perverted parents who get joy in the pain of others... If you were to read the way child abuse laws (and all abuse/assault laws) are written they would disallow this action, but all laws are open to interpretation... Both sides have very good arguments to them.
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What does everyone else think?
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I chose "Undecided." I think that children deserve to be punished if they do something wrong, but I'm undecided about whether or not "spankings" are a good punishment.
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i don't think a child should be hit on the face at all, it is just wrong...as for spanking..i think it can be necesary for some kids...as long as it doesn't get out of hand. I was spanked every once in a while...i don't think it screwed me up...i love my parents...
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I think as long as its not hard enough to leave a mark- and not hard enough to HURT the child, then yes.
Just enough to shock the child, so they realise that what they are doing is WRONG. Like if they are about to burn themselves, then its perfectly in order.
But only with the hand. Using any object at all is cruel and unnecessary.
Just enough to shock the child, so they realise that what they are doing is WRONG. Like if they are about to burn themselves, then its perfectly in order.
But only with the hand. Using any object at all is cruel and unnecessary.
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I chose no...ive been "spanked" quite a few times. My mom's also smacked me right across the face too many times to count, even when i did nothing wrong. It'll give their children the wrong idea and think that theyre ALWAYS doing something wrong, i know what is like...being somewhat of a victim of it and all. It sucks ass...it's not as much actually get hit, the pain that hurts....its more along the lines of emotional pain. Along with getting slapped, abused, what not....im verbally abused ALL the time. Abuse, no matter what kind, shouldnt happen....the children will get the wrong idea no matter how young or old they are.
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i voted yes.....i think a child needs to be disciplined..a little tap on the but wouldnt be bad.......but i would choose a timeout for my kids...i would never hit them.....and a slap across the face is mean.....i would never even think of hitting my child acros the face...thats cruel
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I think that parents should be allowed to spank their kids every now and again. It's the only way to get them into line and get them disciplined, and if you're raised undisciplined it can seriously screw over the rest of your life.
Of course, a lot of parents take it too far. They 'abuse' their position as parents to discipline their children and end up just being abusive. They're kind of abusing it and as a result everyone else gets that maternal/paternal right taken away from them.
I don't think the law should be so 'blind' in these cases. Some people are abusive, and yes, they should be punished. A lot. Meanwhile other people are getting thrown into jail for spanking their child when it's been screaming cuss words your next door neighbor taught them at the top of its lungs for the past two and a half hours because you won't give it more Kool-Aid and let it watch four more hours of the Power Rangers Marathon.
Furthermore, if a child of mine starts hitting ME and I'm not allowed to hit back, that's terrible. What are you teaching your kids--you can hit people and nothing happens, except no T.V. for half an hour? As I said. Some people ruin it for everyone else.
Of course, a lot of parents take it too far. They 'abuse' their position as parents to discipline their children and end up just being abusive. They're kind of abusing it and as a result everyone else gets that maternal/paternal right taken away from them.
I don't think the law should be so 'blind' in these cases. Some people are abusive, and yes, they should be punished. A lot. Meanwhile other people are getting thrown into jail for spanking their child when it's been screaming cuss words your next door neighbor taught them at the top of its lungs for the past two and a half hours because you won't give it more Kool-Aid and let it watch four more hours of the Power Rangers Marathon.
Furthermore, if a child of mine starts hitting ME and I'm not allowed to hit back, that's terrible. What are you teaching your kids--you can hit people and nothing happens, except no T.V. for half an hour? As I said. Some people ruin it for everyone else.
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I chose no; I was never hit as a child (well, ok, maybe spanked once or twice) and I will never do it to my future kids!
Does anyone else think it should be moved? Family/Friends? Abuse?
Does anyone else think it should be moved? Family/Friends? Abuse?
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like Kiyote said i think once or twice is ok but beyond that is too much. there are other ways to disipline a child like taking something they enjoy away.
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