I "grew Some Balls"
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I "grew Some Balls"
Alright, here's my situation. All of my life, I've been the "nice girl" that will always help a person in need. I'll do people's homework, let them cut in line to be with friends, you name it...I'll do it. And I never get any credit for it. A lot of my friends tell me that I let "people walk all over me", but I think I'm just being nice. Well, next year I will be a senior in high school, and that means I get "Senior Duty" on the bus. Meaning...I get to boss everyone around, and I don't think I'm cut out for it. Well, today a kid on the bus asked me to trade seats with him....and I told him "no". (we used to have assigned seats on the bus, and ever since then I've sat in the same seat). The kid got all huffy and even offered me money to move. Again, I said "I'll live without your money, and you'll live without this seat."
Was that the right thing to do? Should I not let people "walk all over me"...or should I just go back to being the nice quiet girl that will help everyone?
Please help!
Was that the right thing to do? Should I not let people "walk all over me"...or should I just go back to being the nice quiet girl that will help everyone?
Please help!
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One year- September 1st, 2004
And I can't find the bridge from my mind to reality
I'm trying to find a place in the sun
But I'm drowning in the rain that's falling
Every place I go
One year- September 1st, 2004
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I don't see anything wrong with it.
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Yeah that was totally fine! See, Im exactly the same way, its one of my faults that Im not more forward or true to myself. One way to help myself is I think I am a business woman and if I dont deal with people in a strict manner sometimes, the business (my life) will , well, go out of business! You dont have to treat everyone with a strict, no bullshit manner, some people I just love and could never do that to! But I have a few friends who tend to use me a little bit, or whine a lot and self pity themselves and kinda corerce me into doing stuff, I just gotta wrap them around my little finger and not take their crap. Its aight, Im workin on it, and you can get the hang of it too
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Re: I "grew Some Balls"
To be honest, if I was that kid I'd think you were being kind of a bitch It's alright to not let people walk all over you, but if you start giving them attitude, you're gonna make people pissed off. There's a difference between being assertive and just being rude.
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That's exactly what I thought, love...I don't want to be labeled as a bitch :-(
Well I'm caught between myself and me
And I can't find the bridge from my mind to reality
I'm trying to find a place in the sun
But I'm drowning in the rain that's falling
Every place I go
One year- September 1st, 2004
And I can't find the bridge from my mind to reality
I'm trying to find a place in the sun
But I'm drowning in the rain that's falling
Every place I go
One year- September 1st, 2004
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hey dont feel bad i think it was the right thing to do dont let people get their way all the time and dont let people bribe u into doing something u dont wanna do and dont let them push u around goolduck
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Re: I "grew Some Balls"
Hey hey, don't worry about it. If someone asks you to do something you don't wanna do, just say no. But don't say it in a "I feel really bad for letting you down..." kinda way. You have every right to say No.Originally posted by DarkDespair@Jan 14 2004, 08:52 PM
That's exactly what I thought, love...I don't want to be labeled as a bitch :-(
....know what I mean? Heh.
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Originally posted by DarkDespair@Jan 14 2004, 04:52 PM
That's exactly what I thought, love...I don't want to be labeled as a bitch :-(
Oh fuck that. You'll never please everyone, and standing up for yourself always makes you out to be the bitch to someone. There was nothing wrong for you not wanting to move and don't let anyone tell you that you were. Of course that kid who wanted your seat thinks you're an ass. But you aren't. That's just him being an ass. You can't please everyone so don't try to always be the nice girl. Look out for yourself first.
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well dont let people walk all over you...like dont let people cut in line b/c there isnt a good reason for it...was there a good reason why you needed to sit in that seat? Stand up for yourself but dont be a bitch...if he was willing to pay you then maybe he had a reason for wanting to sit there...
stand up for yourself when it counts, dont do it just to spite others...you never know when you'll need a favor
stand up for yourself when it counts, dont do it just to spite others...you never know when you'll need a favor
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What? Why do your posts always confuse the hell out of me Rast?Originally posted by rast@Jan 16 2004, 05:31 PM
that was super mature response
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she finally stood up for herself give her some credit. ur not a bitch u just liked that seat. what's wrong with that?
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You ponder others, growing ever wakeful,
You've locked the vermin in the other bedroom,
To be so perfect causes you to feel so thankful,
Now find the fault because your boyfriend can't read,
Reflecting on to you is all the bitterness you need,
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Never found beaten down with your forked tongue tied.
Your eulogy is like poetry,
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Names constant on your cracked lips are now eviscerated,
Your spine is made of metal, Your veins are bound in electric tape,
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Yough cought up an offering and forget which words are lies,
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You ponder others, growing ever wakeful,
You've locked the vermin in the other bedroom,
To be so perfect causes you to feel so thankful,
Now find the fault because your boyfriend can't read,
Reflecting on to you is all the bitterness you need,
So unhappy, yet so preoccupied,
Never found beaten down with your forked tongue tied.
Your eulogy is like poetry,
But your mouth is like a magazine.
Queen dependency is cowering, please don't be confused,
You are vacant and submissive, receptive to abuse,
Virtue isn't tangible, and sense of self is dated,
Names constant on your cracked lips are now eviscerated,
Your spine is made of metal, Your veins are bound in electric tape,
And all along an impulse lights at random in your face,
Yough cought up an offering and forget which words are lies,
Then your skull echoes a singeing pop, as your brain is cauterized.
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Re: I "grew Some Balls"
I used to let people walk all over me, and it's not fun. But I think you did the right thing by not letting him have that seat, it's like the first step.
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Nothing at all.Originally posted by lash@Jan 19 2004, 09:14 PM
she finally stood up for herself give her some credit. ur not a bitch u just liked that seat. what's wrong with that?
All I'm saying is there's a difference between standing up for yourself, and giving people attitude. I'm not pretending I don't do it, hell I used to do it all the time, that's how I made enemies But being assertive is not giving people smart come backs or putting them in their place. It's just knowing what you'll do and what you won't.
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child you just have to tell them to go get a life b/c you are happy where you are! I used to be really quite to and then i hit public school and some bad stuff happened, and now i am alot more evil, i suppose. I used to ignore it if a guy hit me or touched me and i would even apologize if i hurt them when they hit me but now i have changed alot! If you touch me stop or i am going to slap you. I mean i am nice and all b/c i hate fighting but sometimes you just have to stop people.
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I used to let people walk all over me. That wasnt good. Once in a while it will happen but i guess it is better to be a little more assertive. And dont worry you wont be labeled as a bitch.
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