Ok. Right now I'm a junior, so this is something I'm really starting to consider [though it's been on my mind for a LOONG time.] I want to be a neuroscientist, and right now the plan is Universaity of Texas at Dallas [I'm in El Paso tx]. They're the most finantially feisable [I'm like... a shoe in for one of their academic scholarships + loan and/or finatial aid and I'm set.] and they have the program I want [Neuroscience... ahh it's music to my ears].
The thing is... my parents [or rather mother, my dad just does what she tells him] suport me not at all. They want me to go to some sort of cheep technical school after high school, and waste my life away in el paso. If I were good, and could at least most of the finances covered, they might let me go to UT elpaso, or the community college. And UTEP is like among the best engeneering coleges anywhere... but I DON'T WANT TO BE AN ENGENEER! And they have neuroscience not. That's not the place for me to be. Besides that, I HATE elpaso and I'm ditching this town first chance I get.
That means takeing care of college stuff without their knowlage [I'm going to have to like... use one of my friends' addresses or something, because she goes though my mail [I often wonder how many letters she's thrown away from various colleges]] And I'm wondering... is that possible? I mean... how involved do collegs expect parents to be during the application process and such? And for finantial aid? I don't like... need parental signatures do I? Would finantial aid ever even consider the fact that, even though my family makes a nice living and would normaly be makeing a nice contrabution towards my college expenses, I'm just NOT going to get any help from them?
This all seems so complecated... and don't tell me to talk to them about it. I will, eventually, but it will be a[nother] fight and there is no reasoning with her. I'm on my own with this, and it's better that they not know that I plan to up and walk out one day untill the day I do it.
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Re: College....
I think you can just do what you think is right for you. Even w/o your parents support for now.
Are they only concerned about tuition ($$$ )or is there something else they want out of you? I personally think your parents are just concerned about finances and that's why they disagree with you going to the univeristy of your choice.
When you do talk to them, make sure to clear those things up.
As for now, you're still a junior...there's still lots of time to worry about university.
Are they only concerned about tuition ($$$ )or is there something else they want out of you? I personally think your parents are just concerned about finances and that's why they disagree with you going to the univeristy of your choice.
When you do talk to them, make sure to clear those things up.
As for now, you're still a junior...there's still lots of time to worry about university.
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parents arent as involved as say in high school, i mean u give the college ur address where they will send all possible mail and stuff, and it doesnt have to be ur parents address, if ur parents wont help u pay i'd say claim independence on ur taxes, and that way fafsa should help u pay for it
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Originally posted by 5a5@Aug 24 2004, 10:53 PM
parents arent as involved as say in high school, i mean u give the college ur address where they will send all possible mail and stuff, and it doesnt have to be ur parents address, if ur parents wont help u pay i'd say claim independence on ur taxes, and that way fafsa should help u pay for it
Bull shit, they expect ALOT out of your parents. And theres no way to claim indipendance inless your married or have been ward of the court when you were 18 years of age. My fiance had to work his ass off to be claimed as independant of his parents. They still wanted to track his father down and make him pay for his schooling. (glad they didn't his dad is RICH but is very free flowing with money so as soon as he gets it its gone). so your shit out of luck. If your parents are around, rather they want to help you or not, they are responcible for futhering your education in the eyes of the government.
This is what is on the paper i recived from my college about my financial aid:
College budget (yearly) --- $8.760
Family Contribution -------- $1 919
Financial Need -------------- $6, 841
Unment need --------------- $4 741
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I really don't have much of a clue what that all means. But thats about the correct amount for going to a college in Michigan all year, 4 or so classes. so i think thats what its baced on. so my parents well, I am incharge of $1, 919 a year, or thats what i would have to split w/ my parents if they wanted to help me out.
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I understand parent being unsupportive of going away to college. Unfortunatly, they have to sign your FASFA if you're applying for government aid. Also, most loans need a co-borrower. My advice, go around them. Do what you want that will make you happy. I went $75,000 into debt to go to school, but I got a degree that I am proud of.
You'll find a way, talk to a guidence counselor about financing college.
Good luck
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Originally posted by Cindy+Aug 25 2004, 11:25 AM--<table border='0' align='center' width='95%' cellpadding='3' cellspacing='1'<tr<tdQUOTE (Cindy @ Aug 25 2004, 11:25 AM)</td</tr<tr<td id='QUOTE'<!--QuoteBegin-5a5@Aug 24 2004, 10:53 PM
parents arent as involved as say in high school, i mean u give the college ur address where they will send all possible mail and stuff, and it doesnt have to be ur parents address, if ur parents wont help u pay i'd say claim independence on ur taxes, and that way fafsa should help u pay for it
Bull shit, they expect ALOT out of your parents. And theres no way to claim indipendance inless your married or have been ward of the court when you were 18 years of age. My fiance had to work his ass off to be claimed as independant of his parents. They still wanted to track his father down and make him pay for his schooling. (glad they didn't his dad is RICH but is very free flowing with money so as soon as he gets it its gone). so your shit out of luck. If your parents are around, rather they want to help you or not, they are responcible for futhering your education in the eyes of the government.
This is what is on the paper i recived from my college about my financial aid:
College budget (yearly) --- $8.760
Family Contribution -------- $1 919
Financial Need -------------- $6, 841
Unment need --------------- $4 741
----------------------------------------------
I really don't have much of a clue what that all means. But thats about the correct amount for going to a college in Michigan all year, 4 or so classes. so i think thats what its baced on. so my parents well, I am incharge of $1, 919 a year, or thats what i would have to split w/ my parents if they wanted to help me out.[/b][/quote]
bullshit, not where i live, many people that i know pretty much claim independence with no problem, they can move out and fafsa would help 'em through college, it's different in diff states so dont bitch at what i say, and the numbers u wrote up there are just a sample, it changes from year to year, and they have a nice little formula they use to determine family contribution and ur needs
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