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So, I have to go to a new school starting next year. I'm so scared. I'm leaving all of my friends who I love and adore and I'm afraid. What if I don't make new friends? Who will I sit with at lunch? What if my old friends forget me and never talk to me again?



I'm trying so hard to be brave...but this is so hard and I'm just so scared .



So, if you have any tips for me at all or if you've changed schools and you understand, please let me know. I can use all the help I can get.



I just have a constant mantra in my head of "I can do this", but I could definitely use some help and tips.



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I've actually just moved a few weeks ago to a whole different city four hours away, so I definitely understand your worries. You'll be in the same town right? So you'll still get to see your friends and I'm positive they won't forget about you. We also moved across town (in my old town) a year ago. There's only one highschool so I didn't have to switch schools, but my sister did. She had the same worries about her friends forgetting her. Although they did eventually grow apart, they never forgot her. After the first few days into the school year you'll feel a bit more comfortable I'm sure. The first day will be hard, I won't lie to you. I'm terrified about my first day because I don't know anyone yet either.



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Thanks Danica. :) You're a sweetheart.



We'll definitely talk about this. It's nice to be able to "go through it" with someone who understands.



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I've been to eight high schools- no joke. And you'd think it would get easier as I got more practice, but it's still hard every single time, BUT it wasn't as hard as I would make it to be in my head.

Here are some tips that have been helpful for me...

-The first few days are really important because you won't be the ONLY new kid, depending on the school itself, people expect to have new kids and it's not as awkward then to meet people, in fact people came up to me often saying 'are you new?' .. it's a good conversation starter, take advantage of anyone who starts a conversation with you, and possibly make a goal of how many people you're going to initiate conversations with

-think of things that you could talk to people about, do they play sports, do they like the school, show someone your schedule do they think the teacher you got are good, etc.

-Just sit with people at lunch who you think you'd want to be friends with, sure the actual process of sitting down is awkward (if you feel really awkward ask if you can join, but sometimes that makes you look even more awkward, trying to be more natural and confident seems to be the better route)

-join clubs, sports! so important

-connect with people in your class, arrange times to study together

-have a good relationship with your guidance counselor, if things are horrible and you have a good relationship with him/her, that can always be helpful

-see if you have any friends that know friends at your new school and could introduce you before school even starts



that's all i can think of right now, if you have any more questions, let me know, i've been through that a lot :D
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Aww hannah everything will be okay! Your a WONDERFUL girl, and NONE of your friends could ever forget someone like you! Your unique and everyone loves you! As for making new friends, I know you can! Becuase your hannah! And hannahs amazing! Just be yourself, && I know you can do it. If you make friends in class ask them if you can sit with them at lunch? And don't be scared!
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Hannah, first of all, you're an amazingly resiliant girl so I'm sure you will be fine. Let me tell you though, I transferred (while it's not quite the same thing) from a college of about 1600 where I could recognize almost everyone at least by face, and at least half the people by name, to a college of over 40000. It's intimidating, no doubt. You really just need to relax, and be yourself. I'm sure you will naturally gravitate to people you enjoy, so it's just a matter of finding those kids right away. Cameron I think also offers some great tips on what to do.
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Coming from someone thats switched school so many times that she forgets which one she currently attends Ill tell you this... Moving can be an amazing experience. You WILL make friends. It just happens, whether or not you try. (in most cases) And going someplace where no one knows you means you can lose all those inhibitions and just go for it and be yourself. As for your old friends. You can still keep in touch. I still keep in touch with people I went to first grade with. So yeah it can be done.



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Ive been to a million different schools (well not really a million, more like a trillion :lol: ) This year so far Ive only been to one high school thank god, but i went to 5 different middle schools. Ive been to so many different schools, that in most of them I dont even have a yearbook picture bc i wasnt there long enough to take any. Heres my advice:



*first of all its never as hard as u imagine it to be. I always thought that when i started in a new school no one would like me and i wouldnt have any friends. It was never horrible like that except for once in 6th grade



*About the lunch situation, find nice ppl in ur classes and spark up a conversation. Introduce urself and tell them ur new to the school and dont know anyone. Ask them if u can sit with them, if they dont already invite u too



* Most importantly, be urself. Show everyone ur amazing personality and dont be shy



*Join extra activities. Sports, clubs,etc. This year I played sports all three seasons, and i have to say thats what helped me the most. A guy that i liked (loved) ran track so we spent alot of time together.



-alot of this I'll be using myself also. I have to move to a different state in september, so i'll b in my old school for like a month or so and then im off to pensylvania.
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Thank you so much all of you. Your replies made me smile, and they were all so helpful. :)



I really don't think this is going to be as hard as I made it out to be. Don't get me wrong, I'm sure I'll be afraid and scared, but I think cameron is definitely right. I won't be the only new person. And I can make friends, I can do this.



Thank you again for all your support and advice. It means a lot to me, and it reminds me that I'm certainly not alone.



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