okay so i have my roomate and we have been dorming together for a couple of wks and he is nice but we have nothing in commen...
okay, you all know me - so here he is:
jockish, black, into rap, messy (clothes all over, food all over, etc), baggy clothes, etc...
i mean he is nice but there is just something that bothers me about him . . . he uses my shit alot (like laptop, cell phone, books*)
*we have the same comp I class and i had my book on the desk here and he has his own but then i couldn't find mine, and he came back in a few hrs later and was like "ohh is this your book?" and he was like " i didn't know where mine was, but thanks for letting me use it" meanwhile my "bookmark" (one of this little post its) was missing and i later found it lying in the middle of the hallway . . .
and so i was sleeping and i heard a drawer open and close and he was like "dude, i didn't know you had a dig camera..." and i said that i was very anal about it b/c i bought it and he was like how much was it and i told him 300 (okay, so it was 450, but i wasn't going to tell him that) and then he came back today and asked me if he could use my iPOD headset b/c he had just won an iPOD in a billiards game . . .
im not a gambler, and i personally see m y electronics as my children and i couldn't imagion A) betting it and even if i won, i couldn't take it, you know?
we just have different morals i guess . . .
~Jeff~
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- Saren
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It just sounds like you're more angry about the fact he's been using your stuff, and you really don't know him. I understand where you'd be upset in someone using your things out of disrespect like that. I think if it means that much, you have to be straight out with him. Tell him to ASK to use these things. I mean, just because you're roomies, doesn't mean everything that's yours is his (And vice versa). Tell him he needs to respect your stuff, just as much as he'd like you to respect his. EVEN if you don't use his, it's the thought that counts!
I don't know about the morals part, but everyone has their own. It's the fact that he needs to show more respect for you and your things or else he's held responsible for whatever he's done.
If it doesn't work out, I suggest you talk to someone there that deals with that kind of thing.
I'm sorry I'm not much help hun. But I really do hope you can get this fixed!
I don't know about the morals part, but everyone has their own. It's the fact that he needs to show more respect for you and your things or else he's held responsible for whatever he's done.
If it doesn't work out, I suggest you talk to someone there that deals with that kind of thing.
I'm sorry I'm not much help hun. But I really do hope you can get this fixed!
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I mean, definitely tell him sooner than later what's on your mind, and ask him to ask permission before he just decides to use it, but I think in the end it's more productive if you ease up perhaps a bit. Though that depends. Does he at least use your stuff in a respectful manner? I'm pretty anal about people using my computer, but after a while I've just loosened up about it a bit. I mean, I still like to know when people are using it, and I password protect it and everything, but in the end being twitchy and anal about letting people use my computer has gotten me nowhere, because there are always the occasions where you are using other people's stuff, and it's poor repayment to not let them use yours if they are in need. Be open and honest about it. College is a time for growth, and perhaps you guys can both learn things from this. Hope everything turns out ok in the end.
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well he does ask (execept the book b/c he "thought" it was his) but like he askes to use my phone and laptop - but it happens alot, you know?
yeah i see what you mean about it and such - the only thing i really use of his is his TV, which he said was okay - i let him use the fridge w/o asking you know??
but like the computer i have it password protected and he does us it respectfully (as far as i see) though the one time i turned it on and it said my battery was drained b/c he unplugged the battery cord . . .
hmm - i think we are slowly getting to now eachother - though he does yell at me (like last night (friday night) i was reading at 11-12 and fell asleep at 12 and he yelled at me telling me to get a life) but i can't help it if i enjoy sleep and am more of a morning person and get up at like 8-9am...
~Jeff~
yeah i see what you mean about it and such - the only thing i really use of his is his TV, which he said was okay - i let him use the fridge w/o asking you know??
but like the computer i have it password protected and he does us it respectfully (as far as i see) though the one time i turned it on and it said my battery was drained b/c he unplugged the battery cord . . .
hmm - i think we are slowly getting to now eachother - though he does yell at me (like last night (friday night) i was reading at 11-12 and fell asleep at 12 and he yelled at me telling me to get a life) but i can't help it if i enjoy sleep and am more of a morning person and get up at like 8-9am...
~Jeff~
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Well that's a whole different story. You never mentioned you LET him. If you let him, and you want to put it down to a minimum, then make it that way. If you constantly let him use your things, then it's a bit harsh to complain about him doing so. Just as long as he has a respect for your things. Some people make mistakes. Take that for, instance.
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Jeff, just tell him no next time he asks. I think pretty soon you guys will be filling out roommate agreements (at least thats what we did) and then it will have a space for borrowing things and what not. Thats your chance to MAKE SURE that you let him know what the rules are for using your stuff. If you aren't going to do something like that.. talk to him and tell him. Yeah, it would be nice to let him use your things if he asks once in a while but it shouldn't be happening all the time. If he doesn't have a computer then he needs to go to the computer lab not get on yours everytime he wants to use it.
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haha, yeah i let him and we did fill out those things and i did write down "borrowing - 3 out of 5) like im nuetral on it, i just don't want him going to sites or w/e that will cause viruses...
he has a desktop but hes too lazy to go down and get the net working on it - he keeps telling me he will but theres a line and everything - but we have a few classes together where papers are due and i am sorta scared that he might find my papers (haha yes i know i have control issues)
now he wants to use my comp. for limewire to download music, which is okay but its going to use up space on my harddrive - so i just need to remember to delete them as soon sa he downloads to his iPOD...haha...
~Jeff~
he has a desktop but hes too lazy to go down and get the net working on it - he keeps telling me he will but theres a line and everything - but we have a few classes together where papers are due and i am sorta scared that he might find my papers (haha yes i know i have control issues)
now he wants to use my comp. for limewire to download music, which is okay but its going to use up space on my harddrive - so i just need to remember to delete them as soon sa he downloads to his iPOD...haha...
~Jeff~