Well...i Don't Know How To Put It...

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Well...i Don't Know How To Put It...

Post by Trapped » Sat Jun 07, 2003 8:18 pm

:crying: :wallbash: :furious: Well I'm sry to burden y'all w/ this shitload of stuff, but I can't find ne1 else to turn to! I don't know what's wrong w/ me (oh and by the way, this is prob. gonna be som unorganized; so I apoligize for the inconvience of the comprehension (if that makes sense)...I seem to lose my friends as soon as I make them-which leaves me unsure about them and always changin them. when I think I may have found some stable friends I push them away with my shyness, negativity, lack of confidence, self-hatred....I never know what to say except for the wrong thing. I wish I could hold on to them b/c theyu're really great: they listen to me, they try to help, and they don't just leave em in the dust....but you can't force a friendship..............I guess I've never eally had a clse friendship w/ ne1...jus wanted to.....and so I want it so badly that I'm forcing itl therefore pushing my new frinds away b4 we have a chance. My 1st question, I guess, is how do I keep these (and by the way the 3 I'm talkin about are all guys (one w/ a g/f, one, really caring, and one who doesn't get too close to dat many ppl (jus so u know who they are a lil bit) 3 friends, so I can maybe have a closer friendship w/ them instead of drive them away w/ my distorted self-image-realted problems? Any advice?.....So I guess from all of that I'm asking how to stay friends w/ some1 since I've never really had a best friend, jus wish i did/do... :'(

(oh by the way this one of a few of my.....issues...)

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Re: Well...i Don't Know How To Put It...

Post by Adnama » Sat Jun 07, 2003 8:59 pm

*sighs* I don't really have much advice I'm afraid... but if it helps, you're not the only one o.< I know what thats like, I'm the same way.



All I can tell you is... don't ever give up on people I guess... unfortunately thats what I've done, and I do not reccomend it. Keep trying... their are people out there I think.



And speeking from experiance, sometimes the better friends are to be found online. I don't have any real friends in the real world, but online... I have some of the best friends you could ever ask for.
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Post by Trapped » Sat Jun 07, 2003 9:04 pm

ok thanx a lot. Just....well I'm happy to receive any responce do thanx again.
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Post by lil_angel_lover » Sat Jun 07, 2003 11:34 pm

Hun pushing away only comes natural 2 u, b cuz of all the times u've lost friends. I'm sure thatz why u have shyness 2. Try 2 open up 2 these three friends u have found. If they r true friends they won't push away from u, or hate u b cuz u have problems. Every 1 has problems. Don't b afraid 2 entrust these new friends w/it.

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Post by Hara-Kiri » Sun Jun 08, 2003 11:26 am

Just take it easy, go slow, dont push anything. If that friendship is meant to be, then it'll be. For now, consider yourself lucky for having friends. Some people cant have the chance to post something like your post cause they simply have no friends. Some of us are just lucky we find great people online.
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