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Post by lil_angel_lover » Wed Jun 11, 2003 3:32 pm

<span style=\'color:blue\'So we're moving n a week or 2. And I don't like the house we're moving n 2. I asked my parents if my feelings on the house counted, and they said "No, but if u pay half the rent they might." So I went 2 my room and cried b cuz my sisters feelings mattered enough 2 them that they tried 2 convince her that the house was great. Then I told them I didn't want 2 live n that house, and they said "Well u don't have 2 live n that house. Ur 16 years old now, go find a different place 2 live." So they r kicking me out whenever we move. :( What do I do on the streets. With only a few possesions? N e body know?

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Post by iHEAVENn » Wed Jun 11, 2003 3:41 pm

aww hun, where exactly do you live again??



your parents are real jerks. they cant kick you out just because you dont wanna live in that house.

do you have a friend that you can stay with??

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Post by daffodildreams » Wed Jun 11, 2003 6:00 pm

It doesn't sound like they are kicking you out.. you need to set the things straight instead of going off to your room and crying or spending time on here :/



I know moving house is a stressful time, but try and make the most of it. It isn't like you are going to be living there forever is it??



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Post by Adnama » Wed Jun 11, 2003 7:51 pm

Originally posted by fruitloop@Jun 11 2003, 04:00 PM

It doesn't sound like they are kicking you out..





thats what i told her, but dose she lissten to me?? noooo



People, especialy parents, say stuff like that out of anger sometimes.



I've had issues about my bed before [cant.. remember any of 'em but take my word for it] and have been told to go sleep outside. I always ignored them when they did that, but i know that if i had actually tried to go sleep out side my parents wouldnt have let me.



Its probably a simmiler situation here =P
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Post by lil_angel_lover » Thu Jun 12, 2003 12:08 am

I'm sorry guys, but my parents would stop at nothing 2 kick me out. They r mad at me 4 getting them reported 5 times. They r also mad at me thinking I put the thought of abuse n my sisters head. They have wanted 2 kick me out 4 so long. And now that I'm 16 they can just act like they r letting me move out. And make every 1 feel like nothing is going on. I think I'll call social services when I do get kicked out. Get put n a foster home or sumthing. N e place is better then here. I just am scared b cuz I don't know how 2 live on my own. I know that u all r here 4 me. And I'm just scared that I'm gonna die when I'm alone on the street.
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Post by Hara-Kiri » Thu Jun 12, 2003 3:24 pm

I'd say you sit down with them, and being calmed discuss whats going on. Parents say lots of things they dont mean when they are ungry, so try to talk to them when everyone is calmed, and explain them how you feel. Hopefully they'll understand.
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Post by lil_angel_lover » Thu Jun 12, 2003 11:51 pm

I've been reported 5 times 2 DFS and they have done nothing 2 help me. Even though we had proof of Physical Abuse. They just threw us n family counseling and acted like it would help. I've also tried talking 2 my parents about it, but they ignore me. They don't care what happens 2 me they want rid of me. :(
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Post by Nikki » Fri Jun 13, 2003 9:01 am

oh.. what about your sister? You say they somewhat care about her. Are you close to her? I dunno, maybe you could talk to her..?
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Post by lil_angel_lover » Fri Jun 13, 2003 10:35 pm

My sister is 11 years old. And when I do tell her sumthing she stores it n her brain 2 never think of again. B cuz thatz what my parents taught her 2 do. :(
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Post by punksquirrel » Sat Jun 14, 2003 12:35 am

[quote]I'd say you sit down with them, and being calmed discuss whats going on.

I know you say that they ignore you, but I really do think that if you had an open discussion with your parents it would help a lot. You need the whole family to sit down and talk this thing out...make sure you don't misunderstand anything or anyone. It may be hard but sometimes you just need to get over it and talk, it will make you feel much better. :)
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Post by diane2ns » Sat Jun 14, 2003 1:56 am

First of all, I completely agree with you that DCFS is a bunch of bull because they seriously don't do anything. But as far as your having to leave the house, it doesn't sound like the worst situation if it gets you out, surviving is a different story. Call social services the second after your parents leave. You don't want to spend any more time on the streets than you have to. Good luck.
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Post by Kiyotie » Sat Jun 14, 2003 9:45 am

any house is better than no house, even though they were definatly in the wrong i'd suggest appologizing to them and living with them again. as for if you don't want to applogize, you can come live with me :D
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Post by lil_angel_lover » Sat Jun 14, 2003 10:06 pm

Yeah, I'd love 2 live w/u Kiyotie. I know that my parents won't listen 2 me, so I can't talk 2 them. And yes I'd rather live on the street n stead of w/them. But ur right. I should just call social services when I'm out of my house, and then maybe, if they care about teenagers enough, They'll find it n there heart 2 place me n a foster home. :) *crosses fingers*
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