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Scared Of School

Post by Jezgirl » Tue Jul 08, 2003 3:02 am

I am currently in the middle of summer vacation. but, next year, i am transfering to a public high school. i have always gone to private school, and am used to a class of about 12 people, and school of about 40 people tops. But now im going to go to a big school building, with about 40 people in one class, and about 1200 people in the school at minimum! I am a social phobic, and am terrified of people, mostly teanagers around where i live. they all seem really mean, and i usually dont get along well with the teenagers around here cuz im overwheight and am not really that pretty, and love to study and that stuff. but now im going to be with the huge high school. it sounds small, but to me, this is going to be a complete invironment change. i have seen the way the teenagers act, and i am just so different from them. i want to just run away and hide. :'(

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Post by daffodildreams » Tue Jul 08, 2003 7:34 am

With 1200 minimum people in your new school and 40 people in your class you shouldn't have ANY problems making new friends :) There will also be the oppurtunity to join out of school clubs and stuff which means you can meet people more attuned to your styles.



You won't be that "different" in the new school, don't worry about it. I know you'll worry anyway, but you'll be laughing at your worries 2 weeks into the new term ;)



Make the most of your time there, you're only young once!! Social phobias can be overcome and everybody is just a bit apprehenious about new situations, it's natural and human to be like that. :)

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Post by Shwynsh » Tue Jul 08, 2003 11:46 am

Hey.. yeah public schools can be hard, because there are so many people. But, with all those people, there is SO many different TYPES of people. Theres no chance that you won't find someone with the same interests as you. Don't worry about that. There are some teenagers who are mean in every place, and they're just losers that you don't need to let bother you. Just be confident ... or act confident until you believe it. Its scary at first, but you really get used to it.
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Post by Jaegermeister » Tue Jul 08, 2003 12:15 pm

Yeah, I would not worry about it because most people are nice people. I won't lie to you and say that you will be accepted by everyone, but I know that you will find nice people who will be your friends and you will get along well with. Don't sweat it :)



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Post by fire~fly » Wed Jul 09, 2003 1:52 pm

with 1200 people in the school there are bound to be other people like you who want to learn and things at school rather than purely socialise. the teenagers that you see around where you live are also probably the minority with the rest of the people being fairly nice and friendly people but the way they act makes them much more noticeable whilr everyone else fades into the background and you don't see them leading you to thinkt hat everyone is the same.

don;t worry too much...you are bound to feel anxious by tyhis new situation but it will go ok once you get there. join lots of clubs and groups for things you are interested in as it is an easy way to meet loadsa people who have similar interests and it'll make the whole process of settling in much easier if you don't feel so isolated :)

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Post by xJuliex » Wed Jul 09, 2003 4:24 pm

It's ok. Don't feel bad. I son't fit in either, and I'm smart and ugly!!! But I doubt you're ugly, since only a few people in this world truly are. It'll be ok. Just be yourself, and be nice! :P
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Post by flavaoftheweak » Thu Jul 10, 2003 6:41 pm

hahaha this happened to me. expect it was middle school, and i was hated in private school. i was so worried, but guess what? everyone was SOO nice, and i made tons of friends, got a chance to show my real colors, be loved for who i am, and sooo much more. i got to be on track team, and having big classes ISNT that big of a deal.



im sure you will find people that love you for who you are and you will totally fit in. dont worry! if you ever want to talk, pm me.



good luck! you'll do FINE!



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Re: Scared Of School

Post by faith » Fri Jul 18, 2003 11:48 am

hey there. i tranferred from private to publis a ways back. but man. i cant stress this more. go there opne minded and w/ a good attitude. go up to ppl and be like hey! im new and im so scared im notg ognna meet anyone since im a transfer student. be honest. tell them that ur scared. but ur gonna have to push urself in order to do this. good luck and god bless! :)
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