Sexuality In Profiles
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It's unneeded.
What's the point of displaying ones sexuality? It's not as if it matters, and if it did, you start getting a few predjudice people in here and it should be a show.
I'd wait for that fight to break out, should be some good entertainment.
What's the point of displaying ones sexuality? It's not as if it matters, and if it did, you start getting a few predjudice people in here and it should be a show.
I'd wait for that fight to break out, should be some good entertainment.
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I don't think it's a 'good idea' to have sexual orientation listed in our profiles. [even IF a member has the right to not answer that question] To me - it would be like having someone's RACE listed in their profile. What's the point - in other words. The idea that it would [as 'sammy' said] ".....let people know where everyone stands" - confuses me a bit. Gay people don't think alike. You can't assume things about ME just because you know my sexual orientation. Sexual orientation is not a 'box'. Gay or bi people can be just a different from one another as they can be from other straight people. [as straight people can be different from other straight people OR other gay people, etc.]
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Alrighty, you asked for my opinion...so here it is. There is no definite yes or no. A lot of you will think that it's your business and your business alone, unless you want others to know, which is why the option would be optional, unlike your gender. Gender must be answered, however, we did give you an option to choose if you'd rather that people did not know. The vast majority of people are more than happy to say what their sexual preference is, but this group is split into many, many categories.
There are those who are very proud to be gay, bisexual, straight (or other, if I forgot one during this). There are those who are either of the above and not proud of it. There are those who are the above and are still learning to accept who they are. There are even a lot of people who just simply do not know, yet, and I feel it wrong to ask it of them. Having this profile field also reminds me of an online matchmaking site...and TeenHelp most definitely is not one of them.
Personally, I don't care if it's added or not. I find it both totally unnecessary and a good option, provided it be totally optional and there be anonymous options such as "Prefer Not To Disclose" or "Nonya Business." I don't really want this to become a heated "debate" as Sammy has called it. Last night I could have added this when Sammy asked me, but I felt it better to post it in suggestions so that people could post their opinions on the matter. I don't really want this to turn into a spam topic about "Will and Grace." I want this topic to remain objective and from this point on should contain the users opinions on the subject.
There are those who are very proud to be gay, bisexual, straight (or other, if I forgot one during this). There are those who are either of the above and not proud of it. There are those who are the above and are still learning to accept who they are. There are even a lot of people who just simply do not know, yet, and I feel it wrong to ask it of them. Having this profile field also reminds me of an online matchmaking site...and TeenHelp most definitely is not one of them.
Personally, I don't care if it's added or not. I find it both totally unnecessary and a good option, provided it be totally optional and there be anonymous options such as "Prefer Not To Disclose" or "Nonya Business." I don't really want this to become a heated "debate" as Sammy has called it. Last night I could have added this when Sammy asked me, but I felt it better to post it in suggestions so that people could post their opinions on the matter. I don't really want this to turn into a spam topic about "Will and Grace." I want this topic to remain objective and from this point on should contain the users opinions on the subject.
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Alright, we need some new faces in here. What do other people think? Everyone, send this topic to your friends on the site, because it shouldn't be up to ten people.
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Actually, you have the group of people who are here for the sole purpose of trying to figure out if they're something other than straight.
If they have to answer that, even if it is optional, they're going to feel weird about it.
It's not fair to do that to them. If you really must know what they're sexual preference is, just ask them in a quick PM or of the sorts. It's fairly simple.
If they have to answer that, even if it is optional, they're going to feel weird about it.
It's not fair to do that to them. If you really must know what they're sexual preference is, just ask them in a quick PM or of the sorts. It's fairly simple.
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This is very true...I didn't claim to state all the different categories. I just stated some off the top of my mind. What you say is very true and that's why I said I feel it wrong to ask it of them. We obviousely cannot speak for everyone here.Originally posted by Emily@Aug 3 2003, 12:13 PM
Actually, you have the group of people who are here for the sole purpose of trying to figure out if they're something other than straight.
If they have to answer that, even if it is optional, they're going to feel weird about it.
It's not fair to do that to them. If you really must know what they're sexual preference is, just ask them in a quick PM or of the sorts. It's fairly simple.
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Say you had options like this:
Heterosexual
Homosexual
Bisexual
Deciding between Het/Bi
Deciding between Bi/Homo
Unsure
Prefer not to answer
Heterosexual
Homosexual
Bisexual
Deciding between Het/Bi
Deciding between Bi/Homo
Unsure
Prefer not to answer
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No, those "deciding between" options are a bad idea.
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I respect your opinion, but why?Originally posted by Skye@Aug 3 2003, 03:17 PM
No, those "deciding between" options are a bad idea.
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I respect your opinion, but why?[/b][/quote]Originally posted by Sammy+Aug 3 2003, 12:18 PM--<table border='0' align='center' width='95%' cellpadding='3' cellspacing='1'<tr<tdQUOTE (Sammy @ Aug 3 2003, 12:18 PM)</td</tr<tr<td id='QUOTE'<!--QuoteBegin-Skye@Aug 3 2003, 03:17 PM
No, those "deciding between" options are a bad idea.
They just seem wrong....
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I really don't see how this contributes to helping people at all, I couldn't give a definite answer and like Emily stated.. a lot of people on here just don't have a clue and need to come here to figure it out anyway!
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If you'd like to know so badly, ask them.
Now stop being a nuisance and leave it alone.
Now stop being a nuisance and leave it alone.
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This is very true...I didn't claim to state all the different categories. I just stated some off the top of my mind. What you say is very true and that's why I said I feel it wrong to ask it of them. We obviousely cannot speak for everyone here.[/b][/quote]Originally posted by Skye+Aug 3 2003, 07:14 PM--<table border='0' align='center' width='95%' cellpadding='3' cellspacing='1'<tr<tdQUOTE (Skye @ Aug 3 2003, 07:14 PM)</td</tr<tr<td id='QUOTE'<!--QuoteBegin-Emily@Aug 3 2003, 12:13 PM
Actually, you have the group of people who are here for the sole purpose of trying to figure out if they're something other than straight.
If they have to answer that, even if it is optional, they're going to feel weird about it.
It's not fair to do that to them. If you really must know what they're sexual preference is, just ask them in a quick PM or of the sorts. It's fairly simple.
I'm glad you see it, but it wasn't directed at you, I thought your post was fine and I was merely adding to it.
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They just seem wrong....[/b][/quote]Originally posted by Skye+Aug 3 2003, 03:37 PM--<table border='0' align='center' width='95%' cellpadding='3' cellspacing='1'<tr<tdQUOTE (Skye @ Aug 3 2003, 03:37 PM)</td</tr<tr<td id='QUOTE'Originally posted by Sammy@Aug 3 2003, 12:18 PM
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No, those "deciding between" options are a bad idea.
I respect your opinion, but why?
How about something a little more along these lines:
Heterosexual
Bisexual
Homosexual
Undecided
That's Why I'm Here
Prefer Not to Answer
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There's a reason we're debating it. Plus, we are going to have to figure those fields out eventually. I am just making a suggestion. If my tone sounds rude in here, it's not meant to be at all. I usually read my posts after I write them, and I try to put a smile in my words, but it's not working in this one. So I'm sorry if I'm coming off as mean, b/c I am truly NOT trying to.
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Not mean.. just.. slightly obsessive. The admin will probably decide on this one in the next board meeting, just leave it be now.
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Hmm... I don't see how it's necessary. Haven't we always said this site isn't a hook-up site? And in a way, if you have people who are putting homosexual and we already have declared they're female and some girl has also done the same, it makes an instant "hey, I'd like to talk to her." I can just see one of these girls checking out profiles and topics to see if this girl might be something to her. I just don't see it as being a necessity though it is a good idea. If it should come about that we do have it, it's not that big of a deal either. Either way it goes, if it's optional... I just wonder why it would be such a big deal.