**big Age Difference**

[Italian28Chick06]

My boyfriend and I have a very large age gap...I am 17 and he is 26. My parents don't have the slightest clue and if they did I'm not sure what they would say about it. We have been together for about 6 months, and we have never had sex. I just turned 17 on mAY 19 so we have another year before we can date legally. He says he is madly in love with me and would wait forever just to be with me but the problem is, is that 99% of my friends don't want me to be with him, they think I could do soo much better. They say this mainly because he has dated my one of my ex-best friends and they think he is weird for dating younger girls. What do you think?...does he love me since he's not pushing for sex and says he'll wait "forever" for me or should i try to get over him...



~*~ Confused ~*~

[Bra]

Hey hunni!

Well I'm not one of the 99%, and I've already told you what I thought, but I'll tell you again...If your happy with him, then your other friends should be happy for you. I know your not going to have sex with him until its right, so I'm not really worried about that. I think *you know who* will come around and get over it, if not there isn't much for you to do. I think you two are cute together and I can tell he really likes you by the way he acts around you. SoOoOoOo I say that just enjoy it, don't take things to seriously and see how things go. And if *they* ever try to punch you in the face like they like to say they are going to...I got your back B...haha....THE CHEESE MRS. MEAD!!



Love you!

[Jesykah ^_^]

Age is nothing but a number. Me and my boyfriend met when I was 12 and he was 15. Now, we've been together for a little over a year and a half, and he's 18, and I'm 15. I have really strong beliefs about this. Just as long as you two can fully understand eachother and your mind-set isn't too different, I don't see why you should deny yourself of that happiness just because of what some peoples opinions are. If you're happy, that's all that matters.



Hope everything works out.

[FranklinF]

mosts places has a consentual age you should check it out and see what it is for you i know here in missouri it is 16, as long as he treats you good id say no worries-MARY

[StevieCrash]

At this age and stage in your life, I honestly don't think it's a good idea. He's experienced so much more than you and it's like 2 different worlds. You have a lot ahead of you and would probably be able to make it last longer with someone closer to your age.

[!XogFog]

Go ahead and wait. It'll be a good test of how sincere you both are.

[motoman]

Personally i think a 26 year old and a 17 year old are in completely different stages in life. I mean he's old enough to be graduated from college and working full time. You probably still have a year or two of high school left. I think you should forget about him and get with someone your own age. He might be a good guy but the maturity level is completely different (then again he is dating 16/17 year olds). just my two cents.

[Sierra]

wow. 6 for it 6 against it, this is a close poll! i was going to vote for you to go for it but the fact that he dated another 16/17 year old girl who just happened to be your ex bestfreidn just worries me...sounds like the beginning of a pattern if it's not just coincedence. aside from that fact, he sounds great

[Anna_Banana]

if you really love him, then stay. age is just a number, and look at it this way....age is mind over matter.....if you dont mind, it dont matter...lol...sorry had to add some since on humor. but anyways like i was saying. i never date anyone my age. and just because he is older than you doesnt mean it cant work.

[!XogFog]

Now, when I voted stay, I meant stay and wait. As in, if you two can just hang out and whatever until then, and he sticks it out and you stick it out, then sure, give it a try. I'm not saying I think it'll work, though.

[Italian28Chick06]

:-) now that I have gotten quite a few replies to what I should do you guys relaly make me think that what I', doing isn't as horrible as everyone around me makes it seem. I AM in love w/ him soooo much I can't even explain it and we don't do anything except hang out, and I know that he is in love with me so what is the problem?!? I have a little less than a year then I can finally be open with everyone, at this point I hate my life because it seems like my whole life is a gigantic lie but if this works out, which I think it will it will ALL BE WORTH IT.

[SirPostAlot]

Well my opinion is that the age difference is too great, and i would say move on...

I have a friend who is 16 and she is ga*ga over a 19 year old and i am and have been trying to get her to find another guy...

I think that the age difference is too much, hunny...and i would just find a guy who is better hten this guy...

I mean my sister is 18 and she is ga*ga over a 24 year old, and i mean i am not really very fond over that but she seems to like him...

So inreality its up to you, but i think the age difference is too great...



~Jeff~

[!XogFog]

Originally posted by airbagart@Jun 1 2005, 09:07 PM

how old do your parents think he is???

know what! 17 and 26 may sound like a lot, but as you get older the age gap becomes more acceptable. if you really CARE for each other and want to be together, wait it out.

doesn't it sound more "normal" for a 30 and 40 year old to date

than a 15 and 25 year old?



see what i mean

xo Yelena

[right][/right]

Yes, but they're not older. They're younger. Of course, if they want to wait until she's 30, then that's cool too.

[motoman]

Originally posted by airbagart@Jun 1 2005, 09:07 PM

doesn't it sound more "normal" for a 30 and 40 year old to date

than a 15 and 25 year old?





[right][/right]

it sounds more normal because at that the ages of 40 and 30 you're both ADULTS. a 17 year old, regardless of how grown up he/she think they are, are really still a kid. If you were older it would be a completely different situation, but at that age the gap is just too much.

[Jesykah ^_^]

I disagree with that.



I'm only 15 and I *know* I'm a lot more mature than people give me credit for. I'm with an 18 year old right now, and I don't see anything wrong with it because we're both basically on the same maturity level.



You forget, girls mature at a much faster rate than guys do... which is why we tend to date older guys.



No one can say how mature someone else is. The only one to be the judge of that, is the person themself. So, if a 17 year old thinks she is mature enough to go out with a 26 year old, so be it.



It's their choice.

[Nikki]

hey, first of all, you're the one going out with him, not your friends So tell them to shut up!

Anyway, my bf and I are good friends with another couple, where the girl is my age (20) and the guy is 29(so hey, same age difference as between you and this guy). They've been together since the girl was 15, she was still in high school. So hey, for 5 years they've been doing great (and they seem very in love). I know for some people big age difference is a no-no, but it really depends on the maturity of both of them. If you feel good with him, if you feel you have a lot in common, I say stay with him, see how it goes and be happy! Why listening to other, sometimes narrow-minded people say it's wrong and such. It's not! As long as you both are happy together, it should stay this way! And no need to wait till you're 18, it's a useless waste of time! And it's not like you're 12 either, you're 17, and you can make your own decisions about who to date. As long as you're happy with him, there's no reason to stop.



Take care and be happy!

[elmieboo69]

hrmm ok well.. your 17 and he's 26... ok well that's 9 years.. and umm well im 19 and my boyfriend is 30 so that's 11 years.. i know how it is to not know if you should tell your parents cause ive been w/ him since i was 17 and eventually i did tell them.. at first they were really upset about it and then they got to know him and he's a great person and i love him.. but that's when your problem comes into play.. you have to be able to feel comfortable that you can tell them and if you arent then wait till your ready .. its really up too you.. but in a lot of states they cant do anything about it cause you're already 17 and gonna be 18 i mean the most they can do is try to keep you away from him. But like i said that's completely up too you and i wish you the best