So here's my newest problem.
I've fallen for one of my best guy friends...hard. I see him every day (we go to college together) and it seems like every time, I fall even harder. I've seen his faults, and I think they're awesome too. He knows how I feel, but I don't think he knows the extent of it. He knows I "like" him, but I'm really starting to think it's more than that. He doesn't want a relationship (in general, it's not that he doesn't like me in that way) and even though I've known that for awhile now, I can't help myself.
The other night, he had too much to drink, and I stayed with him. Another guy was hitting on me at the time, and all I could do was turn to my friend and make sure he was okay. He threw up and apologized, but I just took his arm and kept walking like nothing happened. All I want to do is take care of him and show him how much he means to me.
What would you call this? Is it love? I've always been under the impression that love is something mutual, when you're in a relationship with someone. But, I really don't consider this just a crush. I feel like calling it love would weird other people out.
Ironically, he just came over to talk to me (I'm at work right now). I can actually feel myself being more attracted to him just like every other time I see him. Ugh, I need help, this is ridiculous!
So if you figure out what this is that I'm feeling, how in the world can I get him to be mine?
What Is It?
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Re: What Is It?
i dont think its love, I think you are strongly attracted to him though. You want him to be yours, because he has the strong possibility of being the One, cause he fits all ur attraction switches. You cant fall in love with someone you havent "loved" yet.
And how in the world can you get him to be yours, be charming, tease him, show him that ur better than all other girls. His eyes will open slightly
And how in the world can you get him to be yours, be charming, tease him, show him that ur better than all other girls. His eyes will open slightly
Me: So do you like, HIM?
Rosca: No way, they suck. . .
Me: How can you say that, they're love METAL
Rosca: They ain't Metal!
Me: Well they probably get more women than we will ever in our lives combined
Rosca: Yea cause they're gay. . .
Rosca: No way, they suck. . .
Me: How can you say that, they're love METAL
Rosca: They ain't Metal!
Me: Well they probably get more women than we will ever in our lives combined
Rosca: Yea cause they're gay. . .
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Yeah, I can definitely understand that. I just wish there was a word in between "like" and "love", so I could actually describe it.
I've been showing him that I am, in fact, quite awesome, but I think because of the fact that we're so close, he wouldn't want it to get awkward if we ever broke up. I'll just keep trying what I've been trying...can't hurt, I guess.
I've been showing him that I am, in fact, quite awesome, but I think because of the fact that we're so close, he wouldn't want it to get awkward if we ever broke up. I'll just keep trying what I've been trying...can't hurt, I guess.
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Show him more. Why doesn't he want to get into a relationship?
DON'T HIT KIDS..... No seriously...... They have guns now
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I'm ashamed at what I did for a Klondac bar.......
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Apparently, he's just not ready for one at this point in time. He thinks they're too stressful, even though I know for a fact that with me as a girlfriend there'd be no stress, haha.
Last night, since the other two members of our little family like each other, they were kissing a lot. They told me I should just go for it and kiss him. My friend ended up talking to him on the side when I wasn't looking, and he said if I kissed him, he'd kiss me back. I couldn't get up the guts to do it, but there's still this weekend, heh.
I really think he just doesn't want a relationship at all...he's the kind of guy who enjoys hooking up with multiple girls and whatnot. I mean, this is college, a lot of guys here are like that. Part of me feels, though, like if he really does like me, wouldn't I be enough for him?
It's just complicated, I guess. Blech.
Last night, since the other two members of our little family like each other, they were kissing a lot. They told me I should just go for it and kiss him. My friend ended up talking to him on the side when I wasn't looking, and he said if I kissed him, he'd kiss me back. I couldn't get up the guts to do it, but there's still this weekend, heh.
I really think he just doesn't want a relationship at all...he's the kind of guy who enjoys hooking up with multiple girls and whatnot. I mean, this is college, a lot of guys here are like that. Part of me feels, though, like if he really does like me, wouldn't I be enough for him?
It's just complicated, I guess. Blech.
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Hmm maybe you shoul dkiss him this weekend. I mean worst that could come of it all is you guys stay friends. Try talking to him alittle abotu it, like dn't flat out say it but give hints.
DON'T HIT KIDS..... No seriously...... They have guns now
I'm ashamed at what I did for a Klondac bar.......
I want a realtionship I can finally sink my teeth into
I'm ashamed at what I did for a Klondac bar.......
I want a realtionship I can finally sink my teeth into