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- Stuck911
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Ok so I wrote a post last week abotu being confused.. Well just one week later, HE ASKED ME TO MARRY HIM I love him to death...but I don't know what to do. He toldme that he didn't want me to answer right then. I want to say yes. But my grandma has no idea that I've been going out with him. And it doesn't help that I'v been dating him for a year. My dad knows, but he knows cause I trust him. Plus he has no problem with it. I want to marry him but I don't think it's the right time to tell her.If you didn't already guess he's older.... alot older. I guess I just needed to vent, but if you can help in any way...please do.
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I think you are a little young to be making a decision like this, but for all I know you may be incredibily mature for your age.....
BUT, I really think that you should talk this over with your dad. If you trust him, and he is fine with you going out with your guy, then he would be a good person to talk over this with.
I think you may also need to think over what it may means for you to marry him. Does he want kids? and if he does, how soon? because if he is much older he may want them sooner than you may be ready for.
But yeah, in the end I think that you should just talk to your dad about this...
BUT, I really think that you should talk this over with your dad. If you trust him, and he is fine with you going out with your guy, then he would be a good person to talk over this with.
I think you may also need to think over what it may means for you to marry him. Does he want kids? and if he does, how soon? because if he is much older he may want them sooner than you may be ready for.
But yeah, in the end I think that you should just talk to your dad about this...
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I think that if you are hiding your relationship from your grandma then maybe you shouldn't marry him. If you feel that you have to hide it then your obviously not doing the right thing. When you love someone you want to be able to scream it from the mountain tops. You can't do that. If you are going to marry this man then you definately tell your grandma. She has the right to no before you tell him the answer. Talk it over with your dad and come up with a plan to tell her. By the way, I think your a little young to decide if you want to marry him. Marriage is hard work. And being so young, it will be harder. You need to decide what kind of life you want and what your dreams and goals are.
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OK before anyone says I'm not old enough to know anything about it. I've had a really hard life and a lot of it was spent taking care of myself. I know that if I told my grandmother then she'd press charges againest him. Plus we weren't planing on getting married right away lol. I guess i was just venting.... I want to be able to tell her but at the same time I want to protect him...
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I want a realtionship I can finally sink my teeth into
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Re: Omg!
she theoretically cannot press charges against him unless you guys were having sex before you were legally allowed to... which is probably when you were under 15 (but changes depending on where you are located).
As for whether or not you are too young to make this kind of decision, like I said before you may very well be a very mature person for your age... having said that, I REALLY think you should sit down and write down all the things you want to accomplish in your life... absolutely everything... be it backpacking through Europe, to being President of the USA... even your foolish dreams, write down all of them.... then I want you to look them over and see if they are still possible if you get married to him. If they are, then maybe this would be good for you. If they aren't, then maybe you should sit down and seriously contemplate this. I mean, I know you will not be getting married right off the fly, but being engaged is supposed to be just as serious a commitment. When you are engaged you are not supposed to go and go travel by yourself for a half a year or a year, because you are supposed to be getting ready for the life you are going to have with your finance. (Unless of course you both knew the situation before you got engaged).
Any hoot, I am just trying to say, be careful. I don't want you to jump into this situation with dreams of marriage in your head, and forget about the dreams of your life. I just got engaged this year, and I am only 21. But before he had ever asked I had done exactly what I suggested you to do. I sat down and thought about my dreams, and whether or not they would still be possible. Because as much as I may love my fiance, I feared that someday I may come to resent him because I gave up my other dreams to be with him, which happens to many married couples. For me though, I was lucky, because my dreams are the same as his, so we can go after them together.
Any ways, if you EVER need to talk about this, feel free to PM me.
As for whether or not you are too young to make this kind of decision, like I said before you may very well be a very mature person for your age... having said that, I REALLY think you should sit down and write down all the things you want to accomplish in your life... absolutely everything... be it backpacking through Europe, to being President of the USA... even your foolish dreams, write down all of them.... then I want you to look them over and see if they are still possible if you get married to him. If they are, then maybe this would be good for you. If they aren't, then maybe you should sit down and seriously contemplate this. I mean, I know you will not be getting married right off the fly, but being engaged is supposed to be just as serious a commitment. When you are engaged you are not supposed to go and go travel by yourself for a half a year or a year, because you are supposed to be getting ready for the life you are going to have with your finance. (Unless of course you both knew the situation before you got engaged).
Any hoot, I am just trying to say, be careful. I don't want you to jump into this situation with dreams of marriage in your head, and forget about the dreams of your life. I just got engaged this year, and I am only 21. But before he had ever asked I had done exactly what I suggested you to do. I sat down and thought about my dreams, and whether or not they would still be possible. Because as much as I may love my fiance, I feared that someday I may come to resent him because I gave up my other dreams to be with him, which happens to many married couples. For me though, I was lucky, because my dreams are the same as his, so we can go after them together.
Any ways, if you EVER need to talk about this, feel free to PM me.
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Re: Omg!
OK before anyone says I'm not old enough to know anything about it. I've had a really hard life and a lot of it was spent taking care of myself. I know that if I told my grandmother then she'd press charges againest him. Plus we weren't planing on getting married right away lol. I guess i was just venting.... I want to be able to tell her but at the same time I want to protect him...
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out of curiousity, how old is he? I agree with nevermindmylife. She is so right when she tells you to write down your dreams. You don't want to wake up 20 years from today and resent your marriage or him. and you don't want to give up your dreams.
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Re: Omg!
So I sat down with him and we both wrote out everything that we wanted to do. And most of the things on our listed matched up, and the things that didn't we both would still support. When I said I was keeping it a secret from my grandma, she is really the only person who doesn't know. All of our friends know, his family knows, and most people in my family know and they are all ok with it. I know for a fact that she wouldn't be ok with it, she's always talking about how veil older man are that date younger women..... I just don't know what to do about this whole thing...... oh yeah, lol he's 33 and we met through music.
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Re: Omg!
Well, then... on that note, so long as you know you are going to say yes to him...
the only thing left to do is tell your grandma, and make sure you tell her... don't leave this alone, and don't wait too long otherwise she will be upset that everyone else knows you are engaged, and she was the last too know.
If I were I would go about it by telling her that you met a guy, who makes you happy, treats you like a princess.... yadda yadda yadda... tell her all the reasons why he is such a great guy for you.... and then tell her that you were afraid to tell her about him, but that more than anything you want her to be happy with you, and then tell drop the bomb that he is 33... and then continue on about how you know how she is not at all happy about older men dating younger women, but that you hope that she would be happy for you two, and that she will give him a chance, because he is a good man...
any hoot, that's how i would go about it if I were you... it may not work, or it may... but I would avoid anything that would hint that you have been "physical" with him... like sleeping over on weekends
good luck!
the only thing left to do is tell your grandma, and make sure you tell her... don't leave this alone, and don't wait too long otherwise she will be upset that everyone else knows you are engaged, and she was the last too know.
If I were I would go about it by telling her that you met a guy, who makes you happy, treats you like a princess.... yadda yadda yadda... tell her all the reasons why he is such a great guy for you.... and then tell her that you were afraid to tell her about him, but that more than anything you want her to be happy with you, and then tell drop the bomb that he is 33... and then continue on about how you know how she is not at all happy about older men dating younger women, but that you hope that she would be happy for you two, and that she will give him a chance, because he is a good man...
any hoot, that's how i would go about it if I were you... it may not work, or it may... but I would avoid anything that would hint that you have been "physical" with him... like sleeping over on weekends
good luck!
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