my boyfriend and i have been dating for 13 months.. we are very close.. i tell him everything... and he tells me everything.. i love him.. .and i know he loves me... but the problem is that i dont see myself spending the rest of our lives together... he thinks that we could rent an appartment together next september... (my current lease runs out then) but i know that we cant afford it.. he thinks we can work it out.. he says his job is well paying and that he is off contract and is now full time so he can afford to splurge a little bit.. but he never seems to have any money between paychecks.. hes HORIBLE at money management.. and i dont want to get into the situation where i am supporting both of us, I have to go to school.. and that costs money.. As it is now i keep lending him money to get things paid for...
Am i being really greedy here because i am thinking of how well financials will be if i stay with him instead of how much i love him?
I dont want to leave him.. but like i said.. i just dont see myself spending the rest of my life with him... and im begining to see meaning to the phrase "I love you, but im not IN LOVE with you".... this hurts... He has been a good friend of mine for 3 years... boyfriend for 13 months.. i dont want to lose him.. I dont want to hurt him.. but i know that if i break up with him.. thats whats going to happen... the other night he said to me "You'r my everything.. I dont know what i would do without you."... What the hell am i suppose to do??????
Aaaahhhh 13 Months...
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Re: Aaaahhhh 13 Months...
I'd tell him how you feel. It's better to end something or even make the problem known now than do it later. If you wait your only to get closer and the problem is only going to build into something more. If he really loves you and you really love him and the money problems are the only problems you two have then you can work those out. You don't have to move intogether yet.. or anytime soon. Give things time. Get school done and encourage him to do something beneficial for himself.
I've been encouraging my exbf to go back to school since he got out of highschool and now over 2 years later he is finally taking some classes at a community college. Just tell him, if it's love.. it will workout.
I've been encouraging my exbf to go back to school since he got out of highschool and now over 2 years later he is finally taking some classes at a community college. Just tell him, if it's love.. it will workout.
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Re: Aaaahhhh 13 Months...
Firstly you should talk this all out with him. If you both decide that ir'a a bad idea and that you may want a little break, then would be a good time to end it. If you decide that you want to try living together and reconnecting, then just be prepared for managing all the money so that you don't become late will bills and such.
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