OK, I'm a little bit older than you people so my problem is a little different. It is the problem of one of my friends, to be precise.
She is seeing a married man. He has been with his wife for 25 years. My friend is 32 and the man is 48 (so 16 years, but that's nothing when you are older..). My friend has been seeing this man for 18 months or so and they have had break-ups because she gives him ultimatums.. but she always takes him back in the end.
She is convinced he will leave his wife for her. She is heartbroken when he goes on holiday with his wife and he has told her that although he lives with his wife, he does not sleep with her (as in, have sex.. they share a bed). I don't believe this. What sort of couple doesn't have sex in 18 months? Even the most vegitated must be doing SOMETHING in that time.
His wife knows he is unfaithful but says nothing about it. They have a nice house, car and have like 5 holidays a year. They have kids, but they are all grown up.
Do you think he will ever leave his wife? My personal opinion is that my friend is being everything which he wants in a woman, but this is also keeping his marriage alive because he gets the rest of what he wants from his wife. He has left before to go and live with ANOTHER woman. I think that even if he does leave his wife, and move in with my friend.. I still think he is going to be unfaithful in the future to her. Which is basically more than she could handle I think.
I feel like my friend is being lied to and betrayed. Loyalty means a lot to me and I don't understand how my friend could continue to put herself in this position. She could get somebody better.
Give me your HONEST opinions of HIM and HER.
Please.
Friend's Problem
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Re: Friend's Problem
Well, I don't think he'd leave his wife and his house and everything. But hey it's a possibility! 18 months, that's long and he still didn't leave his wife?? Oh, i don't think he'll leave her at all....does your friend not get PISSED the fuck off that he's at his house with his "wife" and she's not living with him? I'd tell her to confront him and say "me or her? Choose!!!"
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Re: Friend's Problem
Oh yeah, she's said "me or her" but the thing is.. he keeps saying he doesn't hate his wife or anything. I mean, I don't think he will leave either.
I need some help as to what to say to my friend though, do I keep saying "oh, he'll definitely leave soon" even though I don't believe this. I don't want to hurt her.
:'(
I need some help as to what to say to my friend though, do I keep saying "oh, he'll definitely leave soon" even though I don't believe this. I don't want to hurt her.
:'(