Should I Stay, Or should I go?

[rockerchick]

Ok, so, this is my first time back to this site in a while, but I don't know where else to go, and I was hoping my old anonymous friends here could help me out.



So, I've been dating my boyfriend for over 4 years now. And, as shallow as this sounds, I think i've become completely unattracted to him. I still love and care for him deeply, but he doesn't seem to want to impress me anymore. We've seriously become an old married couple, and we're not even married yet, and I'm sick of it. I've started noticing other men now. Like, when i was madly in love with my bf i didn't even see other guys, even the attractive ones, but now, there's this one guy in particular who reminds me of the way my bf used to be. He's attractive, and fit, and fun to hang around with. My bf has gotten fat, lazy, and his idea of fun now is to embarrass me in front of our friends. I have talked to him about this, but he doesn't seem to get it. One thing I'm very proud of in our relationship is our comunication. We've always been able to talk about ANYTHING. But, how do i tell him that he's turning me off and i'm starting to look at other guys in a relationship way? Am I just being shallow? Should i suck it up and stay with him? I really just don't know what to do anymore, any advice would be greatly appreciated.

Thanks

[FranklinF]

end it you are 20 no need to feel trapped by a relationship, and end up hurting both of you even more, you had a good run but it just sounds like its time

[Nikki]

LostMySanity - totally agree

[InnocenceLost57]

I agree as well....you're young, there's no reason to stay stuck in a relationship that you no longer enjoy. Plus, it's not fair to the other party. So I'd say end it, as hard as that can be. that way, both of you can move on.

[FranklinF]

yes yes i am a genius

[rockerchick]

you guys are probably right, but he's my best friend and i love him so much. I just can't shake the idea that this may just be a phase.

[FranklinF]

you can still be friends after wards but there is no point in labeling your self as his girl friend if you feel like being else where

[hediedforme89]

hey i know this is probably an old post, but i COMPLETELY understand what you're going through. me and my boyfriend of three years just broke up sunday night (three days ago now) because just wasn't attracted to him in that way... yea i figured it was a phase for a long time because i had done that before, looking at other guys, wondering the possibilitys.. but i finally said it was enough and started looking out for myself instead of thinking i was obligated to him... i think you should do the same, but don't just take my advice listen to your heart! <3