Should I Give It A Try?
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- Alex
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Should I Give It A Try?
I have a crush on this guy and I really, really like him. Or at least I like what I know of him. I have already made the big step of asking him to dance with me at prom (luckily he said yes) and the ice breaking moments are already over. Well for the most part they are. Now that I have taken some time to get to know him to a certain extent (7 very long months) I want to try and get a relationship going with him. I am not all that sure as to whether he likes me the same way, but I have heard that he does. The real problem is what I have heard from other people. See I go to a very small highschool, population 225 TOTAL students, and news travels fast and sticks around for a very long time. I have heard from a couple of random people that he has. . . well lets just say messed around with some girls( i think you know what i mean). But I am not sure whether or not that is true and I don't want to confront him about it. My real question is: should I try and pursue a relationship with him, despite of what I just said? Anybodys advice would be really helpful.
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Re: Should I Give It A Try?
Well to me it sounds like even after 7 months you still don't know him very well yet. I think maybe the best idea would be to try and pursue a relationship as a closer friend first. You can't always believe rumours because its not fair to the person they are said about. But, if you were friends with this guy first, you would be able to find out if these kind of things would be true about him and you would know what you are getting yourself into. From what it sounds like, he probably does like you Another way of finding out if these rumours are true is to go to the sources themselves (the girls) - that way you can't offend him by straight out asking him. I'd go with whatever gut instinct you have for now and maybe try to get to know him a bit better before you pursue anything serious. Goodluck!
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Re: Should I Give It A Try?
ok....how can I say this....rumors...HAPPEN!
But don't just completely ignore it. No matter what people say...rumors start from some part of the truth. I suggest mentioning to it to him...just as casual conversation. Ask around....try and find some facts. Rumors are always there...and with some guys are pretty bad. I'll give you an experience of my own. The guy I heard liked me...I started to show him I liked him back.....we were "getting married" it was all a joke but we were in stages of going out.....well I first was told he had a gf...then I heard he had sex with some girl...well course I wasn't sure and just avoided it for a while then I kept fishing and found some facts...in truth he DID have a gf and was hiding it from me....and he DID cheat on her with some girl and felt "really bad" about it.....welll course..I was PISSED! I was on the bus just the other day and he and some other guy asked me to come sit in the back (the other guy likes looking at me boobs ) anyway I said no...and he's like so are we still getting married...I looked striaght at him and said "no, you've got a girl" he was floored! LoL he said he was sorry and then after I got off he was walking across the street for me and asked if I was mad and that he wanted me to come by his house sometime this weekend or call him...I've done niether....
I feel if he truly likes me...he'll let me know when he's done but for now I don't need him. Just remember that you can't always believe rumors but then sometimes it's the only way to get the facts.....
sry if I went off topic with my rambling
But don't just completely ignore it. No matter what people say...rumors start from some part of the truth. I suggest mentioning to it to him...just as casual conversation. Ask around....try and find some facts. Rumors are always there...and with some guys are pretty bad. I'll give you an experience of my own. The guy I heard liked me...I started to show him I liked him back.....we were "getting married" it was all a joke but we were in stages of going out.....well I first was told he had a gf...then I heard he had sex with some girl...well course I wasn't sure and just avoided it for a while then I kept fishing and found some facts...in truth he DID have a gf and was hiding it from me....and he DID cheat on her with some girl and felt "really bad" about it.....welll course..I was PISSED! I was on the bus just the other day and he and some other guy asked me to come sit in the back (the other guy likes looking at me boobs ) anyway I said no...and he's like so are we still getting married...I looked striaght at him and said "no, you've got a girl" he was floored! LoL he said he was sorry and then after I got off he was walking across the street for me and asked if I was mad and that he wanted me to come by his house sometime this weekend or call him...I've done niether....
I feel if he truly likes me...he'll let me know when he's done but for now I don't need him. Just remember that you can't always believe rumors but then sometimes it's the only way to get the facts.....
sry if I went off topic with my rambling
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Re: Should I Give It A Try?
I'd say get to know him alittle more, to the point you are comfortable with him. And then if you still really like him, then go for it. You only live once, might as well live to the fullest...
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Re: Should I Give It A Try?
Don't listen to rumours. Wouldn't you hate it if there was a rumour going round that you did some things with guys, and some nice guy didn't ask you out because he believed the rumours? I think you should give this guy a fair chance. If he shows any bad behaviour, then dump him. But if he doesn't, then don't let his past (wether its true or not true) affect your future with him. I'm sure you've done things before that you're not proud of? GOOD LUCK!!
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Re: Should I Give It A Try?
Yeah of course you should.
That is his PAST not his PRESENT. I mean DON'T judge him because of what he has done with girls. Does that make him any less of a person?? I should hope not. Therefore why should you have to reconsider pursuing the relationship? I mean at the end of the day he IS still the same guy you kinda like right? I mean if all the guys/girls reconsidered coming after people because of what i've done sexually, do you really think some people would have anyone? Like I said you can NOT change his PAST and should not judge him for it.
Sorry I got a bit defensive there....
Just be cautious.
That is his PAST not his PRESENT. I mean DON'T judge him because of what he has done with girls. Does that make him any less of a person?? I should hope not. Therefore why should you have to reconsider pursuing the relationship? I mean at the end of the day he IS still the same guy you kinda like right? I mean if all the guys/girls reconsidered coming after people because of what i've done sexually, do you really think some people would have anyone? Like I said you can NOT change his PAST and should not judge him for it.
Sorry I got a bit defensive there....
Just be cautious.
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Now here you go again, you say you want your freedom
Well who am I to keep you down
It's only right that you should play the way you feel it
But listen carefully to the sound
Of your loneliness
Like a heartbeat drives you mad
In the stillness of remembering what you had
And what you lost
Well It's only me that wants to wrap around your dreams
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Re: Should I Give It A Try?
one how old r u? 2 how old is he? 3 it doesnt matter if he HAS had sex be4! if it is true then who cares! m/b he got in a bad situation..noone knows the truth exept him..i think you should go 4 it! like some1 else said..u only live once! tell him u like him alot and want to take things to the next level..if he likes you he'll get it..but make sure he knows u r not that kind of girl iff he truly likes you he'll get the point...tell him something like 'omg! i just herd that so-and-so had sex w/ this one guy! i think its bad at such a young age' or something..
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