Kevin? Or Brandon?
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Kevin? Or Brandon?
Ok, well, as many of you already know, I am having the worst trouble trying to decide which one of these guys I should be with. Now, they have both showed interest in me, so I know that I may have a chance with both of them. I just don't know which one would be better for me. My graduation was Sunday. Brandon was with me all day. And I mean ALL day. Well, after graduation, we came home and he left. Which was alright with me. Cuz it was like 8:00 anyhow, and he was with me from early that morning. Well, I leave. I decided I wanted to celebrate my graduation with a couple of friends. So I go up to my friend Josh's house. Well, Kevin lives with him too. About 1:00 AM, Josh goes to bed (he had to work that morning) So it was just me and Kevin out in the living room. Now, I'm flirting, as usual. Cuz, I like him, so yeh, you flirt. Anyhow, he tells me everything. I mean EVERYTHING. Which was werid, cuz he doesn't tell anyone half the crap he just got done telling me. And he told me so. He said he hasn't even told Josh hardly none of that stuff, and they are best friends. Which I thought was really kool. I mean, I think it's awesome that he trusts me enough to actually sit down and tell me this stuff. Okay, well, I don't know Kevin very well. I've known him over the past 6 months or so, but I don't know him. In that period of time, we've probably met like 10 times or so. So, yeh, we don't know eachother very well. But I really, really like him. I truely think that something good could come out of this. But...there's Brandon. He's my Brandon. We've been best friends forever. I've been in love with him forever. And he knows it. I know he likes me. He gives off these weird little vibes, telling me that he does. But he isn't doing anything about it. His friend, Billy, tells me that he likes me. That he's just trying to find the right time to tell me. He wants it to be perfect. It's just... I can't wait forever for him, ya know? I haven't had a boyfriend in 4 years because of him. Not in a bad way, but I have just been waiting and hoping that he is going to tell me that he's madly in love with me and wants to be with me forever. He just hasn't gotten around to that yet. If ever. So, yeh, here's my problem: I really, really like Kevin. He's an awesome guy. And I'd do just about anything to be with him. But I love Brandon. I truely love Brandon. And I don't want to do anything to hurt what we have, or what we could have. I just can't sit around, waiting for him to tell me how he feels. I just don't know what to do. Any advice or suggestions will be greatly appreciated. Thank you for listening.
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Re: Kevin? Or Brandon?
Whoa...FOUR YEARS!?? I think you've given Brandon enough time!! He needs to know that you're not going to wait forever (err...are you?) and I think the best way to do this is to go with Kevin. He seems really cool from what you've written, and you've already established a pretty good relationship. Maybe once Brandon sees that you're not some girl in the background of his life, he might get it together and do something.
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Right, I totally agree with you there. But, I'm just afraid that if Brandon does see that I'm just not some girl in the background, he'll want to do something about it. But I would be with Kevin. And I don't want to hurt Kevin, I don't. But, if Brandon does tell me how he feels, and wants to be with me, then I would want to be with Brandon. I just don't want to hurt Kevin in the long run. I mean, Kevin doesn't know about Brandon. And I'm not going to tell him. It's just... I dunno. I'm sick of waiting, day end, day out. Waiting for the chance of Brandon telling me how he truely feels. I really don't want to hurt Kevin. I just don't want to be alone anymore.
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Re: Kevin? Or Brandon?
Originally posted by bbshotgun_03@Jun 5 2003, 10:29 PM
I really don't want to hurt Kevin.
Then don't keep such secrets from him, talk to him openly about it.
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Ok, well, I talked to Kevin last night about it. I told him that there's another guy, and how long I've been in love with him, bla bla. Anyhow, Kevin told me that he really likes me and would love to be with me. But he doesn't want to be with me, unless I want to be with him. I told him I wanted to, it's just I can't get Brandon off my mind. So, he said whenever I'm over Brandon, he'll be there, waiting for me to come back to him. I know that's a good thing, to have a guy wait for you, but I feel terrible. I feel like I'm being pressured to let go of Brandon. I can't. I love Brandon. I really do. I don't know what to do. I just don't know.
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Honestly, I know that must be hard to decide, but from what you have told me, you have a lot of feelings for Brandon, but it doesn't seem like its going to work out...not now anyway. Maybe for now you should hook up with Kevin and see how things go-and if things happen where Brandon wants to be with you, then go from there. I wouldn't worry about the futre tho, you never know what great things coulc come out of going out w/ Kevin!! Good luck!
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Yes, I do have A LOT of feelings for Brandon. I feel like I can never have feelings for someone the way I do for Brandon. He's my everything. For real. He is the air in my lungs. Without him... I just don't know where I would be. He should be here any minute, though, I'm afraid if whether I should tell him about me and Kevin? I really want to be with Kevin. If you guys only saw how he is with me, with his kids. He's a terrific guy, he really is. But should I tell him? Oh! He's here. I gotta go. Guess I gotta make this decision on my own.
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