So yet again I am in a fight with my best friend...
I dont know what to do-I know kinda why she is mad-because I started smoking weed and now she hates me...she also called me a whore because I did stuff with this guy--I dont know how this is ever going to be fixed-she says that i have problems but doesn't everyone? I am so much better now-im happier-I do more now-it seems like she always wants to put me down so I wont be happy-like she doesn't want to see me happy? I am not sure but I have tried and tried to talk to her about her being mad but she never explains why she is or why she is worried-she said i wouldnt understand but I will never understand because she wont explain anything to me
Yes-I do get high-but its under control-I only do it once and awhile and now she hates me for it-and only me-she does have other friends who do more than weed and she still is friends with them? I really am so lost with her right now-will someone please try to help me fix this because right now its over and i cant do anything about it...
thanks
How Can I Fix This?
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Wow. I'm so sorry. First of all, she's a shitty friend. If she was really worried like she says she is, then she would be there to support you. She would try to help you, not hurt you. I'm sure you're a wonderful person, and wonderful people don't deserve friends like that. Try talking to her again. Tell her that you'd like her to be understanding and that what she does hurts you. But since you said she has other friends who smoke more weed than you do, I'm thinking that the whole weed thing is just covering up for something else. There might be a different reason why she isn't speaking to you. See if you can find out why and if you can fix the problem, but if its something stupid or you can't figure it out, then try to forget about it. Try to find some new friends. If you're much happier without her, then you might be better off without her. I hope that helps. Good luck!
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I actually do see your friends side of this- not that I agree with what she's doing- but I know (sadly) thats how I would act with this sort of thing though I hate myself for that. I'm going to tell you how I think she's feeling right now. I think she doesn't want to be left behind while you're so much ahead, fooling around with guys, smoking weed being "bad". She's probably jealous of you- jealous of many things ABOUT you- which makes her feel like she needs to bring YOU down so she can feel like she's better then you. Shes upset that you're smoking weed and not the other friends- BECAUSE you guys are so close and cause she cares about it a lot. Just explain to her that you love her a lot- make her feel good - and explain why you're doing weed- just to have a little fun. And tell her that you WANT to hang out with her- ask her about herself. Arrange something. If you want anymore help with this- ill be glad to help.. IM me or PM me
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She's just worried about you. She may be going about it the wrong way though. The reason she may still be friends with the others and not you could be that you guys are BEST friends and she cares for you more than them. You know what I mean? Take a break from her for a while and get yourself together. Because you should know that doing drugs is wrong and not healthy. ANY drug is wrong. Show her that you care about her and yourself by ditching the drugs and making a better life for you and she may just come around again.
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