Okay, my two friends that are involved in my dilemma are Heather and Melisa. Last year (well, the past two years), Heather and I went to the same school, and Melisa went to a different one, but was in the same district. Consequently, I grew really close to Heather and she is my absolute best friend. I cant imagine what I would do without her. I love Melisa with all my heart, but as we went to different high schools, we never had any real bonding and growing time after middle school. Due to conflicting schedules over summer and other breaks, we see each other maybe once every four months, if we're lucky.
A few months ago, Melisa told me that she would be going to the same high school that Im going to with Heather, and I was really happy. But, a few days ago, my practically life support best friend, Heather, told me that she is probably going to a different school. That Probably is a 99% chance. The school shes going to is a charter type place, so it costs money. If I could, I would totally go with Heather to the new school. She described the curriculum and everything to me, and it sounds a lot better than the school I currently go to. I dont know how much is costs, but my family doesnt have an extravagant amount to spend on sending me to a charter school. Still, it shouldnt be a financial problem to send me there. But heres the thing, I cant just leave Melisa. Ive helped her through some rough times in her life, and shes coming to a school where she knows almost no one. As far as I know, Im her only friend that goes there.
I dont really know how to ask my question, if I can call it that. My thing is that I want to go to this new school with Heather, but I would feel as if I were betraying and ditching Melisa (which I would be). I also want to stay at my current school to be with Melisa, but I dont know what I would to without Heather. I know I should stay with Melisa, tho. I guess I just feel like all mixed together and Im just so... blaerggghhh... I dont know... I dont know if I posted this in the right place... It started out as a question, but turned into more of a rant...
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well, it sounds like u bonded more with Heather than with Melissa, so if u really can't live with Heather, then the best thing for u and her would be to go to the charter school... u can simply explain to Melissa the situation and if she really is your friend she will understand... b sides, r the schools far apart?? will u have to move house?? if not then u can still see Melissa after school... however it's your choice completely... do what u feel is right, and who u r closest to...
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What do YOU want to do? Worrying about pleasing Melissa and Heather, you've completely neglecting what YOU want. It sounds like you only want to go to this charter school just to be Heather-nothing else. Why don't you just stay at your normal school if you don't know what to do, plus, like you said, your parents might not be able to afford it , so whats the point of pleasing Heather and spenidng a lot of money just to be with her, than just making yourself happy??
You can always meet up with Heather in the hols or weekend if needs be. As for melissa, if you did leave her, she would make new friends, as will you even if Heatheer nor Melissa isn't there.
I would feel as if I were betraying and ditching Melisa (which I would be). I also want to stay at my current school to be with Melisa, but I dont know what I would to without Heather. I know I should stay with Melisa, tho.
You can always meet up with Heather in the hols or weekend if needs be. As for melissa, if you did leave her, she would make new friends, as will you even if Heatheer nor Melissa isn't there.
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Forget about these girls for a second, and just think about the SCHOOL. What do you think would be better for you? You think this new school and curriculum would be best, then you go there. If you're only going there because of heather, then you need to rethink your plans. Just do what YOU want. If you choose to go with Heather, then introduce Melisa to all of your old friends, hang out a lot together so she knows people. Or, even just invite her to the new school if you want. I mean, i doubt she would come, but she would feel wanted which is always good.
Just do what is best for yourself. That's ultimately what matters the most. YOU'RE going to be living with yourself for the rest of your life, not these girls.
Just do what is best for yourself. That's ultimately what matters the most. YOU'RE going to be living with yourself for the rest of your life, not these girls.
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