My Parents Dont Trust Me

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My Parents Dont Trust Me

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Everytime I try to hang out with my friends my parents wont let me...all because i've screwed up in the past...they didnt want me to see my boyfriend (they didnt know he was my boyfriend...they thought we were just friends) all because he was black...well i thought that was gay so i would find ways to see him outside of school well my parents found out and i got in a lot of trouble...i screwed up going behind my parents back and lieing to them yea i understand that but i've turned into a different person...but they still wont let me do anything...no matter what i do its like they always think i'm that girl that screwed up...i just dont know how to show them i've changed...
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Well, you did screw up, and theres nothing specifically you can do to make them automatically trust you. Trust takes time. That's all there is to it. You have to MAKE them be able to trust you just by being the 'perfect' child- do whatever they say, help out, just be a good kid. I'm not saying this will automatically make it happen, but it will sure help, even if they don't show it. You just have to pay the consequences... this will go away soon enough. It's just one more thing in life we all have to deal with.
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Hello.

Okay I think you should talk to your mom and tell her you know what you did was wrong and shouldnt have done what you did. Also tell her you are changing for the better and you need her to have trust in you because it hurts you a lot for her to think your the kid you used to be.

Also maybe try way to gain her trust by telling her what you are doing in your life. Meaning everyday activitys. Also hang out with her more, have mother and daughter talks and get closer to her so she will understand you and she will have more trust in you.

Good Luck.
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Well,I think you should have told them what you have done before things got really deep.
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Well, like Anna said, trust takes time. And you lost that trust when you screwed up.So try acting mature and do what they tell you to do. IF they tell you that you have to be at home by 9pm, then be home by 9. Be adult, don't throw paddy's if they tell you to do something, and you start arguing with them. Act really mature, and if something annoys you, tell them calmly and talk about it minus shouting.Hopefully, you'll gain their trust again.
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just do a lot of ass kissing and do the simple things that they want u to do...when they ass for something ot be done do it...they'll realize that u can be trusted once again.



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i know i screwed up...and i've told them that i know what i did was wrong...and i do tell them everything i do...i call them everytime i'm going somewhere besides the place i tell them to be and i dont really have a cerfew but i get home at 12 and if i'm going to be late then i call and tell them...my parents never trusted me...even before i did what i did...all because of my older brother...he screwed up with drugs and stuff so they're a lot harder on me and take it out all on me...i try to talk to my mom about stuff but she just doesnt get me
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Like I said before hang out with your mom more and not just to talk about how she needs to understand just to have fun together.
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