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- Joined: Tue Jul 24, 2012 9:33 am
I'm a first time user of this forum.. i guess I was searching for others that could relate to me, because right now i feel more alone than ever.
From the outset it looks like I have a perfect life, I have a great boyfriend, friends and from appearance it looks like I have a great family, but no one knows what its like to be on the inside.
I'm the oldest of two girls, my younger sister is 14, I'm 18.
As she's grown older, I feel like I'm drifting further away from my family then ever, Since I'm always working to pay off university fees, I never get to interact with my family on the whole, its always them three together and I'm always left out
My parents always praise my sister, teling her shes beautiful, how skinny she is, how she could be a model. They always regard her in the highest way, and me, i get nothing but put downs.
"Why can't you be more like your sister, your sister never has to be asked to do chores she just does them"
Its not just that, my parents just don't understand how hard my life is sometimes. I deal with the stress of trying to make them proud, trying to get great grades, trying to keep them happy, work part time, have time for my boyfriend and friends.
If I do the slightest bit wrong my mother completely loses it at me, and then gets my dad involved, and lets just say he isn't the best person in the world. He threatens to "hit me till i fly across the room" and threatens to take my car off me, which they gave me as a present, along with my laptop. I don't understand how thats fair, giving your child a present then threatening to take it off them. I don't feel apart of this family, ive tried speaking to my aunty about this, she just brushes me off and says im overreacting but no one knows what its like to be me. To sit here night upon night and just cry by myself.
Ive considered quitting university putting all my dreams behind just so i can work full time and raise enough money to rent a place with my boyfriend, just to escape this mess.
please someone help me <img src='http://www.helpingteens.org/groups/publ ... #>/sad.png' class='bbc_emoticon' alt=':(' /> give me someone to talk to, im sick of feeling alone.
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- Joined: Mon Jul 16, 2012 7:39 pm
what i suggest is that you go live with a friend or something, if you cant affored to pay rent, just ask ur friend if you can stay there and in exchange, do him/her favors (run errands, cook, clean etc.)
if ur parents threaten you or make you feel uncomfortable, spend the least amount of time possable with them.
you are also leagally an adult, they shoudnt be having you do chores, they should be encouraging you to find a great job or take on ore classes or work time or something instead of staying home and doing chores. they cant take away your car if your name is on the regestration, i think there is some kind of contract thing that you can get the person who's name is on the regestration to sign it and hand the car over to you, but i think that also means that you have to pay for car insurance.
you can talk to me if u want, if you dont mind talking to a soon to be fourteen year-old. honestly i get along with adults better than kids my age because, adults are mature and dont care wheather im different or not, where as ppl my age will make fun of me for being different
in conclusion, just to get out of that household, if your dad actually does hit you, you can report it as aggrivated assault, you are an adult, it is not just child abuse anymore, no one should be laying thier hands on you, i wish you the best of luck, i hope everything works out