I'm 18 and I've never wanted to get married because I've always wanted to be a person out on my own, with time to think and meditate and do what I want and be myself. Also I don't like kids at all so I'm looking into surgery to get sterilized because I've never ever liked them. And my music career is starting to look up.
All's right and well in the world, right? Wrong! My parents go through the roof, telling me that it doesn't matter if I never wanted to get married, I mos likely will want it in the future because everyone wants that. Same with kids. Which is weird since I've always disliked that idea; when I was four my mother bought me a bride Halloween costume and I cried and cried until she returned it! I never played with baby dolls either; I just envisioned myself as a single person persuing my dreams by myself my whole life. But it's like all of a sudden that doesn't matter; sooner or later I'll "fall into line". And it doesn't matter how well my music is going; they keep telling me to get my head out of the clouds and "get a real job". The truth is, music is my release and my inspiration. When I write my mind comes onto paper. When I play my feelings come out in notes and lyrics. I may not make enough to support myself just yet, but you know what, I love my job. And I feel it's destined to work out. I could see myself getting some kind of job where I could earn enough to make a living but still persue my musical dreams - most musicians do, anyway. But my parents want me to drop it altogether.
And it's driving me nuts!
My Family Is Confusing Me......
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Re: My Family Is Confusing Me......
Tell them that they have to realize that music IS your life. But, do you think maaaybe getting a small job on the side in complete addition to your music would be good? Maybe just to earn some money, and maybe to get your parents to stop whining ... i don't know i'm just thinking... But anyway thats not what you're asking so I'll stop talking about it. If you JUST want to focus on music, etc., it seems to me the only option to get your parents to stop driving you nuts is to tell them what you told us. Sy that you don't think that you will "fall into line" because this is who you feel you are.. and you're 18! you are old enough to realize this... Just talk to them... they should try to understand it from your point of view
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"I have a feeling that you're riding for some kind of a terrible, terrible fall. . . . This fall I think you're riding for-it's a special kind of fall, a horrible kind. The man falling isn't permitted to feel or hear himself hit bottom. He just keeps falling and falling. The whole arrangement's designed for men who, at some time or other in their lives, were looking for something their own environment couldn't supply them with. Or they thought their own environment couldn't supply them with. So they gave up looking. They gave it up before they ever really even got started"
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Re: My Family Is Confusing Me......
wait. ur parents wnat to stop u from becoming a musicain. ok. if they do. i hate to say this but dont listen. alot of times parents disagree w/ there kids becoming something like a muscian or artist cuz its a very dangerous buisness. but go for it. if u want it. go for it
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Love in christ--chelsea
~God created people in his own image; God patterned them after himself Genesis 1:27
~Stop judging others, and u will not be judged. Stop criticizing others, or it will all come back on u. Luke 6:37
~There are "friends" who destroy eachother but a real freind sticks closer than a brother. Proverbs 18:24
~A fool is quick tempered but a wise person stays calm when insulted. Proverbs 12:16
~The tounge is a small thing but what enormous damage it can do. James 3:5
~Even if my father and mother abandon me the Lord will hold me close. Psalm 27:10
~Get rid of all bitterness...instead be kind to eachother Ephesians 4:31-32
God bless
Love in christ--chelsea