Adoption Hell

[kagomes_new_soul]

I am a foster child at fourteen years old. I was taken in at the age of thirteen.



My mom is a drug user and a hooker when she is not pretending to be a parent and I don't know my father. My mom's twin Jean (I am named after her, Jeanna) is exactly like her. They showed up a rose up chaos in my life whenever they showed up.



The person who I lived with all of my life was my Uncle Choo. He is now in jail for something that he did not do and about to get surgery.



Even now when I thought that I was away from my mother she shows up here, too.



Now I live in a foster home with my exbest friend Brittany that I have known since 4th grade. I started out as an oly child and now I have three siblings.



It seems like they all gang up on me. The little white girl in a house full of Cubans.



losing hope,



Jeanna

[iHEAVENn]

i agree with angeloftheages, hang in there hun hold your head up and pray for the best.

[Toolrockgirl]

im sorry you have to go through that...its going to get better! Isn't there away you can tell the people of the place that you want nothing to do with your mom? they could probley make is so she just cant pop in and out of your life like that?

[Sam!]

If you really don't like your foster home, trying contacting your social worker at DCF and see what they say. Or, you could try talking to the family, just telling them you're having a hard time adjusting you know. And try to become friends with Brittany again, it could make things easier. Sorry you're having a hard time. Stay strong!

[kagomes_new_soul]

thank you every one for those king words



I don't have a social worker. all of the paper were signed without any type of court interaction so if my mom wanted to she could just pop in and snatch me away from them



and it just seems as if brittany hates me ya know she was always there for me before we became "sisters" why should that change now?



hoping to be happy,

:'(

Jeanna

[iHEAVENn]

why dont you ask her whats up?? see if shes got a reason or something

[faith]

wow that does sound tough. u know what tho? not everyone could handle being in such a situation but clearly u have and that says alot about u. like u are a strong woman. i wanna give u credit for that. now u say it seems like they are gaining up on u. like in what way are they doing that? u know what i just thought of...maybe its hard for them to all of a sudden have like a new sis. like i guess what im trying to say is that that would be really hard for me and maybe they are having trouble adjusting u kmnow? pm me if u wanna talk more, im here

[CuteLilChk]

I'm sorry. I was adopted, but I was a newborn, so I don't really know what you are going through. It sounds really hard. Hang in there. Don't let this experience effect your goals or put a damper on your future.

[Halo_n_Horns]

god poor u that sounds awful. but hang on in there! if ur not comfy around them...then tell an adult u trust! and fast

[flavaoftheweak]

hmm, im guessing maybe you could talk to your school counselor? they could probably help you get a social worker, and get in a foster home you like to be in. until then, talk to brittany, find out whats her beef. you guys are going to be sisters, and if shes still worrying about what happened when you were friends... well its gotta change, because now you two are related, and your not just friends anymore. and dont let the other kids get to you. just do your thing.



i agree, you must be very strong. i couldnt imagine being in your position and being so tolerant of it, let alone being able to survive. i admire you for that. keep it up, and im sure you'll be fine.



good luck, pm me if you want.

[MystryUnknown]

I have had a couple freinds who were in this exact situation, I cannot personally know what your going through, but seeing what my friends had gone through gives me some kind of perspective atleast..

Just know that you are better than what you are going through right now, You dont have to end up like your family..You can stand up, be strong and make something absaloutly awesome out of yourself..I know "hard" doesent even come close to what your going through but you can be better than all of this..Just have hope and dont let the wrong things that have happened hold you down.



I believe you can be whatever you want ot be..Just set goals for yourself..and set out to reach them no matter what is in the way or seems to be holding you back..reach for the stars and dont expect to get anything less (that sounded a lil corny but hey! I tried lol)



-Saleah

[Sky]

Be strong sweetie!

My best friend lives in a group home... and I have lived in 7 different fosteer homes and 2 group homes hun. I know it is so hard, especially when it is your parent's fault. I hope your uncle gets better. In the mean time keep your head high and keep pushing foward!