So let's say I'm with someone I know and we start fooling around and before I know it, we're having sex. I'm in the middle of it so why should I just throw him off of me? Does it mean I haven't done it? Does it mean I haven't lost my virginity? No.
You still are alright in your mind with having sex on some level. Even if you're drunk or whatever. It wasn't forced on you.
A person who's raped doesn't "do" anything. Except try NOT to do anything.
I think virginity is an emotional thing. And I have said multiple times that yes, technically, a person who was raped is no longer a version because they have had intercourse.
But it is in NO way a mental taking away of the virginity and their first time when it's their choice is their real first time.
I won't budge from that idea.