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Shit is all i can say,

I thought I'd be strong, but no - hormones gave in.

so Stephanie and I had unprotected sex, I came inside her,

it was during her period.



Im not sure, i just read on a health website that it is not possible for a woman to be fertile during her period.

but im still, i dunno, confused, scared, and just unsure.

I dont think things can be the same, i just need help, assurance,

what should I DO?
Me: So do you like, HIM?

Rosca: No way, they suck. . .

Me: How can you say that, they're love METAL

Rosca: They ain't Metal!

Me: Well they probably get more women than we will ever in our lives combined

Rosca: Yea cause they're gay. . .
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chill for the 1st part. you dont kno. get her 2 take a pregnancy test.
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Haha wrong forum. I think this is supposed to be in Teen Pregnancy. ;)



How long ago did you two have sex? If it was shorter than 72 hours then go to the doctors and get the morning after pill. If it is longer then you are gonna have to wait like 2 weeks to be able to get a pregnany test.



I wouldn't worry too much it isn't THAT easy to get pregnant during your period. Just chill out dude...



Oh and get her on the birth control pill - and get some condoms for next time. :)



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a girl can get preg at any time. you should be scared although i REALLY hope for your sake, her sake, and the potential baby's sake that nothing happened. DON'T DO IT AGAIN! it's nothing short of a stupid and irrisponsible thing to you. take care of your girlfriend and yourself!
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she went for an emergeny contraceptive control or something like that today,

and i think shes pissed off at me, what can I do to make things better
Me: So do you like, HIM?

Rosca: No way, they suck. . .

Me: How can you say that, they're love METAL

Rosca: They ain't Metal!

Me: Well they probably get more women than we will ever in our lives combined

Rosca: Yea cause they're gay. . .
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what is dont is done. now you know not to do that agian
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she shouldnt really be pissed off at you. It was just as much her fault as yours.



Was it her first time? if so, thats not good. Shes going to have bad memories of it forever, it would have been better if you had of used protection (but i guess you know all this now, so i wont lecture anymore!)



Hate to worry you, but sometimes emergency contraception doesnt work. (didnt for me) so you should start considering your other options. Just be there for her, show her how much you love her. She'll be ok soon im sure.
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Originally posted by Sk8r_4_LiFe@Jun 18 2003, 03:03 PM

Shit is all i can say,

I thought I'd be strong, but no - hormones gave in.

so Stephanie and I had unprotected sex, I came inside her,

it was during her period.



Im not sure, i just read on a health website that it is not possible for a woman to be fertile during her period.

but im still, i dunno, confused, scared, and just unsure.

I dont think things can be the same, i just need help, assurance,

what should I DO?


awww. don't hormones suck? I know that you are probaby confused and scared. But maybe you shouldn't be. Why can't things be the same? I would love to say that everything will be okay but I can't because no one knows if it will be. She shouldn't be mad at you. Its not like it was just your fault. It was hers too. And wasn't it her who wanted you to have sex with her a couple weeks ago in central park, I think? I don't think the emergency contraception like the morning after pill is a good idea. Its not a healthy thing to do. But whatever. Just stick by her side.
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im not worried about the pregnancy anymore, the chances are really reall really slim

especially after contraceptives. shes really embarassed and she doesnt really wanna talk to me.



now i was the one that asked to do it this time, but she was all over it, she so wanted to do it - i kept questioning and questioning, but she said lets do it yes yes, and it was all against those morals i so willingly held up two weeks prior. And now I screwed up.



She doesnt really even wanna talk 2 me, what do i DO?
Me: So do you like, HIM?

Rosca: No way, they suck. . .

Me: How can you say that, they're love METAL

Rosca: They ain't Metal!

Me: Well they probably get more women than we will ever in our lives combined

Rosca: Yea cause they're gay. . .
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There isn't much that you CAN do. Its in the past. You can't go back and change it. You can only learn from it. Do you think you will do it again?
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FOR EVERYONE THAT SAYS U CAN GET PREGNANT DURING A PERIOD - UR WRONG CLICK HERE



i dont plan on doing that for a while, because of this episode, and i want to make LOVE to her, not have sex with her like i did last night in the stairwell
Me: So do you like, HIM?

Rosca: No way, they suck. . .

Me: How can you say that, they're love METAL

Rosca: They ain't Metal!

Me: Well they probably get more women than we will ever in our lives combined

Rosca: Yea cause they're gay. . .
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Originally posted by Sam@Jun 18 2003, 10:43 AM



awww. don't hormones suck? I know that you are probaby confused and scared. But maybe you shouldn't be. Why can't things be the same? I would love to say that everything will be okay but I can't because no one knows if it will be. She shouldn't be mad at you. Its not like it was just your fault. It was hers too. And wasn't it her who wanted you to have sex with her a couple weeks ago in central park, I think? I don't think the emergency contraception like the morning after pill is a good idea. Its not a healthy thing to do. But whatever. Just stick by her side.


Sorry, but i think emergency contraceptions a bit healthier than an abortion, or having a kid.
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by the way sk8r, everything will probably get better. Just try to be supportive. She is embarassed probably, but youll get through this.
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Originally posted by Sk8r_4_LiFe@Jun 18 2003, 06:46 PM



i dont plan on doing that for a while, because of this episode, and i want to make LOVE to her, not have sex with her like i did last night in the stairwell






aww thats cute. I am glad that you learned something from this episode your going through. Next time be prepared and use a condom or something. Of maybe she should go on the birth control pill.
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Originally posted by Tora@Jun 18 2003, 06:47 PM



Sorry, but i think emergency contraceptions a bit healthier than an abortion, or having a kid.


I agree. I have taken the morning after pill and it didn't harm me at all. :P



Oh and Paul - she is most probably embarassed. I mean c'mon she is bound to be. You said before she has morals...and then she has just given them up "last night in the stairwell" as you said. Plus she was panicking about being pregnant. I would be pretty embarassed too.



Just give her time...talk to her about it and tell her you care about her etc. She will soon get over this and well - act like normal. ;)



Oh and even if it is HIGHLY unlikely to not get pregnant when having sex during a period...don't bet on it and next time get her on the birth control pill or use condoms or some sort of contraceptive.



Best to be safe than sorry. :)



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And what you lost



Well It's only me that wants to wrap around your dreams



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i know things will go "back to normal"

but im not sure if it will ever be the same.

im not sure if we'll ever be so open with each other again

im just so out of it right now, maybe im not thinking straight but i really value our relationship, and it seems like its taking a serious plunge.
Me: So do you like, HIM?

Rosca: No way, they suck. . .

Me: How can you say that, they're love METAL

Rosca: They ain't Metal!

Me: Well they probably get more women than we will ever in our lives combined

Rosca: Yea cause they're gay. . .
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Why won't things be the same? Nothing really changed except that you 2 had sex.
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**Puts hands on hips, starts tapping foot and pretends to be angry at Paul**



Ewww... on her period!? Paul, you beast! Well it's good that everything is cool. :)



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Paul, all I can say is that she needs to take responsibility for her body.. and this isn't your fault and it isn't entirely her fault.



Go and speak with plannedparenthood or a family planning clinic about hormonal methods of birth control like the pill, especially if you guys are getting bored of/forgetting to use condoms.



You can get pregnant on a period, sperm can live for up to 5 days and that could be past the end of the period..
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ok....well heres what i think....first of all, you gotta be more open with each other abotu stuff like this. talking about this kinda stuff helps. its pretty obvious tho that she is not very experienced...and well...you prolly are. so, try to keep this in mind. i read your other post abotu central park....and that seems like what a really awesome boyfriend would do. the stairwell was just...well like you said, hormones winning over. but...keep the lines open with her and try to talk things over. best of luck.
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