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Well, I'm 19 years old and never had sex. I have made out, been fingered and thats about it. Every time I do something with a guy I feel so dirty. I just feel like even if we had just been touching eachother or something I feel like...yuck. When we are done I always go shower, when he leaves or when I do. Is this weird?
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It's not bad at all that you haven't had sex. You just don't seem ready. I'm not saying that I think this is whats going on, but have you ever considered a girl over a guy? Because I have heard of many lesbians not knowing that they're lesbians yet, but being disgusted with being intimate with a man. Just a thought. I'm in school right now and I have to go, sorry I couldn't give you more of my time to help.
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Hey!! Don't worry about it, I kinda feel like that too, with any sort of sexual stuff. . . we all have different "horniness levels" persay. . . check out this site on asexuality- the people there rock, and maybe you could relate? I do anyways. . .

http://www.asexuality.org/discussion
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There is nothing wrong with still being a virgin at 19. I think its good that you have held out that long, unlike most young horny teens these days! :shy:



As for feeling dirty after....I don't have that problem, so I'm not really sure. Maybe because in your mind you think its wrong/dirty?
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My friend gets sick to her stomach after anything but making out. I can get that way too--really, anything below the waist I think would make me feel pretty dirty and I used to feel dirty about anything but kissing-not even tongue. I think it's pretty normal.. when you find someone you really like maybe things will change. Actually, my first impression was the same as Abbi's. But that could not be the case at all, it's up to you.
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ive known lots of people that r virgins, way older than you. i guess u could say that your not ready to have sex
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Ok, well mabey I didn't write what my ? really was. I thank you for all the info. on this but my main ? is...when i have any kinda anything...i just feel dirty, not wrong, but dirty like i need to shower after...lol

Hope i'm making sense.
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maybe your juss tired? sometimes when me and my girl do stuff i feel tired and like i need a shower too ... but sometimes its cuz it gets really hot and we sweat.. but i mean other than that i donno what to think about it ...
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Originally posted by true@Jan 20 2004, 08:37 PM

Hey!! Don't worry about it, I kinda feel like that too, with any sort of sexual stuff. . . we all have different "horniness levels" persay. . . check out this site on asexuality- the people there rock, and maybe you could relate? I do anyways. . .

http://www.asexuality.org/discussion


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anything sexual causes pores to open and increases sweat gland activity maybe thats why u feel dirty!
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