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Lesbian Or Bi?
I'm in love with a girl, gosh so in love...we both love eachother so it's good, but we're both females and i just it's confusing a bit...cause i don't know what i am..lesbian or bi? It doesn't matter, i guess...but i'm confused with my sexuality. I look at guys and think they're cute..but i can't picture myself with them, kissing them...??
I look at girls and think they're cute too..but i can't picture myself with them, kissing them either?????
I don't know what I'm saying..I don't know how i feel towards guys and girls...
All i know for sure is that I'm in love with a girl.
Anybody else been in this confusing stage?
I look at girls and think they're cute too..but i can't picture myself with them, kissing them either?????
I don't know what I'm saying..I don't know how i feel towards guys and girls...
All i know for sure is that I'm in love with a girl.
Anybody else been in this confusing stage?
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hmm im not but that does sound a bit frustrating, dont worry about labeling yourself right now just be with whom you want to be with and worry about what you are later. if youre lesbian or bi, either way it doesnt matter, just be yourself, and yes im sure lots of people go thru confusing stages, its part of growing up and being a teenage...good luck finguring things out!
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you don't need to label yourself....if your not sure..then just wait until you are...and you are inlove with a girl..so..its obvious you like women..but..you say you can't picture kising them....so..thats a little confusing..and you say you also acn't picture yourself with a guy or kissing them either...you just find them to be attractive..so..maybe you do like guys as well...because you feel the same about them as you do girls..and your inlove with a girl....i don't know..just wait and see what happens...don't put a rush on figuring things out..let it come to you..
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i wouldnt worry about if ur bi or lesbian it really shouldnt matter....just see how it goes and ur find out what u are! dont worry!
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Well, maybe it's just that you're not completely ready for those feelings yet. Or it's possible you aren't used to them. In teeny bits of ways I know what you're talking about. Everyone wants a label right away. Don't worry, and just don't decide right away what you want to be. You should decide to be with any gender you want. And when you finally get feelings for another (Say maybe a guy for instance) then maybe you are bi. But you said you love a girl and you love each other. There's part of an answer for you. You don't have to exactly be intimate with someone to have feelings for them and decide what you are. (I hope I'm making sense) What I'm trying to say is, kiss when you're ready. Decide when you're ready. These are your choices and I hope you come to one soon.
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Question : How old are you ? and how long have you felt like this? Have you dated anyone before?
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Originally posted by oneforthemoney@Aug 28 2003, 11:41 PM
Question : How old are you ? and how long have you felt like this? Have you dated anyone before?
I'm 16. How long? About a year or close to a year. I've dated before, one guy...we lasted 3 months, but it was nothing special, he didn't care about me, just wanted some i guess.
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This is how I like to think of myself. I'm just incredibly open-mided, no labels. Who I fall in love with is who I fall in love with and that's the end of that. You don't need to label yourself. With me, anything goes. You could be the same way as me.
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Yeah, just see where this relationship goes with you and your friend... if it progresses and you like being with her in many ways, if you know what I mean, then you'd be able to identify "hwhat" you are and who you are
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dont feel rushed to label your sexuality. labels suck! just go with the flow and live your life how you want to. if you only want to date girls...then do that...and same for guys. keep your options open, because labeling yourself something like "lesbian" or "bi" has a lasting psychological effect on you and if you decide otherwise down the road then you will undergo a lot of stress and confusion.
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Thanks you guys, for replying,..i feel less confused. I guess I just have to try not to look for a label for myself. i am who i am, whoever that may be. I know I'm in love with a girl..and that's that..i'm dalia who loves kristen....ey?
Thanks again.
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Thanks again.
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That's the spirit ...don't let other people tell who and who you can't love, you love who you love.... there's nothing wrong with loving someone.
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Perhaps you are asexual?? Sorry, i shouldn't joke about this sort of thing.
Don't worry about labeling yourself. It doesn't matter what your sexuality is. You will fall in love with whoever you're meant to. The important thing is that you're open minded about it (which you are, obviously). If it's a guy or a girl, it doesn't make any difference.
But if you're worried about what to say when/if people ask you, you can tell them you're "label free." if you feel like explaining it to them.
give yourself some time (i hate hearing that, too) and things will work themselves out.
For now, be greatful that you're in love with someone who loves you. That's a hard thing to find.
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Don't worry about labeling yourself. It doesn't matter what your sexuality is. You will fall in love with whoever you're meant to. The important thing is that you're open minded about it (which you are, obviously). If it's a guy or a girl, it doesn't make any difference.
But if you're worried about what to say when/if people ask you, you can tell them you're "label free." if you feel like explaining it to them.
give yourself some time (i hate hearing that, too) and things will work themselves out.
For now, be greatful that you're in love with someone who loves you. That's a hard thing to find.
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Thanks. That's a good thing to say...I'm label free...hmm...yes. Thank you. I am lucky to have my girly.
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Re: Lesbian Or Bi?
I can see that this has pretty much been settled, but i thought that i would put my 2 cents in (aww! i cant stay away from using clitches!!)
but, don't be so egar to give your self a lable...when you feel right then give your self one...i mean if you are w/ a girl then most likily you are either bi or a lesbian...
i am just glad to see that you are happy with yourself...i come across soo many people who don't want to be a lesbian / gay and try to make themself to be straight!!
but, don't be so egar to give your self a lable...when you feel right then give your self one...i mean if you are w/ a girl then most likily you are either bi or a lesbian...
i am just glad to see that you are happy with yourself...i come across soo many people who don't want to be a lesbian / gay and try to make themself to be straight!!
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Hmm..are you and this girl in a full sexual relationship?
I can understand what you mean. My view on life is just that girl/guy it doesnt matter. What matters is how you are attracted to them, how they make you feel, and how you can love anybody. Just go with what you feel is right, and everythign will work out in the end.
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I can understand what you mean. My view on life is just that girl/guy it doesnt matter. What matters is how you are attracted to them, how they make you feel, and how you can love anybody. Just go with what you feel is right, and everythign will work out in the end.
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