Okae I Need Some Advice.

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Okae I Need Some Advice.

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OKae.. well I'm with this girl that I just fell head over heels for. :wub:



But like.. before we we're together she had this really lengthy long distance relationship .. and like she thought they were soul mates and stuff. But she ended it for me. and three weeks before we met she was with another girl and thought she was the one for her.



What should I do I mean I really like her but she seems to just give her feelings so easily! I'm really guarded and I don't wanna get hurt whenever she finds a new interest. :(



SO any little thing will help just yeah i don't know
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I'm not really sure what to tell you, except to be careful. Watch out, hope she doesn't fall too fast, and don't fall too fast yourself. If you need anything, I'm here you can PM me.
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I was kind of in the same situation with my girl. She falls for people much MUCH easier than I do. maybe you should just talk to her about how you feel. i think if you were to tell her that you're scared of getting hurt, because of her past, it might be a useful thing for her to consider. worst case scenario: she says, what the hell?! why are you questioning my affections! how rude! and if she says that, my dear, she doesn't deserve to be your girlfriend anyway.



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Be honest with her- your feelings should be just as important (or more important) to her as her own- she needs to know you. Be careful not to fall to fast for her, but don't hold back just because of her past. . . I dunno, this is tough.

Just be honest, in relationships, it's always best. GOOD LUCK!!! LOVE!!!!
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This situation can be tough. But you should try to get over her. Past IS hard, but go on without her because she has someone else, and now she's thinking she's in love. She's NOT in love. She used to word without knowing how to. Just try as best you can. :clover: It's hard, PM me if you need anything more hun.
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Hun, I think you shouldn't take the risk.. .it sounds too.... I don't know. It sounds like there is something fishy about it.
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I don't know its tuff .. she means a lot to me but its so hard to figure out what she is thinking about stuff :wacko:
*She's a mystery

My most beautiful regret

I will never understand her

She's a mystery

The only promise I can keep

Even in my dreams she ruins me*



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Yeah, she gave alot up to be with you .... I know how that feels. Sometimes you gotta move on, and that's what she did.. I agree with everyone else - talk to her, tell her you're afraid... you don't wanna be "handed down" like the other girl.. and that she shouldnt say things that she might not truly feel.. I know people say things when the think its love but it isnt..



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I agree with "oneforthemoney", it's from my own experience. One of my previous girlfriends was engaged to a guy on the other side of the country, she broke up with him for me. I later found out that she broke up with another guy that she was "in love" with to date the guy she was engaged to. It's probably the same thing in your situation. It sounds like this girl is very fickle when it comes to liking someone. No offense of course, but what I'm saying is, you should be careful as not to just be the girl that she leaves for someone else. I went through the same thing and it really pained me.
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