Okay so...
I'd like to have sex with a guy once, but I'm scared shitless.
My friend offered to have sex with me this Saturday, but I'm sorta scared...like, I want it, kinda, but I'm scared...you know?
And like...gaaaah.
What do I do?
Cheers,
Jenna
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If you wanna have sex with a guy then do it. Its not all that different, just he has a penis lol. Id say you try it. Ive done both girls and guys and i prefer to mess around with a girl but date a guy, weird, i know....but n e ways, yeah if you wanna do it then do it.
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Jenna, if you feel scared, you're most likely not ready. If you're this hesitant, you must already know its the wrong option....
You're an intelligent girl - what would you say to someone else in your position?
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Don't do it Jenna!!!! 
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Originally posted by Lena@Sep 11 2005, 07:57 AM
Jenna, if you feel scared, you're most likely not ready.
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I agree with this. If you're this scared about it, you're going to regret it really bad if you go through with it. I'd suggest not doing it until you feel completely comfortable with it.
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As everyone else said - I don't think you're ready. Wait it out a while and see if you change your mind later. 
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scared can equal excited but it does not equal READY. 
I've never been with a guy ever, I don't know. It seems kind of strange that you love girls but are jumping at the chance to experiment with a guy as well?
If you feel ready and want to, go for it. If not, just wait! WHo knows, the girl of your dreams could be right around the corner.
I've never been with a guy ever, I don't know. It seems kind of strange that you love girls but are jumping at the chance to experiment with a guy as well?
If you feel ready and want to, go for it. If not, just wait! WHo knows, the girl of your dreams could be right around the corner.
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I agree hun...just wait and if you are ready then do it...
just like make out w/ him (though im sure you already do that hun
) haha...and see where things go, if you feel comfortable try it...if don't worry about it, move on and try again later.....
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just like make out w/ him (though im sure you already do that hun
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If you are scared I would wait until you are ready. You are young and there is a lot of time left to have sex.
You called yesterday to basically say
That you care for me but that you're just not in love
Immediately I pretended to be feeling similarly
And led you to believe I was O.K.
To just walk away from the one thing
That's unyielding and sacred to me
Well I guess I'm trying to be nonchalant about it
And I'm going to extremes to prove I'm fine without you
But in reality I'm slowly losing my my mind
Underneath the guise of a smile gradually I'm dying inside
Friends ask me how I feel and I lie convincingly
'Cause I don't want to reveal the fact that I'm suffering
So I wear my disguise 'til I go home at night
And turn down all the lights and then break down and cry
So what do you do when somebody you're devoted to
Suddenly just stops loving you and it seems they haven't got a clue
Of the pain that rejection is putting you through
Do you cling to your pride and sing "I will survive"
Do you lash out and say "How dare you leave this way"
Do you hold on in vain as they just slip away
That you care for me but that you're just not in love
Immediately I pretended to be feeling similarly
And led you to believe I was O.K.
To just walk away from the one thing
That's unyielding and sacred to me
Well I guess I'm trying to be nonchalant about it
And I'm going to extremes to prove I'm fine without you
But in reality I'm slowly losing my my mind
Underneath the guise of a smile gradually I'm dying inside
Friends ask me how I feel and I lie convincingly
'Cause I don't want to reveal the fact that I'm suffering
So I wear my disguise 'til I go home at night
And turn down all the lights and then break down and cry
So what do you do when somebody you're devoted to
Suddenly just stops loving you and it seems they haven't got a clue
Of the pain that rejection is putting you through
Do you cling to your pride and sing "I will survive"
Do you lash out and say "How dare you leave this way"
Do you hold on in vain as they just slip away
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You're feeling panicked and you're not exactly thinking straight. Think through your feelings on it. What would it do for you? What exactly are your feelings on it. Weight it out. I know I'm not being of much help right now but you can't really rush yourself. I think you are thinking too fast and yet too much about it. Therefore, you're not in any place to make a sudden decision.
Take it easy, dear. <3 Don't rush. That's not helping you any. Just pressuring.
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Hey did you ever end up going through with it???
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Originally posted by flora@Oct 16 2005, 06:28 PM
Hey did you ever end up going through with it???
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Naw, he got sick and I went to homecoming with a giiirllll who I am sort of seeing.
Actually, though, my friend and I are planning a foursome on Halloween, and he's guy...so like, I'll probably end up having sex with him if everything works out.
And in the end, we're all really close friends and we'll all be drunk/stoned off our asses anyways.
I dunno, the guy in this post though still wants to do something, and I told him that I'd think about it.
So many choices!
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Jenna babe,
Just want to make sure you're doing this all for the right reason. You have made it pretty clear that you are indeed a lesbian and that you have no attraction to guys. Are you starting to question in part the veracity of that? If so, having sex with a guy, while a good form of experimentation, is not really the way to go. Until you're more comfortable, anyway.
I know that despite being gay I sometimes wonder if I could/would enjoy sex with a girl. At the same time, I know that I wouldn't. It might be different for you, but the fact of the matter is, if you have doubts about trying it, like most people in this thread have said, don't go for it.
If your motives for such experimentation are indeed different, you could maybe consider it. If you're doing it just so you can say you've done it, try to remember what sex is actually about and decide if you want any romance involved in it and whatnot. You might just be giving some guy the opportunity to say, "Dude, I boned a lesbian." On the flip side, if he does have feelings for you, it's really not fair to him to have sex with him if you don't feel the same way.
Just my thoughts on the matter. I know you'll end up making the right decision in the end. You've got a good head on your shoulders.
Just want to make sure you're doing this all for the right reason. You have made it pretty clear that you are indeed a lesbian and that you have no attraction to guys. Are you starting to question in part the veracity of that? If so, having sex with a guy, while a good form of experimentation, is not really the way to go. Until you're more comfortable, anyway.
I know that despite being gay I sometimes wonder if I could/would enjoy sex with a girl. At the same time, I know that I wouldn't. It might be different for you, but the fact of the matter is, if you have doubts about trying it, like most people in this thread have said, don't go for it.
If your motives for such experimentation are indeed different, you could maybe consider it. If you're doing it just so you can say you've done it, try to remember what sex is actually about and decide if you want any romance involved in it and whatnot. You might just be giving some guy the opportunity to say, "Dude, I boned a lesbian." On the flip side, if he does have feelings for you, it's really not fair to him to have sex with him if you don't feel the same way.
Just my thoughts on the matter. I know you'll end up making the right decision in the end. You've got a good head on your shoulders.
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Ahhh, Jenna, dear. *Sigh* As Sam said... you really need to think this through. Think about the consequences, how you will feel afterwards, etc.
You may think this is a good idea now, but what about later?
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Well it's after Halloween did you end up going through with it?
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Originally posted by OnlyInside+Sep 11 2005, 07:30 AM--[/right]
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I agree with this. If you're this scared about it, you're going to regret it really bad if you go through with it. I'd suggest not doing it until you feel completely comfortable with it.
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Okay, to all you people saying that because she's scared, she shouldn't do it, well I think thats very wrong. We all take risks in life, some we like, some we regret. TRUE. But taking risks is always a good thing, it's an experience that you don't have to wonder about anymore, and a possible change in views, and many many other possibilities. This could be totally fun for her. No one can tell her it won't be, she needs to figure it out for herself. We are all afraid of something, but just because we're afraid doesn't mean that we should restrict ourselves from it. It's an experience! EXPERIENCE LIFE!
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Originally posted by Abbi+Nov 2 2005, 03:41 PM--[/right]
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I agree with this. If you're this scared about it, you're going to regret it really bad if you go through with it. I'd suggest not doing it until you feel completely comfortable with it.
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Okay, to all you people saying that because she's scared, she shouldn't do it, well I think thats very wrong. We all take risks in life, some we like, some we regret. TRUE. But taking risks is always a good thing, it's an experience that you don't have to wonder about anymore, and a possible change in views, and many many other possibilities. This could be totally fun for her. No one can tell her it won't be, she needs to figure it out for herself. We are all afraid of something, but just because we're afraid doesn't mean that we should restrict ourselves from it. It's an experience! EXPERIENCE LIFE!
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Abbi, this is really, really bad advice for this situation. I've gotta admit that I'm pretty surprised you said something like this. While people should be open about "experiencing life," she's not ready for this "experience." Maybe I'm saying this because I know more about the situation than most, I don't know, but this is absolutely horrid advice.
And to the person that asked if she went through with it, to the best of my knowledge, she hasn't.
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I agree w/ doug here, abbi...
yeah its true that we have to occationally get out of our shell to see what we are missing, we can not get our of our shell until we are ready (at least to a good degree)...
so its not right for her just to go do it unless she is mentally ready...
i mean if i were to do something that i am not ready to do it will not help my self-esteem if it failed...but if i was at least mentally ready (or close to being mentally ready) and i failed i wouldn't be as devistated...
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yeah its true that we have to occationally get out of our shell to see what we are missing, we can not get our of our shell until we are ready (at least to a good degree)...
so its not right for her just to go do it unless she is mentally ready...
i mean if i were to do something that i am not ready to do it will not help my self-esteem if it failed...but if i was at least mentally ready (or close to being mentally ready) and i failed i wouldn't be as devistated...
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