This is metaphorical for who makes more decisions, and who tends to take charge. Are you in charge, is your partner, or is it equal?
I know in my relationship, I prefer not to make decisions, I make so many in my own life, that I like someone else to take charge, and I also have an insatiable need to please people, so if they're happy, I am. We do make a lot of decisions together, and I'm happy with that.
I also would like to know if your relationship is how you want it to be. Are you in the right place, are you in charge when you'd rather not be? Or vice versa?
Go on and discuss it :p
Discussion: Who wears the trousers in your relationship?
Moderator: Sex & Relationships Moderators
- nirvana
- Loyal
- Posts: 38
- Joined: Mon Mar 02, 2009 2:39 pm
Discussion: Who wears the trousers in your relationship?
Next time you think you're perfect. Try walking on water
- CausticTears
- Veteran
- Posts: 2386
- Joined: Fri Mar 21, 2003 4:21 pm
- Contact:
Re: Discussion: Who wears the trousers in your relationship?
Overall, I think I'm more in charge when it comes down to decision making. Which is kind of ironic since I am indecisive. I guess I enjoy being in control; sometimes it's a good thing and sometimes it's a bit too much to handle. Not to say she never makes decisions or we never do what she wants to do; that would be totally false. I think I just make more decisions then she does because she allows me to do that. Yet, I would like for us both to be equal in this respect of charge. That way we would both have our share of charge and feel like we are putting in our two cents together. Does that make sense?
I am happy where I am now with my g/f. We used to be in this rough bumpy state and I think now we are picking up the pieces and trying to glue them back together.
I am happy where I am now with my g/f. We used to be in this rough bumpy state and I think now we are picking up the pieces and trying to glue them back together.
Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around.
-Leo Buscaglia
[HT Chat Room ][ HT Articles ]
Get your badges
-Leo Buscaglia
[HT Chat Room ][ HT Articles ]
Get your badges
- Cindy
- Veteran
- Posts: 3112
- Joined: Sun Dec 15, 2002 11:54 am
- Location: Michigan
- Contact:
Re: Discussion: Who wears the trousers in your relationship?
With me and my Ex, I was the one that wore the pants, even though he liked to think he did. It was me who always would have the final "Ya" or "Na" on everything. Although he would sneak around and do whatever he wanted anyways *rolls eyes*
<!-- isHtml:1 --><!-- isHtml:1 -->The Support Group Rules Read them, live by them, and worship them
<strong class='bbc'>"Nothing in life is to be feared. It is only to be understood." -Marie Curie[/b]
<strong class='bbc'>"Nothing in life is to be feared. It is only to be understood." -Marie Curie[/b]