Asexual . . .

[SirPostAlot]

Okay so i have known for many years that i have a low sex drive (or what i thought was a low sex drive), and like i find guys attractive and everything but i started reading through this site dedicated to asexuality and i feel like i fit a lot of the same mentality, you know?



Like though i find guys attractive, i can't imagion myself doing anything sexaul with them . . .

I do on occation watch porn, but it is mainly for a fantasy type thing . . .

I am fine not having sexual actions w/ another person ~ i mean i tried it twice and both times i was not into it at all . . .

Like when i see guys as attractive, i think their bodies are attractive in similar fashions as i would find a sculpture attractive, you know?

But i am adored to guys who have good personalities and a good head on their shoulder with ambition...



I dunno, i mean its one thing to accept a really low sex drive and another to accept asexuality, you know?



I read through the page and they said that asexuals (some of them) are not attracted to anyone but others will be attracted to certain genders/things but though they are attracted to them - their main focus is the mind...



Hmm, does anyone know what i mean? In the same boat?



~Jeff~



P.S. Here is the website if anyone is interested: http://www.asexuality.org/home/

[Jaegermeister]

I think it could be asexuality, but it could also be other things. I think sometimes it simply takes a while to open up to the idea of physical intimacy. Perhaps as you find someone who mentally you can connect with more on the mental level and get emotionally intimate with them, the idea of physical intimacy will seem less....... I don't know.... just, better?

[SirPostAlot]

Thats true...

i mean i am in no hurry to label myself as asexual, it just is something that is on my mind ~ espcially when i am critized for thinking guys are cute but not wanting their bodies . . .

hmm, i mean yeah i want a guy who i adore in the future - a partner/husband w/e...but when i think about it i odn't imagion sex or anything, but i imagion sitting around a large fireplace sipping wine and discussing work and politics or playing chess and laughing, you know?

just enjoying eachothers company as friends would ~ except we would be in one bedroom and all . . .

but yeah i'll def. wait, i am not in a hurry to lable myself - i'll just enjoy life and if a guy comes around who i mentally am connected to we wills ee hwere it goes . . .



~Jeff~

[FranklinF]

maybe you just havent found anyone youre really really into. i used to clasify myself as a-sexual, but that changed when i found my man...

[Bleeding~Hero]

I agree with what everyone else has said, but there might also be another piece to the puzzle.

The first time I experienced sexual activity, it completely turned me off of sex (it was boring and awkward), and afterwards I felt so bad about it that I couldn't ever do anything sexual with anyone for a really long time. I still haven't really bounced back, even years later.

I don't know if anything like that has happened to you, but just something to think about.

[Lena]

Jeff, I think Hero makes a really good point that you might want to consider. It might be because your previous experiences weren't okay.