i know this is a big question but how come i always want to be doing some bad behavior? like how come i always have to either be strugglign with cutting or eating? how come im afraid to show people im happy? why? its like im afraid to show people that im doingok. its wierd. i dont know...
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~There are "friends" who destroy eachother but a real freind sticks closer than a brother. Proverbs 18:24
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~Even if my father and mother abandon me the Lord will hold me close. Psalm 27:10
~Get rid of all bitterness...instead be kind to eachother Ephesians 4:31-32
God bless
Love in christ--chelsea
~God created people in his own image; God patterned them after himself Genesis 1:27
~Stop judging others, and u will not be judged. Stop criticizing others, or it will all come back on u. Luke 6:37
~There are "friends" who destroy eachother but a real freind sticks closer than a brother. Proverbs 18:24
~A fool is quick tempered but a wise person stays calm when insulted. Proverbs 12:16
~The tounge is a small thing but what enormous damage it can do. James 3:5
~Even if my father and mother abandon me the Lord will hold me close. Psalm 27:10
~Get rid of all bitterness...instead be kind to eachother Ephesians 4:31-32
God bless
Love in christ--chelsea
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Yea i have never seen this before, um yea if you still in school i recomend seein your consulor...hey we have the same b-day except im in '90
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i think maybe we are so used to being so sad. i think we are afraid to show ourselves when we are ok. and maybe if we show others, they wont realize how horrible we are if we are completely depressed the next day, or the next hour.
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im like that too exept i am happy with people around, just not inside i guess, maybe it's cause we're afraid of being 'too' happy cause once ure happy something gets fucked up, so it's easier being sad, idk
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I COMPLETELY agree with this. You dont want people thinking your happy because you dont wanna be sad again. I know its hard to explain and understand but yeah. If something can go wrong, it will and you just gota get past the bad stuff and focus on the good. You know how to get ahold of me if you need to talk.Originally posted by AWasteOfPaint@Sep 7 2005, 09:14 PM
i think maybe we are so used to being so sad. i think we are afraid to show ourselves when we are ok. and maybe if we show others, they wont realize how horrible we are if we are completely depressed the next day, or the next hour.
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i agree with the others. i believe we are so used to feeling a certain way so it becomes hard for us to express how we are feeling at the specific point in time. we begin to think that the person we are is Depressed. and we don't want to smile and show people we are happy, and the next day be depressed once again. i'm sorry if this makes no sense. this is just something thats really complicated to explain, and even more complicated to understand it. if you need me dont hesitate to pm me.
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Originally posted by 5a5@Sep 8 2005, 08:38 PM
im like that too exept i am happy with people around, just not inside i guess, maybe it's cause we're afraid of being 'too' happy cause once ure happy something gets fucked up, so it's easier being sad, idk
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I am like that. It feels like so much utter crap when you let go and enjoy the happiness, and then something shatters all of it. It's one big crash. I usually act happy and normal around friends to avoid the "what's wrong?". I mean I can say "nothing", but then you have that awkward feeling between eachother that something is wrong.
Also, I try not to show if I am feeling sad, because I don't want to be seen as weak. I know being sad is NOT weak, but it just makes me feel more vulnerable around others, so I try to avoid showing it, you know?
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Maybe subconciously you just want to feel loved, and if people show concern when you're in pain then you know you're cared about. A lot of people do this too...but the problem is that when you're constantly showing people that you're un-happy they dont notice it as much anymore and then you have to keep going to bigger extreams to get the attention that you need. Positive attention is not a bad thing...try to be happy and show everyone that there's more to you than the never ending issues. I'm saying this from experience because you remind me so much of myself. I've cut for years (not recently) i struggle from an eating disorder...and i hate for people to know about those things, but at the same time when they show me that they care it means a lot because i dont care about myself all that much...it's just nice if somebody could...ya know?
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Maybe subconciously you just want to feel loved, and if people show concern when you're in pain then you know you're cared about. A lot of people do this too...but the problem is that when you're constantly showing people that you're un-happy they dont notice it as much anymore and then you have to keep going to bigger extreams to get the attention that you need. Positive attention is not a bad thing...try to be happy and show everyone that there's more to you than the never ending issues. I'm saying this from experience because you remind me so much of myself. I've cut for years (not recently) i struggle from an eating disorder...and i hate for people to know about those things, but at the same time when they show me that they care it means a lot because i dont care about myself all that much...it's just nice if somebody could...ya know?
Good luck,
Andi
wow. that's really good advice Andi...i agree with that. and people always care about you wether or not they show it. sometimes it takes something major to notice someone cares. [/color]
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thanks everyone--i appreciate the input
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~God is our refuge and strength, always ready to help in times of trouble. psalm 46:1-2
~God created people in his own image; God patterned them after himself Genesis 1:27
~Stop judging others, and u will not be judged. Stop criticizing others, or it will all come back on u. Luke 6:37
~There are "friends" who destroy eachother but a real freind sticks closer than a brother. Proverbs 18:24
~A fool is quick tempered but a wise person stays calm when insulted. Proverbs 12:16
~The tounge is a small thing but what enormous damage it can do. James 3:5
~Even if my father and mother abandon me the Lord will hold me close. Psalm 27:10
~Get rid of all bitterness...instead be kind to eachother Ephesians 4:31-32
God bless
Love in christ--chelsea
~God created people in his own image; God patterned them after himself Genesis 1:27
~Stop judging others, and u will not be judged. Stop criticizing others, or it will all come back on u. Luke 6:37
~There are "friends" who destroy eachother but a real freind sticks closer than a brother. Proverbs 18:24
~A fool is quick tempered but a wise person stays calm when insulted. Proverbs 12:16
~The tounge is a small thing but what enormous damage it can do. James 3:5
~Even if my father and mother abandon me the Lord will hold me close. Psalm 27:10
~Get rid of all bitterness...instead be kind to eachother Ephesians 4:31-32
God bless
Love in christ--chelsea
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no problem hun....if you ever need anything, just pm me
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Originally posted by 5a5@Sep 8 2005, 09:38 PM
im like that too exept i am happy with people around, just not inside i guess, maybe it's cause we're afraid of being 'too' happy cause once ure happy something gets fucked up, so it's easier being sad, idk
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I agree
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it is easier being sad. but honestly, its a lot more fun to allow yourself to be happy...work on that sweetheart. things will turn out great.
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