ok where to start...
well i've been dating this guy named Tyler...well he has low self esteem because of his exs..they've all left him for someone else...well he believes he is ugly and fat. and that i am way to beautiful for him. he is not fat and is really handsome. he has a wonderful personality..and i am constantly dissagreeing with him when he says things bad about himself. it doesn't seem to be working, and i don't know what else i can do. he says it makes him feel better to be with someone that is as wonderful as me...but i want to be able to help him. i want him to see himself the way i see him.
does anyone have any advice or suggestions? if so, please post...it will really help.
thankyou!!
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I guess all you can do is constantly remind him that you care and how wonderful you think he is. When you see him wrap your arms around him and say, "Hiya handsome". 
Or something like that.
Keep reminding him that he's wonderful and you love him.
Soon he'll start to believe it too.
xo.
Or something like that.Keep reminding him that he's wonderful and you love him.
Soon he'll start to believe it too.xo.
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well we had a talk tonight, and it ended up being about our feelings for each other and why we had them. well i normally have a problem saying how i feel. but when he looks me in the eyes, i just feel so comfortable. as if i can do anything. i'm really starting to believe i love him. and i told him that. and i believe things are getting better with how he sees himself. i tell him how handsome i think he is a lot but not constantly because that tends to get annoying, or atleast i think so when someone keeps telling me im pretty. but i think that's helping, thanks Hannah.
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Glad to hear it Anna. I hope things work out between you two, if anyone deserves a good guy it's you."Our greatest glory is not in never falling, but in rising every time we fall." Confucius
Romans 5:8 "God demonstrates His own love toward us in that while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us."
"If you judge people, you have no time to love them." Mother Theresa
"A pessimist sees the difficulty in every opportunity; an optimist sees the opportunity in every difficulty." Sir Winston Churchill
There is no revenge so complete as forgiveness.
Romans 5:8 "God demonstrates His own love toward us in that while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us."
"If you judge people, you have no time to love them." Mother Theresa
"A pessimist sees the difficulty in every opportunity; an optimist sees the opportunity in every difficulty." Sir Winston Churchill
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aaww thankyou Hannah...he is one of the best things that has happened to me in a very long time. i'm just hoping things stay that way. my friend says she thinks he is a really great guy...but she doesn't like the age difference. lol. i'm 19, i'll be 20 in feb. and he's 17...18 at the end of march...
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Originally posted by Anna_Banana@Oct 9 2005, 04:44 AM
aaww thankyou Hannah...he is one of the best things that has happened to me in a very long time. i'm just hoping things stay that way. my friend says she thinks he is a really great guy...but she doesn't like the age difference. lol. i'm 19, i'll be 20 in feb. and he's 17...18 at the end of march...
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Woo go you for dating younger guys!!! (
yes..I'm 18 dating a 15 yr old, and will be 19 for a month while he is still 15.. haha 
)Everytime he starts to say something bad about himself, just shut him up. cover his mouth, whatever you need to do lol. Don't let him even reinforce himself by hearing those words come out of his mouth. If you keep telling him positive things, after awhile, he will come to start believing them.
Either do that, or just really ask him how he can think he is ugly (and then proceed to point out all the beautiful qualities that he has)
Goodluck
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What you do speaks so loudly I cannot hear what you're saying
In the province of the mind, what one believes to be true either is true or becomes true
Brent <3 4/12/05