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Please help me?
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Early in september, my boyfriend broke up with me, and I felt like it was my fault. Just a week ago, I finally got the truth from him. He'd told me he missed me, and I thought, with the way he was acting, he wanted me back. I was so terribly wrong. He told me he missed "having a 'girl' friend" and "the intimacy." Not me.. or so I felt that way. I feel used and toyed with, but this isn't a new feeling. I thought we were going to get back together, part of me wished we did.. the other half, not so much. But anyways, he finally told me the truth -- he didn't love me anymore. After I told him how I felt.. after admitting to him everything I felt regret for and would regret telling him. I also got a reason why he wanted out of the relationship. He claimed our personalities were so different, but I felt that wasn't completely true. He told me recently, during the second heartbreak, that I was a downer.. and that it was personality thing. I felt he was telling me I was doomed to be alone. Doomed to feel sad, envious, broken, and unwanted. The funny thing is, at first, I didn't feel anything, I felt numb and content. I don't know if the sadness now is because I feel the lonesomeness and the yearning for love, or if I'm back to "missing" him, and are in denial about it. However, I'd like to ask that maybe fate spare you with turmoil and pain, and give you a chance to move on, even if it seems impossible to me. There's always the chance he just needs time to think about it while you're off living life normally, giving him quite a lot of space. It may seem cruel, but if he really does care for you and isn't being honest or clear about it, then he'll soon realize it once you're gone and no longer chasing him. And if it's not meant to be, then all you can do is move on, right? Even if it means going after other boys to busy yourself, as selfish and wrong as that sounds. After all, the only way to get over one love is to find another, right?
I wish you luck and happiness. <3