How can this be happening? Why is it always me? Do you ever ask yourself these questions or do you simply want to vent? Do it all here, we'll try to help.
I'm not sure if this belongs here but I think it does.
Anyway, I feel like I always have to try and be good enough for everyone. Like my friends, family and everyone else. I just feel like I'm not smart enough, pretty enough, funny enough, smart enough or I just feel like I'm not a good friend.
Is that normal? I've been feeling like this for a long time and I wish there was something I could do to feel like I am good enough for someone just teh way I am. I'm always changing myself to be better for them because I feel like I'm nowhere near being good enough for them.
I always like to start with how this relates to my life so here goes. About five years ago I was asked to fill out a survey for a science project for a fellow classmate. It was about phobias. They asked one question, "What are you most afraid of?" My answer? Failuar. Fear of failing in letting my parents down, or my friends down. Fear of failing on a test. Not until recently did I realize that even if I do mess up and let down my parents, they will still love me no matter what, it may take time but they will love me, as will my friends, and my grades. Seeing this, it made me notice that people will accept me for whom I am, not who I try to be. Usually if I act out of character, my friends don't like me as much, because that's just not who they've come to know me as.
I guess what this all boils down to, whether it made much sense or not, is that people will accept you for who you are as long as you are you. If they can't accept you for you then maybe then aren't quite the person you thought.
Another note: Being able to come out and say this is showing that your plently good for me because I had to do the same thing a few years ago, and I didn't so in my eyes that makes you a better person than I in that aspect.
99.9% of putts left short never go in, and that applies to everything in life.[/b]
You'd be suprised how normal that is!!! There are TONS of people that feel that way!
My mom is always putting me down, so I never feel good enough for her. I never feel good enough for my boyfriend because he seems so perfect to me. I never feel good enough for my friends...
Just be yourself. People will respect you for that. If someone doesn't like you the way that you are, then that's their problem, not your's.
i wouldn't say its normal, but its very common. i constantly feel like a failure, like i can't do anything with my life no matter how hard i try, so why try. its not normal, but a lot more people than you think feel that way
"pavlovian's pothead, i hear a bong clink by eyes begin to water"-igby
"do you think when the guy invented the bong, a black light came on over his head?"
"i tried to walk into target, and missed"-mitch hedberg
But what kind of people aren't accepting you? If it's your fanily and friends, then it's their problem and their just gonna have to deal with you because, wheather they like it or not, they got you, not some cheap imitation! If it's your friends, it's rather common to act a little different around friends then say family, but if you're changing your whole being, then I think it would be time to find those friends who accept you for you. Along the way, you will step on some toes, its a given, but, it's better that you find out who YOU are and not get lost up in the, ok do I have to be the preppy cheerleader type around this group, or the more mature type? When around friends, you should always be allowed to be you.
I'll be in touch if you need me. If it's more urgent, u can e-mail me at [email protected] until later though.
Dobby
99.9% of putts left short never go in, and that applies to everything in life.[/b]
I can tell you for sure that there is no way that we can make everyone on earth to like us. There's no such a thing as being good enough for someone. You only need to be good enough for yourself. No matter what you do, the important thing is you tried your best. You worked hard, you did what you are supposed to do at the time and you dont mean any harm to anyone. You tried your very best and that's more than enough.
Yeah, you're right but it's just so hard because there's people in my life who expect me to be better and stuff. And I feel the need to try and make sure I'm what they want me to be.
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"See, but the thing is that there are people in my life who don't accept me. And I feel the need to change for them."
Sweetie, you don't need to change for ANYONE! Be yourself! If people don't like you, that's their problem, not your's!
I know it's scary, but you just have to push yourself and try! If other people want you to dress different, act different, just plain out BE different, don't do it, because if they were TRUE friends, they would like you the way you are and not try to get you to be someone else.
i totally understand you... when i read your post.. i felt like i was talking.. it was soo creepy.. just try to focus on yourself more and focus on the positive things and not the failures and things that didn't happen
