How can this be happening? Why is it always me? Do you ever ask yourself these questions or do you simply want to vent? Do it all here, we'll try to help.
Which means I'm too quiet, too insecure...and don't know how to act in social situations. And never assertive, gives in too easily. Many bad traits.
Yah. Anyway, I realize all these just explain why I am bad in everything I do that pertains to real life, aka relationships, family, especially jobs.
I cannot hold a job...I always do so bad. And yet I applied for a job to challenge me but I won't be able to do it because of my clinically shy personality...I'll be a wreck.
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My tears will be hidden behind this fake grin
You can see me through these metal bars-I won't let you in
It's my life and I screwed it-You're not to blame
And though I keep on trying, it's so hard to change.
Aw, sweetie, just see this as a challenge for you to overcome. It will just make victories in things that much sweeter, because you'll know you've beaten even more odds.
If you really can't handle this on your own, talk to a doctor or a therapist or something.
They're here to help you, and so are we! So don't be afraid to PM me anytime you need to talk or practice overcoming shyness.
Hannah
"Our greatest glory is not in never falling, but in rising every time we fall." Confucius
Romans 5:8 "God demonstrates His own love toward us in that while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us."
"If you judge people, you have no time to love them." Mother Theresa
"A pessimist sees the difficulty in every opportunity; an optimist sees the opportunity in every difficulty." Sir Winston Churchill
I use to be clinically shy. I overcame my shyness by forcing myself to go on stage and sing in front of a lot of people. It was hard, and nerve wrecking, but it works! Now I'm not as shy, but just a little reserved. That may not be for you, but it shows that you can come over your shyness. Like Hannah said you can PM me to talk or practice (maybe the three of us can do a chat room)
i'm pretty sure i am too. Just try to force yourself to do one thing a day that makes you nervous. Eventually you'll get over it. Sometimes i'm not shy at all... but usually i'm crazy shy. OMG dates are horrible, i can't even talk i'm such a mess! hahaha... embarassing. But yea, it helps to push yourself into doing things that make you nervous. Good luck... you'll get through it!
When I hear somebody sigh that Life is hard, I am always tempted to ask, Compared to what?
If we did the things we are capable of, we would astound ourselves.
Ability is what you're capable of doing. Motivation determines what you do. Attitude determines how well you do it.
You see things; and you say Why? But I dream things that never were; and I say Why not?
It is a hard matter, my fellow citizens, to argue with the belly, since it has no ears.
Don't worry! This is not something permanent, you CAN change. I can very much relate to your situation. I used to be a complete nervous wreck. When you learn to feel good about yourself, if you haven't already started to, you find that you can slowly begin to let go of some of these fears. For me, I had a huge fear of standing up in front of a group of people and speaking- at school, events, job interviews etc. Like everyone had been telling me to, I just imagined that everyone in the room was standing there naked. And I know this may seem really lame, but it worked over time!
Thanks guys. I think I exaggerated a bit...maybe I'm not clinically shy. I mean, I do speak to people, on an everyday basis, and I like singing and performing.
I'm just very self-conscious and insecure. And a major worrier. For example, I need a summer job...I've found a possible job for me which is a teacher's assistant working with 2-6 year olds. Though I probably have the right experience to be qualified, I've been thinking/feeling lately that I outgrew little kid babysitting...and I'm afraid to apply for this job because, what if I'm not enthusiastic enough...what if I don't really want to be there and end up doing a badd job? I mean, I'm 19 already. Plus, I've done so much kid-related work, I think I should be looking outside the box by now.
My tears will be hidden behind this fake grin
You can see me through these metal bars-I won't let you in
It's my life and I screwed it-You're not to blame
And though I keep on trying, it's so hard to change.
Hannah
