A New Kind Of Crush

[SirPostAlot]

okay so its quite clear i am a picky bitch, but i have been getting better...

like after a couple *ahming instances* i have realized i know what my type is, and there is this guy who i adore (point blank) but the thing is this, ii havea horrible gaydar (horrible) but my friends here have wonderful (quite odd) but they swear that this kid is at least bi, but that sorta me interested but scared...



all throughout hs i have crushed on guys, but they have been straight...



i came here and found the most adorable guy in the world (but he was straight), and then this kid came and i am just googly over him....we see eachother like once every day (usually) and i always look at him and he looks at me, but i don't know if he is bi/gay or not...



like i don't have classes w/ him, i have searched the hell out of facebook, but cannot find him - so he mustn't have it...

i dunno, like it would be cool to approach him, but i don't really know how...

the guy who i had "fun" (if you want to call it fun, haha) w/ approached me, so i don't know if i should approach him or him me, i mean its quite obvious im gay (not that i flaunt it, but i mean i am feminine) but i am not quite sure about him...my friends say he is, but there is part of me that just doens't see it...



~Jeff~

[Saren]

Hm, okay. So you wanna know if you should approach him, and if you being that one, how? All I know is, you'll never know if you don't try, right? You can't always expect someone else to do it for you, because what if he never did? You'd always be wondering what is going to happen, such as now. Only ten times more. So what if you don't know his sexuality? If you really want to get to know anything, it should be him first. Getting on with a good discussion leads to trust, and trust leads to confidentiality. Am I correct? You should just approach him one day, say hi. Start off small if that helps. Make yourself known as an acquaintance. Perhaps pretend you don't know where some room is, and ask him. Anything. I'm sure you'll think something up when it comes to it. It's not required you make big out of anything. The anticipation makes it fun, once you see each other more and more, say hi increasingly.

I'm sure you'll do fine, Jeff. You're a doll, and a charmer. <3

[SirPostAlot]

haha, yeah i know i should approach him its just ehh - its weird it being me...

like ic an tell people here 5000x to approach the person, but i am such a chicken in real life...



~Jeff~

[Saren]

Now's a good time to start as any! Think about it Jeff. You are already DYING to meet him, right? You want to get new friends, meet new people. You don't necessarily have to start off on a topic with him, but you can pass him, say hi. Whatever. When I thought there was someone I liked, to see if there was ever a better possibility of being friends, I would pass them by, and my heart would pound against my chest hard. Afterwards, I found it was worth it, because then I'd be regretting it if it never happened. Took years of experience with that one to know it.

Then, as time went on, I decided I'd feel better saying more, like "Hey! Cool shirt!" or something. Things start progressing from there, and it may take some time, but if you are shy, taking it slow is a really good way to start out. Trust me, you won't regret trying. At least you said hi, and wouldn't be wondering. Don't think negatively about it. Sure, he may just look at you, but that doesn't mean a thing. You never know. He may be just as shy as you.

And it gives you a chance to see if he's really what you would want, if he actually turned out to be bisexual. If he's straight, well at least you took the time to know him first.

[SirPostAlot]

haha yes thats true, haha, right now i just pass him and smile and then it like lights up my whole day (though he doesn't always smile back, haha)



see i KNOW i am blowing this well out of proportion - he probably has no interest but i just make it like there is...haha



~Jeff~

[Saren]

There's no harm in smiling, hun! <3 It's another friendly way of saying "hi!" Even a shy way. Don't worry! I have faith in you! I hope at least you get to become his friend, and that things work out all right. <3

Good luck!!

[Paris In Flames]

Smiling is a gorgeous way to tell somebody that you care.

[SirPostAlot]

haha well thats my thoguhts, too, but you know - sometimes people smile just to be polite - like "hey why are you looking at me? you are making me feel awkward, i'll just smile to show you hey stop looking at me but in a polite way. . . " haha



~Jeff~

[Saren]

Nooo, not unless you are a seriously crabby or snotty person who thinks they are higher than others. I don't think a smile "hints" at anything. Er, unless you are winking too

[SirPostAlot]

haha no not yet - haha but occationally i blow a kiss (haha, j/k )

i saw him today, but he didnt' look at me

he was on his way to class - so maybe he was preoccupied, or maybe he doesn't like me...haha



~Jeff~

[Paris In Flames]

haha no not yet - haha but occationally i blow a kiss (haha, j/k )

i saw him today, but he didnt' look at me

he was on his way to class - so maybe he was preoccupied, or maybe he doesn't like me...haha



~Jeff~

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Or maybe he doesn't know you well enough to like you?

[SirPostAlot]

haha perhaps that is too...

umm, one of these days i iwll get the courage to say something to him . . .

and when that day comes i will of course tell you all about it (haha i am such a female )



~Jeff~