Narcisistic Or Isolation
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Narcisistic Or Isolation
It's not wrong to want to tell people things and expect feedback is it? Well what about when you DO want them to tell you things too, but they won't/dont? Is it wrong to just to...want to be somebody's friend so much...? Does this seem narcisstitc (self-absorbed) or lonely- in the sense of someone wanting attention because they're not taken seriously or ignored?
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In case you hadn't noticed...4-letter words:
love - hate - true - life
"And there are voices
That want to be heard
So much to mention
But you can't find the words"
--Listen to Your Heart, DHT
I can't erase myself, but I can try to move on.
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turtbub
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Re: Narcisistic Or Isolation
So, if I understand, you want your friends to ask you for advice and vent to you, right?
No, that's not selfish, IF you're wanting it for the right reasons. Do you want them to vent to you so that you feel it's a more "balanced" relationship? So that you both depend on each other? If that's the reason, you're not selfish at all. You're just a good loving friend.
If you want it so that you don't feel guilty for venting, or you need to feel needed, then it is selfish and you need to step back and look at what you're doing.
But either way you have to remember that people are different. Some just can't vent. So don't push it.
Hope I helped.
No, that's not selfish, IF you're wanting it for the right reasons. Do you want them to vent to you so that you feel it's a more "balanced" relationship? So that you both depend on each other? If that's the reason, you're not selfish at all. You're just a good loving friend.
If you want it so that you don't feel guilty for venting, or you need to feel needed, then it is selfish and you need to step back and look at what you're doing.
But either way you have to remember that people are different. Some just can't vent. So don't push it.
Hope I helped."Our greatest glory is not in never falling, but in rising every time we fall." Confucius
Romans 5:8 "God demonstrates His own love toward us in that while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us."
"If you judge people, you have no time to love them." Mother Theresa
"A pessimist sees the difficulty in every opportunity; an optimist sees the opportunity in every difficulty." Sir Winston Churchill
There is no revenge so complete as forgiveness.
Romans 5:8 "God demonstrates His own love toward us in that while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us."
"If you judge people, you have no time to love them." Mother Theresa
"A pessimist sees the difficulty in every opportunity; an optimist sees the opportunity in every difficulty." Sir Winston Churchill
There is no revenge so complete as forgiveness.
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Re: Narcisistic Or Isolation
I hate it when you give yourself in a relationship of some sort, and they don't give their part...It's very unbalanced. If I tell my feelings to my friend, I expect her to tell her my feelings. If I do something for a friend, I expect that she would do the same for me. That makes the relationship balanced...
But no, I don't think it's selfish really.
But no, I don't think it's selfish really.
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